To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

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Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

Having read other posts on here that are so v sad it makes me realise that not owning a home isn't a massive thing.. sorry

DP's chronic mental health problems and his autism.
Getting older and not being able to work as much as I used to.
Being fat with ugly, water-filled legs that need heavy stretch stockings.

I never thought my life could get this hard, my darling husband of 34 years died of a stroke after i nursed him with Parkinsons for 7 years, I went into deep shock and the rare illness i have called Bechets disease caused me to go deaf and affected nearly all my joints so i struggle to walk, i have horrible ulcers all over my mouth and genitals, my teeth are falling out and i'm losing my sight very gradually, the painkillers make me drowsy and i've just had a telephone review from PIP, being grilled for over an hour even though i struggled to hear her, i really need this money to live on but i've still not heard from them, my son lives with me but he has mental health issues and stays in his bedroom all the time, now my little rescue cat that i've loved for 16 years has lymphoma cancer, she's wasting away, Blue Cross could only give me steroids to put in her food, i'm sitting here listening to my awful upstairs neighbours who never take their children out and just let the 4 kids run up and down the stairs all day and night, think i'll be glad when my hearing goes completely

Not being able to find a boyfriend and feeling suffocated by loneliness as a result 😢

Long distance caring for a 95 year old dad. I do everything from his supermarket shop to his tax return. He never asked but just assumed I would. He retired at 60 and with mum spent the next 15+ years travelling the world. And that was my plan. But at 63 I’ve reduced my working to two days and drive down to him every other weekend. I know I should feel that caring for him is privilege but we have absolutely nothing in common and I’m not a natural carer so I just don’t. I do go on holiday but I want to travel… just set off and go.

Horrendous legal dispute. Dealing with Psychologically warped individuals.

keep reminding myself that only hurt people hurt people and that these specimens deserve my pity but difficult when dealing with such vile entitlement.

My biggest worry is that my daughter is moving out shortly and I don't know how I'll pay the rent without her contribution. The thought of moving fills me with dread. I've had so much sick leave and time in hospital lately, I barely have the energy to work and do the necessary, ie shop, feed myself and keep reasonably tidy, and the thought of packing up a whole house where I've lived for 10 years makes me feel physically sick...

my daughter is in an abusive relationship, she wants and is trying to leave

I have to sit and can't make those choices for her
I can't control what happens
I can point her in the direction of help and have done
I can support
I can listen

It hurts to watch and be helpless though, the waiting is painful

@mum2monkeys88 sorry to hear that. can I ask how old your DC are and if boy/girl/both?

I have the same…. Finally got the energy to separate but scared all the same.

Cost of living and being the breadwinner on stat mat pay.
However we are getting by, just, and some of these responses and challenges but all of our problems into perspective.

Well..... I'm poor. I'm a single mum to two with a big age gap between them. I'm a parent carer and likely will be until I pass away. My postcode and my own health conditions both mean I'm likely to die at a younger than statistically average age. I am a survivor of child sexual abuse and theres not generally a day goes by that it's not in the back of my mind.

But the main thing I'd change is get rid of the feeling of fatigue I've been living /struggling with for years. It's affecting every aspect of my life and I'm sick of it.

*biggest one is my mother's health. Its not going to get better, she is living in a different country (I can't up sticks and move to live with her) so it dies worry me alot. My father passed away aged 60 three years ago, and whilst we weren't close, I still missing him, and miss my kifmds having a hands on grandfather.
*my eldest (9) us suspected to have autism, and whilst it's likely to be at the lower end of the spectrum, I worry about him, about his prospects, and about being crap mother to him.
*career (or lack of it).

Please try your best to get through this for your children. They need you.

Some of these comments make me feel so sad, and grateful for my own life, my problems are the usual, money, stressful job, 3 kids, weight gain, so little time to do anything for myself. Deeper problems are that I am recovering from a traumatic past.

I’m so grateful for my good health and happy (most days!) marriage.

But did you know, if you were to lay your problems out on the table with a group of friends/colleagues/strangers with a view to swapping them, you’d apparently snatch your own back up!

Sending hugs from a similar environment. Keep thinking of the peace you will have soon.
Good Luck

Struggling with Perimenopause. Struggling with loosing teeth and hair. I know it's not life threatening but I just look awful. I can't wear a wig as I'm so sweaty and hot all the time and I can't afford to get false teeth or implants. Lost my Mum 3 years ago and still grieving so bad, she was my world and support.

Coping with the loss of my beautiful dog .

I just want my family to be healthy. My dad has a terminal illness and it's heartbreaking seeing him getting worse and the strain on my mum. And our baby was in hospital last week with bronchiolitis which was very stressful.

@Berlinlover i am sorry to hear that and sending you all the best.

i became paraplegic from being hit by a car. While I have made a pretty good recovery it’s still very hard getting around and b challenging not being able to have adventure and races with dc. There are also big internal impacts on sexual function, bowel and bladder which are embarrassing.

severe mental health issues with both parents- very hard not to be resentful.

weight- spent lifetime yo-yoing. The only thing that helps is a 12 step recovery for food addicts. It’s free and helpful but very strict. I’ve lost four stone but have another 3 still to go.

i try to be grateful as I have many advantages and good things but these are my main worries.

I am watching my husband die of small cell lung and brain cancer. Diagnosed in October, had a great response, but suddenly has become really I’ll, two bleeds on the brain and his body is just failing him. Sat in the hospice day after day, watching him die and losing all hope for any form of recovery. This is a guy that had a huge zest for life, and now can’t sit up or get any comfort lying down. He is 58. I hate being there and I hate leaving him alone. As a positive, I don’t think I will ever need to sweat the small stuff again, but we are currently living in hell.

Oh I have a long list

OH being a lazy ass (which ultimately doesn’t help with some of below)
Me being ill since Jan
long awaited gynae op
money
menopause
fatigue
hating a job I’ve been in for nearly 2 decades

ugh…sometimes things just get on top of you!

I agree.
I came on here expecting some light hearted, nothing major type problems.
Now I feel quite ridiculous that I can’t fit all my fiction on my new bookshelves after spending a few days putting everything in alphabetical order.

So I really feel for everyone here !

@PeachyPeachTrees im with you on the hair loss thing. It’s really upsetting. I wish I knew a way to stop it……….Any ideas MNs

That I don’t own a house and am stuck in a spiral of expensive rent