To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

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Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

I'm worried about DS(9) and his ASD traits. I'm worried he doesn't/won't have real friendships and that he breaks down at the smallest things that go wrong.

I hate work, I don't seem to have a clear role anymore and don't feel part of a team.

I have several relatives in my extended family who are unwell and I worry about my mum and the effect it is having/will have on her.

I know in Ireland there is always free sites freecycle local Facebook groups that regularly put up free clothing toys etc.

could you place an add requesting clothing ages etc in your local church/shops/community centre.

Wishing you good positive results for you and your family. 💕

ZekeZeke, hi I used up all my physio allowance on my health plan within 3-4 months. So I cancelled that health plan & got another plan & am now using that for physio as I need it every 2 weeks too.

My worsening Parkinson’s, 7 years in at nearly 62, too much too son.
No real breakthroughs tho, it seems all about cancer, which is very frustrating

Feeling like the best years of my life are over, my life path has been determined by decisions in my early twenties and I’m on a trajectory where my world is just getting smaller and life harder.

Mid-thirties. My dad has dementia and really mistreats my lovely mum which is just awful to see and it’s hard to really know the full extent of it. It feels like I’m experiencing that role reversal where I’m now more worried about them and feel I have to see them every weekend because I feel so bad for my mum. I’ve moved back from London to live near them which feels like a big step back in my life.

I also feel overweight and unattractive like you OP. Have gained 10kg in the last 2 years after never really struggling with my weight before, suddenly got deep lines on my head and generally bad skin, just feel ugly.

My husband is desperate for a baby and has been for years and I know time on my biological clock is running out. I always thought I’d have kids one day but just never felt ready and I still don’t as I feel like I’ll lose myself and my life even more and my world will get smaller still. I’m also so busy and exhausted I don’t understand how it will fit into our lives. But I worry it could ruin our relationship after 10 years together, it’s hard for him to understand how I still keep putting it off.

Ive struggled to maintain friendships over the years, my job is incredibly intense, I’m very introverted (and I think undiagnosed autistic) and I just don’t have the energy to keep in touch with people a lot of the time which means I now feel lonely and like the friendships I have haven’t been nurtured enough to truly feel like close bonds.

Awful Sciatica that literally came on overnight , 3 months ago.
The pain is excruciating, and I speak as someone who has had quite a few operations over the years.
its stopping me from leading a normal life.

One of my children has been waiting for an operation since 2021, 2 don't sleep through the night and 2 are waiting for an asd assessment. One is starting secondary school in September and he has learning disabilities. He is so vulnerable and wants to be helpful and I'm scared some gang of older kids will use him to deliver drugs.

But despite all of that I think if I could fix one thing it will be wishing I look like I did when I was 19 (so 10 stone lighter basically), but with loads of energy.

Financial uncertainty - redundancy looming, interviews bombed and altogether a financial ticking time bomb just as the utility bills looked to be going down.

I was with cahms 5 yrs before she was diagnosed. She doesn't belive she is neuro diverse so won't talk to anyone.
She couodnt handle the bullying, she is in absolute burnout.
She's recovering but I have no idea what the future looks like.
Mental health services are inadequate but also problematic when she won't admit she has problems and doesn't trust anyone to help.

Had a good cry reading some of the posts here. I am so sorry to hear about some of the things everyone is going through. Life really is so difficult 😞

Currently pregnant. 3rd pregnancy, but with 2 losses. Baby is doing well, but I have high blood pressure and am under a lot of stress at work. My anxiety levels are pretty much through the roof, with worrying about losing this one and with work. I will also be an older mum (late 30s), so that also plays on my mind.

my neighbourhood is awful we moved here 7 months ago, so far we have been ousted by the community, driven by one neighbour who insists on making footpaths through our land, it is a stressful nightmare, I am at my wits end. We are planning to sort the problem and move again. All things will pass as they say, and this will too

...and I would pack up and leave if I could, like ,,,now

I am genuinely going to pray for every single one of you facing worry and pain tonight. To all those who say they feel fat and ugly: you are not, believe me. The brain often plays tricks to make your eyes see what they "want" to see in the mirror. If you take a photo now and look at it five years later, you will be astonished at how great you looked back then. In any case, beauty comes from the inside and you all must be lovely, caring, gentle people.

