To want DH to stop sending me photos of things that displease him?

[Notasaruleno]

So - interests of fairness he is a decent man generally but he has this one habit that really puts my nose out of joint.

Say I have done something minor but I appreciate annoying he sends me a photo on WhatsApp, like a top left off a bottle or if the cat has killed a mouse (he hates cats) or similar. He just sends a photo, no accompanying message. I absolutely hate it, I think it’s really passive aggressive and I never know how or if to respond.

AIBU if I tell him to stop it?

I'd reply with a ? every time and force him to explain himself properly, then reply "Oh, is that all?"

How old is he OP? If he's relatively young and such a pedantic, miserable fucker just imagine what a unpleasant old man he's going to be. Good luck with that.

Absolutely. What a pathetic man he is.

Axe 🪓 emoji?

Why you haven't told him to never, EVER do this shit again is beyond me. I'd have killed him by now.

Much as I love all the suggestions for responses, I have to ask - I assume you have expressed your irritation at this ridiculous passive aggressive behaviour? In which case, how does he justify it?

Or, if you haven't, what have you been doing to date? Apologising?

I think if the latter, do the former - tell him how ridiculous and childish and passive aggressive this is and, if you've been apologising, STOP. If you have told him and he continues to do it, then you can either escalate to DefCon3 or you can use some of the more subtle and amusing suggestions provided on this thread. I'm torn between the picture of the cat with the middle finger and responding with a random picture of whatever is in front of you.

Im having an irritating work afternoon waiting for a response so this thread is a godsend. Picture of his face, or a random object near you, or even better the Dick van dyke photo 😂

Keep a roster of photos of small things he's done wrong so you can send one back every time and he might see how petty this is. Constant criticism is a great way to kill a relationship.

Why are you with a man who hates cats when you have a cat (that you presumably love)?

Yup, this is what I'd be doing.

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Oooh my ex (who is otherwise fairly reasonable) does that with ALL screw-top lids, and I’m wondering if there’s a genetic component as our son now does the same.

My own quirk is that I always give the milk a shake when I take it out of the fridge. You can imagine the results…

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THAT'S IT BRYAN! NOW I'M GOING TO KILL YOU

🦵 it

I'd leave someone who hated cats so Im not the best person to answer

Same. No one needs that kind of negativity in their life.

Well, as a 🐶 person 🤷🏼‍♂️... but I wouldn't hate a 🙀

I would however 🤽🏿‍♀️🪓 as i think passive aggression should be met with active aggression. For learning and healing.

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I love the responses, but my personal approach to passive aggressiveness is to ignore it - ideally leading to then using their words, but even if they decide to stew in bitter resentment forever, that is generally done quietly and I can ignore that too

How about this one?

Maybe it's his idea of 4play
Send something random back

@Notasaruleno get a pic of his angry avatar to send every time he sends a pic to you!!!

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That's weird OP! It's just loke he is tracking every little thing he perceives is wrong about you. I can honestly tell you of my DH did that I'd block him and tell him why "because you're a dick!"