Guy lied about which university he went to

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We were talking about our backgrounds etc. And he told me he'd been to the 'uni of' of the town, which has a good rep.
I live pretty much next door to that uni so I asked him if he'd lived in halls close by.
He said no he'd lived in an area in the South of the city as his campus was based there.
The area he mentioned is a very nice, affluent neighbourhood and I had a look at the campus.
It turns out the 'uni of' doesn't have a campus there, it's the 'poly' that has a campus there.
I couldn't care less what uni he went to or even if he went to uni, I went to one of these so-called 'lesser' unis for my masters and I think in the grand scheme of things nobody really cares where you went, the right people wouldn't anyway.
However, the lying is a red flag for me. I get it was maybe to try and impress me or that he felt embarrassed, but the lying makes me uncomfortable. Would you say this is a red flag?

It's a white lie or not even that, just a lie by omission.

Are you dating Jeffrey Archer? 😂

We have different red lines, which is fine, but I grew up with liars and I can't abide pretentions, so I disagree. And happily, I'm not in the OP's position!

I never went to university but I always thought Oxford Brookes was a cool place to go. Lots of gigs of bands I liked going on there when I was a skint teenager who couldn't afford tickets! I grew up not far from Oxford and now I'm near Cambridge. 😊 My family did not disown me for that betrayal. 😁

So if you ask someone how they are and they say 'fine' when they're not, do you dismiss them too, after all a lie is a lie in your book isn't it?
Even when it's totally harmless?

Are you twelve?

I had a friend who would respond "anglia Ruskin" when asked which university he attended. If someone asked where he went to university he said "Cambridge". He wasn't trying to pretend he went to Cambridge, he just thought people were more interested in talking about life in the city where they went to university. If it's Oxford Brookes it's hardly embarrassing. I work in post grad. Several students went there and are now doing masters funded by the formula 1 teams they work for.

No, are you?
You're the one who claims not to care about someone's education, but give people dirty looks when they're not totally specific about something they did many years ago.

For anyone saying I'd judge him, I said in my OP that I went to one of the 'lower ranking ' unis for my Master's, and as I said I couldn't care less which uni he went to. I'd find it really odd to turn someone down based on what uni they attended .

He's probably hoping to impress you or at least not embarrass himself because he likes you. A minor mistake in my book.

He didn't say he went to uni in X city, he specifically said "I went to the uni of". Anyway I'll let it slide, I'm just worried there could be future lies.

Read again. SHE gave ME the dirty look. lol

He lies. If he lies about small stuff like this it will be the tip of the iceberg. This would really put me off. I think if you stay with him and look back thinking you should have read the sign

So basically he said "I went to university of Mancester" where as in reality he went to Manchester metropolitan University.

Unless he says "I went to university in Mancester" then that's technically true. When I got into Anglia Ruskin my dad was rooting for me (as a joke) to go there cause htne he could say I was going to Cambridge 😅

Anyway, it is a bit shit to lie about it and shows how insecure he is. I do find it to be a red flag that he cares about perception this much.

It's an amber flag. Keep a look out for the reds.

Not sure really. When you see it written down it doesn't seem a big deal. But I guess if I was in a relationship with someone and realised they lied it would put me right off them. But I'd also not bother checking up on someone's university claims/ the area they said they lived in. Thats a bit weird.

It is kind of weird. And very immature. I've never been all that impressed by the university someone attended. Oxford and Cambridge are different, I admit. They have their own entrance exams, and it really does take something to get in. You also have to sweat blood for the degree. Other than Oxford and Cambridge, however, no other university impresses me much. The most intelligent girl I ever knew went to East London, which is near the bottom of the league tables.

The most interesting people are the ones who truly love their subject and continue reading and studying it after their degree is finished. I have met awful people who worked like hell in their teens just for the kudos of being at a top ten university. But they had no real interest in literature or philosophy. They just wanted to boast about having been to Warwick, or wherever. As soon as they graduated, they put their books away and spent the rest of their life immersed in social media and celebrity gossip.

I've noted that about Lecister uni's - one is supposed to be better than the other from the rants I've heard from the few people that wnet there. Those that have been to the lesser repected one are often vague and just say they are a uni - when asked which one they just say "leicester" rather than the full name

IMO, it does not really matter which uni you enjoy your life in, its the subject you take and what it can offer you when you leave and hopefully repay your debt.

"worried" - why waste your life when you are so young - forget the "worry" and move on

I think you’re being pedantic. When people ask me where I went to uni, I just say the city. But I did in fact go to the lesser known uni.

People wouldn’t know where it was if I said the name, it’s not a snobby thing, the main uni isn’t that good either.

This is not a red flag.

It's not really clear how you know he is lying. Is it because, as far as you know, the "Uni of X" that he said he went to doesn't have any buildings or halls in the area that he was referring to?

If you are concerned about future lies already then don't waste his or your time with this and move on.

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You wrote that you deliberately caught her eye, I presume to try to make her feel bad.

Absolutely. He needs to run.

OP, if it's Liverpool, we have Uni of Liverpool and John Moores (poly).

University of Liverpool used to have Carnatic Halls of residence in the south side of the city between Aigburth and Allerton and it was just down the road from the old/former John Moores 'IM Marsh' Campus too, the Uni also used to have a few off-site campus venues across Aigburth/Allerton areas, as well as across different sites in the wider city.

So maybe he's not lying. When did he graduate?