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Female colleague calling and texting partner all the time

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N12251234 · 08/04/2024 22:05

So I’ve been with my husband for 10 years, married for 3. We have a 3 month old baby together.

Just before we conceived our child my husband got a new female colleague. He works 12 hour shifts with her 2 out of the 4 shifts he does in a week. She is 23 and single. We are both in our early 30’s. To begin with he didn’t really like this girl, called her annoying and some other not so nice things. Then as they began to work together more they became good friends. I just want to make it clear that I don’t think he is cheating with her or anything like that.

My issue is, I think she is being a bit disrespectful and so is he. They text each other all the time, send Snapchat pictures to each other, and she calls him at least once every day. Sometime several times a day. He often has her on speaker so I know the chat is innocent. She will literally call just to tell him what she’s eaten for lunch that day. She did this all throughout my pregnancy and when I had just given birth. My partner doesn’t see the issue and just sees her as being friendly and he said it would be rude to tell her to stop as they are good friends.

I just feel like a young single female shouldn’t be messaging and calling a married man who has just had a baby all the time. Am I being unreasonable to ask him to tell her to back off a little.

OP posts:
hotpotlover · 21/05/2024 10:28

I've just read your update.

What a lying shitbag bastard your ex is.

His affair partner has low morals too, but you should be glad that she took the trash out for you.

Merryoldgoat · 21/05/2024 10:51

Honestly @N12251234 you are inspiring.

Well done for not allowing this arsehole to get away with his utter bollocks.

JFDIYOLO · 21/05/2024 10:59

Bet she finds having is not the same thing as wanting.

If it lasts, she'll be wanting a baby - and he'll do it all over again.

If it collapses, he will probably come crawling back.

Do not accept.

Allofaflutter · 21/05/2024 18:37

I would make sure everyone knows anyway!

Allofaflutter · 21/05/2024 18:46

The excitement of it being secret soon wears off and the reality of his dirty pants on the floor and him paying CM soon hits her.

BigMandsTattooPortfolio · 21/05/2024 21:21

And the fact that he’s a coward who abandoned his wife and baby. Not to mention his description of ow as ‘simple.’

What a fucking top prize he is?

DogJog · 21/05/2024 21:46

It might get not feel like it, but you've done amazingly. You can do this now, you know what you're handing over and this isn't a man you'd ever want to hang onto. Keep focussing on your glowing future, which will come. Believe me.

Ihearyousingingdownthewire · 21/05/2024 21:50

I’m still absolutely reeling that he has done this to you and your tiny, tiny baby. He is such an utter cunt and a total failure of a man and father, that I can’t adequately articulate it.

How can he put her above his new baby, let alone his wife?! He is such an embarrassment. I cannot wait for him to realise that…

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