Guy lied about which university he went to

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We were talking about our backgrounds etc. And he told me he'd been to the 'uni of' of the town, which has a good rep.
I live pretty much next door to that uni so I asked him if he'd lived in halls close by.
He said no he'd lived in an area in the South of the city as his campus was based there.
The area he mentioned is a very nice, affluent neighbourhood and I had a look at the campus.
It turns out the 'uni of' doesn't have a campus there, it's the 'poly' that has a campus there.
I couldn't care less what uni he went to or even if he went to uni, I went to one of these so-called 'lesser' unis for my masters and I think in the grand scheme of things nobody really cares where you went, the right people wouldn't anyway.
However, the lying is a red flag for me. I get it was maybe to try and impress me or that he felt embarrassed, but the lying makes me uncomfortable. Would you say this is a red flag?

If he was an habitual liar he’d be better at it. Why tell an untruth that is so easily checked?

I think a deliberate Oxford/Oxford Brookes elision says something I’d be bothered about; but anywhere else could be more to do with emphasising the location? If it was UWE, for example, you might decide halfway through that the fact it was in Bristol is more important.

Cringe!

Is it Oxford vs Oxford brooks??

If I liked him I’d give him a chance, it’s not particularly attractive but I can see how an insecure person might slightly flex the truth

This was my understanding.

If he was lying theb mentioning the campus name shows that he’s not a very good liar so he’ll trip himself up again with another lie quickly.

The building that I went to lectures in is now owned and used by a completely different non uni college so just be sure that went the campus set up was the same for both unis as it is now.

I say bail on him. What else will he be fibbing about later if you actually have a relationship? Also, sounds like he is insecure. So bail now.

LOL!!!!

Am i the only one who thinks it is odd that you looked it up? Have i misread that? Are you not the one with the red flag?

Doubt it. She’d have asked which college, and he would absolutely have had to fess up.

I went out with one like this.

said he voted labour. Then said he voted Tory.

Said he was a director of the company he worked at. Saw his email signature and he wasn’t.

He was a people pleaser and lied as to what he thought I wanted to hear. Nightmare.

True, indeed.

My daughter went to Oxford brooks - I tend to say she did a masters in Oxford , at Oxford Brooks but I'm exceptionally honest and might feel I seas misleading

Salford Poly merged with Salford uni 30 years ago and immediately increased their uni status overnight due to the existing poly media opportunities

I do believe it’s one of the reasons media city is now in Salford.

Oh! Not good.

It's especially a huge red flag when it comes to politics too!

Oh give over. If you’re asked where you did your degree and you replied “York” it would generally be assumed you went to the University of York, regardless of whether you went there or York St John University.

@Itloggedmeoutagain In the 80s or whenever, when most of your dates were friends of friends, of course you didn't bother checking their background.

In 2024, when most people meet online and have ZERO mutual connections, of course you Google their name/check what they are saying about themselves, especially if you have a gut feeling. They could literally be anyone. You would be very naive not to.

OP sensed something about what he said was odd. So she checked it. That's not odd, that's self-preservation.

I think the way he worded it was ambiguous and you made an assumption. Personally I wouldn’t see that alone as a red flag, but insecurity/possible low self esteem this early on would be a pink one for me

Is it Sheffield , people often joke about hallam being a poly but it's not meant in any seriousness

I meant looked up the campus lectures not looked him up

My OH has just laughed a lot at this, as I asked him if he was absolutely sure that he went to Columbia and not the Universidad de Medellín.

Saying “the uni of” is a strange way of describing a uni, I would think from this sentence that they were trying to inflate their story.

You'd always say Uni/University of Nottingham. If someone said they'd been to Nottingham University I'd instantly think it was a lie.

Generally if someone says to me they've went to University in Nottingham, I'd ask Nottingham Nottingham or Trent? It's not snobbishness, Trent has a really good reputation for some things but no point reminiscing with someone who went somewhere else!

Definitely sounds like Liverpool Hope, as a pp said. It is known for being a former polytechnic but it’s now a great uni in its own right.
My ex told me he was studying at the “uni of” (Liverpool) when we were together, it was years later that I found out he’d actually failed his A-levels and had been at community college. Bit shady as he’d looked down at my uni of choice.

No. Once again, you misunderstood.