DD angry at mature student for inappropriate email

[KeepCalmPlease]

NC just in case.
Daughter is angry this eve as a mature student on her course has mistakenly replied all to the class, instead of just her lecturer. In the email, apparently they brag about finishing their assigned work early, and then flirt about a shared hobby with lecturer. Daughter wants to bring this up formally with the institution along with other friends of hers. I haven't seen the email so I'm not sure what "flirting" is but I suspect the mature student, being older, just shares a hobby with lecturer (and likes being teachers pet).
My advice to her is just ignore the mistake, keep your head down and make sure your own work is done. AIBU?

I'm not sure why DD is so exasperated by this. I'm sure many emails fly about all day in academia.

The majority are not paid back in full.

I think ‘busybody’ is a very apt word.

OP, it’s one thing getting involved when it’s a safeguarding issue but I don’t think it would be good for your dd to make a habit of going down the busybody route. Next thing she’s knows she’s the work jobsworth and no one wants one of those.

“While most borrowers will repay at least some of their loan, the income contingent nature of the loans means only 27% of full-time undergraduate higher education borrowers starting a course in 2022/23 are expected to repay their loan in full.“

https://explore-education-statistics.service.gov.uk/find-statistics/student-loan-forecasts-for-england

I hate to disappoint you but no, they are not paid back. Very few student loans are repaid. Sometimes a smidge is shaved off here and there, but virtually no student loans are ever paid back.

The capital is hardly ever eroded.

Your DD needs to grow up and realise she is an adult now. Crikey, how will she cope in the real world. Agree with a PP when they said would come across as a bit of a tit is she complained.

When I was a student in medieval times, one of the lecturers started a relationship with a mature student of 35 on our course, eventually getting married. Other than being very happy for them, no one gave a shit.

Totally agree with you. When I finish work I plan on gaining a degree funded by a student loan. Education is not just for the youngsters!

Source?

When you finish work? As in after retirement? Don’t expect full maintenance loan and how are you paying it back?

Yes and I do plan on retiring at 50, won’t need a maintenance loan and don’t expect I will ever work again to pay back the tuition fee!

need more context than that. Not paying it back in full doesn’t mean they haven’t paid a significant chunk bank. Also degrees tend to lead to higher rates of employment, tax paid etc.

The older generations are also more likely to complete degrees in areas of shortfall, teaching, nursing etc so the benefit of them completing the job and working in that field far outweighs not paying loan back in full - also note that nurses earn less than the threshold to pay back which is pretty gross in its own right.

Now that I do want sourced. Happy to accept that a decent chunk don’t pay it back in full but hardly ever seems unlikely.

“Teacher’s pet”?
That’s so deeply immature to call anyone “Teacher’s pet” - like farcically so.

The mature student is probably keen, closer to the lecturer in age and heck, wanting to “ Report “is just nuts.

The student or lecturer have done nothing wrong.

Oh well at least I know you have a crappy pension.

Student loans were a ridiculous idea, they're an extra tax on the poor (the richest students stick them in high interest accounts & their parents pay their debts)

That's not really true. The poor and 'disadvantaged' often get grants and bursaries which can see their whole course paid for, so they start off better off than many students from middle class backgrounds. Only the very rich will end up with no student debt at all thanks to Mummy and Daddy. Most moderately well off parents will supplement their childrens' loans to pay their rent or whatever, but still expect them to take the loans on and to pay them back.

It's the squeezed middle who really suffer. Parents not poor enough for the student to get any extra help beyond the basic level of loans, parents still expected to stump up extra to help with accommodation costs, but not rich enough for that to not hurt, and not rich enough to pay down their child's debt for them at some point in the future either.

This thread is going off topic. I thought I’d mistakenly stumbled into a student loan thread?

How and why do I have an crappy pension? Explain please.

Because if you don’t then you’re paying it back. Better start researching eh.

Ummm, still don’t understand why I have a crappy pension, expand please. Thank you for your advice to research, my financial affairs are in good order thanks and very healthy. Looking forward to going to uni!

Because if it was a healthy pension you would know that you will be paying the loan back into retirement and beyond. How are you planning on living? Self assessments etc count toward repayment. Unless you’re planning on retiring and living off less than the threshold (crappy pension) for the rest of your life you’re paying it back.

If the student did send a flirty email to their lecturer then they have done something wrong, that's completely inappropriate. Nothing to do with OP's DD and something I'm sure the lecturer can shut down, but still very much not ok.

Don’t worry yourself with my financial situation. I will be just fine and will be having a great time.

One of four things is true.

Your pension is crap.
You live off someone else.
You will be paying it back.
You have no idea what you’re talking about.

What you are not doing is retiring with a good pension and not paying a loan back.