To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

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Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

Confused about current relationship. Feels a little dead.

Getting a job. I handed in my notice with no job to go to because things had got really bad and it was detroying my mental health!

I did this last year with nothing to go to. It took a few months but have ended up with a better job and lovely colleagues now. I hope things work out for you.

I hope you don’t mind me commenting but wanted to say that I have felt like this in the past. After my most recent relationship ended I have put a lot of effort into rekindling friendships, contacting people I like but don’t see much of and that kind of thing. It has meant my network of friends has grown and I am starting to feel less lonely.

My husband has just been made redundant. He's the breadwinner and we have a 1yo and a 3yo.

I've had chronic pain for 6 years now. It's exhausting, and I just can't accept that my life has changed so much. I can't exercise at all, which is how I stave off depression. The same depression that once stopped my heart beating. I'm scared of what the future holds.

But some of the problems here do make me grateful for my own. Sending love and strength to all those who need it ❤️

Everyone verbally understanding that I am ridiculously busy atm, but their actions show they dont understand it at all, and they keep adding things to my to do list...

Don’t give up hope. I did this too and just got a new job and can’t wait to start. Is it a career that you could tell us and someone who knows that career could suggest alternatives? X

I posted something similar to you. A friend of mine has fully paid off her mortgage and has just turned 40 and here I am paying stupid high rent and have none left to save. Worries me everyday!

'Cupofteaandbiscuits' I have three months notice to find a job on I'm sure it will sort itself out but it is worrying me because I'm usually a 'safe' type of person!

Are you a teacher by any chance?

Me too, mines age 12 and doesn't go to school, won't talk to professionals and I'm fighting for her to get outside education. She is audhd, has ocds and low self esteem.
All I seem to do is fight
It's relentless...
I have no life myself ..
Had to give up work
I don't resent her, I resent the system
This country is broken
I fear for her future as she only has me.

What a heartbreaking thread, I'm so sorry for those of you who are really struggling. It's not much but I'm sending you a hug from this wee chunky Scottish wifey via the wonders of the www.

I'm very lucky in that after an absolutely horrendous childhood, I met my DH when we were still teenagers at school together. Luckily we were able to retire a bit early and we are so thankful for that.

I have daily pain due to a progressively deteriorating spine, I'm worried about my brother's mental health (suicidal ideation) and DH has several health conditions too, but my God we are so lucky. 💐💐

Money, constantly worrying about money, my partner seems to be oblivious. Have to somehow afford nursery and it keeps me up at night. Housing situation, want the best for my DD but feel trapped in my one bed apartment. Desperately failing my DD and upset about it.

As with so many posts on here, I just don't know what to say, other than that I'm sorry – sorry with all my heart. So, so sorry.😪x

This is one savage and raw thread. It would be worth printing it off and keeping a copy. Every time we feel sorry for ourselves, or hard done by, we should read it through. No matter how much I see of life, its horror still takes my breath away.

I've booked a big holiday for next year and don't know how I'm going to pay for it!

Thanks, I actually have a lot of friends but it's not the same as a relationship for me I'm afraid.

Same as always the worry landlord will sell..
And exactly the same..friends paying off mortgages and I can't even get one.

My mum’s dementia. Rules my life even though virtually everything else is near on perfect. Has done for last 2 years. I love her and will do/have done everything I can but it isn’t enough.

Also have nieces and nephews about to buy in 20s and I can't in 50s...hugely depressing

Currently....
Grief I think.
4 deaths in a short span.
The last one just a month ago. Cancer is an absolute fucker 😪
Currently not dealing with any of it.
Hermit, overweight, smoking too much, eating shite.
Not making GP appts for important stuff because I actually don't give a fuck.
My only child bleeds me dry, heaps their shit on me then gives me vile messages.
I blocked them.
I hate this life.
(NC for this)
Hugs for those who want them 🤗

Weight.
My broken back in 4 places that hospital is dismissive of.

Husband has cancer and is depressed by life in general.
I'm still avoiding driving and keep making excuses to walk or bus everywhere instead, despite car parked outside...phobic avoidance setting in.
But on bright side my ASD son is out the other side of an EHCP (to all those wrestling with SEN applications) and in final year at uni, sociable, motivated, happy.
House is always a state of mess but I try and do tiny bits now instead of just feeling paralysed ...it used to be one of my biggest problems ...now not so important. We survived the mess and had fun.

A new massive eye floater appeared in late February and I keep thinking about it. It’s making me not want to go on holiday.

I love my 6 month old daughter but it’s hard work and I’m struggling to get things done. I don’t have enough time with my husband since she was born.

I don’t qualify for a mortgage as a freelancer but really want to but a house to feel more secure. Currently stuck renting. Nervous about money as everything is becoming so expensive.

My autistic dd11 unable to attend school due to ebsa.

We were so lucky to get a diagnosis quickly for DS - by which I mean we were only on the waiting list for a year, but now everything is dropping away, with them all listing all the other interventions we're supposedly having as reasons why we don't need their particular service.

And we still have a ten year old who hates himself and wants to die.

The system is completely inadequate and is falling children.