To want DH to stop sending me photos of things that displease him?

[Notasaruleno]

So - interests of fairness he is a decent man generally but he has this one habit that really puts my nose out of joint.

Say I have done something minor but I appreciate annoying he sends me a photo on WhatsApp, like a top left off a bottle or if the cat has killed a mouse (he hates cats) or similar. He just sends a photo, no accompanying message. I absolutely hate it, I think it’s really passive aggressive and I never know how or if to respond.

AIBU if I tell him to stop it?

Is this real? You ask on here before just telling him to stop it?

Why?

@OhamIreally Or this one, total judgement and complete indifference in one look, right there! 🤣🤣🤣

You read my mind. 😆

Resend the messages back! & tell him to deal with it! Cheeky git

I absolutely love this!

My husband does this stupid photo thing too! I really hate it. Caused a lot of rows but he doesn't grasp that it’s a childish passive aggressive infantile thing to do.

I occasionally intend to send something similar back as a photo WhatsApp, ie when he’s left a dirty cup in the sitting room overnight, or his dinner plate in the dining room for me to clear away, but I frankly can't be bothered.

Some good ideas here though, some for me to try with him!

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Stop him?
I think I would LTB to be honest. 😡

This made me piss me pants. 😂
My fella is just like OPs husband and does shit like this regularly so I can sympathise. It came as a surprise as I thought he was super chill when we first met. Turns out he's the opposite. He puts sticky notes up which I ignore and my bf won't come to my house because she wants to chin him. 🙄

He sounds like a dick.

I like the response that suggested you send a "thumbs up" emoji, every time he sends you a photo.

But at some time you two need to have a discussion about communication styles.

How much of a problem it is, depends on how frequently he sends these photos.

And what he does, other than send photos, which anooys you.

He’s a bit of a dick tbh! It’s like he’s doing it as a control freak. Tell him to stop it!

I'd send him a gif of a door slamming with 'this is my vagina' every time he does it

Mabey you are one of the only people he can vent to

My ex did this too. Photographed everything i did 'wrong'... left a dirty dish, wrote a shopping list, ironed a shit. He would take pictures and send it to people to rudicule me. He sent some to social services who asked why he didn't pick up the washing (his) by the washing basket. Hes completely bat shit crazy.

Send him a picture of Rick Astley each time :-)

Do this.

You should let your BF chin him.

Then the two of you together could pack the belongings of this miserable little turd and throw them out.

Life is too short to spend with someone this mean.

I can't imagine a "decent man" doing that I'm afraid-there has to be something seriously wrong with him.
Who on earth does he think he is? Things that displease are part of human life-he needs to get over himself-or put his analyst on danger money, now.
Should he refuse-divorce lawyer even faster.

Ha I think you're me! He'd be finding bottle tops in random places for months! 😂

If he sends you pics of a dead mouse just say "Oh I guess Jerry lost that one didn't he" and reply with a picture of a grinning cat.

If he sends you pics of a pen missing a top reply and say "How much do you think the missing posters will be".

Top left off bottle put a speech bubble on the image as if the liquid is speaking "I need to breathe too".

Just start getting sarcastic when he does it, it stopped my husband. He hasn't done it since he sent me a pic of the Kerb with weeds in, clearly expecting me to weed it. But in the background was his car on the pavement so I replied "Facebook Messenger has detected a crime in the image you sent and has forwarded the image to the relevant authorities". Then the next day he ironically got a ticket for parking on pavement so is now adamant I did it. Which I didn't. We all stagger our cars normally but on bin day they have to be parked on pavement otherwise bin wagon refused to empty bins. (We have an exception letter from council for bin day from 7pm the night before to 7pm that night. Hubby just has no understanding that bins don't get collected every day and has to park in exact same spot each day.

This should do !!!

That just made me spit my tea out, I was mid mouthful when I read it!

Put all the pictures into a photo book and give it to him for Christmas 😁

I like this one, please use this idea. Educational and hopefully annoying for him!

Yep! I agree with TinyGingerCat. What does he think he will achieve by showing you what he does not like???
What are you supposed to do, rush home to put the top on? Grovel an apology and promise not to do it again?? Where does he get off pointing out what HE does not like?
I must admit, I would just ignore them, and tell him if he persists, you will block him. Tell him that he has an attitude problem that needs fixing. His rudeness is not acceptable.

I was meant to quote the one with random facts about the picture he sent!

I also like the idea of putting all the pics into an album and giving it him for Christmas!