To want DH to stop sending me photos of things that displease him?

[Notasaruleno]

So - interests of fairness he is a decent man generally but he has this one habit that really puts my nose out of joint.

Say I have done something minor but I appreciate annoying he sends me a photo on WhatsApp, like a top left off a bottle or if the cat has killed a mouse (he hates cats) or similar. He just sends a photo, no accompanying message. I absolutely hate it, I think it’s really passive aggressive and I never know how or if to respond.

AIBU if I tell him to stop it?

I'd do this. He's ridiculous, and if it would make my fanjo wince.

This actually hits the spot but I'm ROFL.

Next time he sends a photo:

"Did you mean to send this to me?"

That's absolutely awful

So many excellent suggestions on this thread, I would find it hard to pick one.

Photos of cats, videos of cats, memes of cats, gifs of cats
Every single time

I agree with the peeps that say reply with a pic of a cat, but I wouldn't send a pic of the pretty end .... I'd also put a 'cats balls' calendar on my shopping list for Xmas for him

id sent a photo back of whatever is in front of me too. A chair, a cup etc. if he asks why reply with you presumed this is what we were doing

You could send him book recommendations from amazon
Maybe start with
"Don't sweat the small stuff" then search for books with titles like
"How to make friends"
"Am i being annoying"
"Does anybody like me"
And
"Long time dead"

Moving onto
"Quick low cost divorces"
And "Being alone"

🤷🏻‍♀️

My ever so helpful suggestion would be to send back one of those 'sad face' photos from a tabloid each time. I'm very petty indeed so I would find a good selection of them, screenshot them, crop them and put them all in their own folder on my phone for quick access. Every time he sends a photo, send a sad face pic right back immediately. Preferably a different one each time.

Send a message Tom the cat. ' you're so ungrateful. It took me all morning to find a gift for you!!'

It's the "hates your cat" I'm more worried about! If you're not there is he horrible to it? Sounds like a charmer.

This definitely!

Send him this.

Anyone who does things like this is a complete cunt.

Either do the 👍 or tell him it’s fucking annoying and depending how he responds then reply with things like a cat/dog/anything puking.

I wouldn't be sending him a thumbs up emoji.

The 🍑 emoji!

Send him this. Every. Time

Send him a link each time to a property on Rightmove he might fancy moving to

What an absolute cock.
Id be tempted to devise a series of month long runs of reply photos.
EG -
Month 1 - Cast members of Dawsons Creek
Month 2 - Candid photos of Vladimir Putin
Month 3 - Torville and Dean
Month 4 - Geese
Month 5 - Moustaches of yesteryear
Month 6 - Y-fronts
Month 7 - Caitlyn Jenner
Month 8 - Nutscapes (see google)
Month 9 - Stills from Carry On Camping
Month 10 - Pandas falling over
Month 11 - Celebrities yawning
Month 12 - Divorce papers, in case he hasnt got the fucking point yet.

This thread is why I come to Mumsnet.

If you fancy the delightful idea of sending local paper sadfaces in return, you can find a good selection here http://apiln.blogspot.com/?m=1

My god. My husband is far from perfect but every day on here I find myself thanking my lucky stars.