I felt like you two years ago. People would tell me I would meet someone. I felt like they were lying to my face. I would cry at parties and gatherings with jealousy of what others had.
I married the most perfect man three days ago. It will happen. I'm rooting for you

Is it Cornwall or Devon by any chance?

I knew a lovely couple who settled in Cornwall {From a rural place elsewhere in the Country} and it was so unwelcoming and awful.

They moved back to where they were originally from and seem so much happier.

If it's your land, can't you kick the blighter off? - It's very rude to walk across someone's land without permission if there isn't a footpath there.

Maybe get a Ram on loan - Rams are very territorial.

See ''Angry Ram'' ''Rambro''. {He's now sadly RIP, but his son lives on.

Just want to acknowledge the posts and the pain Youve candidly shared. The relentlessness of it all
No solutions just I see you

Being a late diagnosed autistic adult woman, single parent, to an autistic child.

I'm not even 30, but I feel like I can't go on at work.

I work from home, I work part time, I'm entirely in control of my environment, but I feel like workplaces purposefully put barriers in place to weed the weak and disabled out.

My current employer routinely does an annual business reshuffle, will only approve 12 month flexible working agreements for people, and then declines the renewals on business grounds and you have to put up a massive fight to try and get your needs met again.

I just don't have the fight in me any more to explain over and over again why it's important I get my needs met, and that I'm not just being that woman.

This is the sixth job in my adult life I've had to justify this, and even when I win, it's not enough. The accomodations allow me to just about keep enough stamina to camoflage so my disability doesn't disadvantage any one else.

I've tried office work, I've tried working from home, I've tried retail work, I've tried service work, I've tried a lot of different kinds of work and I just can't do it.

On top of that, my son isn't in school full time, and even if he were I'd need wrap around care which he's unlikely to get approved for because he's got quite significant support needs as he becomes overwhelmed easily and has no sense of danger and is extremely resourceful and cunning, but with very little reciprocative language, and he definitely couldn't tell an adult about me or his caregivers if he was ever lost.

I obviously didn't plan on becoming a burnt out single parent, and before I got pregnant I didn't know I was autistic, I just thought I had a lower resilience than other people and I could just try harder and eventually I would be ok.

There's no support out there. I don't think I meet the requirements for PIP, I'm on universal credit but because I'm part time, and off sick with burnout again, they're keen to get me job hunting with weekly visits to an illuminated office with people who don't care about me or my circumstances to be penalised if I fail to comply.

Losing my dream home with my horses at home due to the cost of living and covid redundancy which never got us the same salary. Our home is one we have renovated with blood, sweat and tears and someone else will enjoy it.

Had to show people round yesterday and today and it’s gutting.

I lay in bed and cry. It comes off the back of losing a parent too.

I’m so anxious I barely sleep.

This is a good one. I think sadly it would have to be money related. I’m trying to make the leap and put everything into my small business and quit my job but between trying to physically run it with young kids and having to constantly shelve out yet more money for stock without actually seeing the benefits yet, it does feel like a losing battle. I just wish we had enough money to comfortably afford the food shopping without having to check my bank app in the queue to see how close to -£500 we are 🤦🏻‍♀️

Fat and unfit
leaving H and divorce
setting up a business as money will be tight with the split

It’s actually tragically refreshing to read about everyone’s hard times on here. I really do hope for the best possible outcome for all these worrying situations you are facing. It’s refreshing not to read a thread about people having 4 holidays booked and just finding life a breeze though when my day to day life isn’t like that generally

It really puts things into perspective doesn't it. Thinking of all those who are really struggling for whatever reasons.

And in 4 simple words you stop my heart. I pray that you have support in facing this and that your child recovers.

Relationship with dp is pants and it effects everything. I wish I could leave, keep dc with me, and they be OK with it.