To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

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Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

No sympathy required.
Stage 4 metastatic breast cancer. On my 3rd chemo in 2 years and I don't think it's working. Had a small break between chemo sessions and my hip has flared up, I'm in agony. So my mind is in every place possible where I don't want it to be.
On top of this I just keep thinking about my young newly turned teenage daughter and my husband.
Life can be shite sometimes

My debilitating OCD

Similar. Always had the problem of gaining weight fast and losing it slow. But I managed to get several stone off before having DD and keep it off during pregnancy but afterwards, with the tiredness of being a new parent I made bad food choice after bad food choice and now I'm heavier than ever.

Trying to figure out how to get it off without costing us money is hard. And depressing.

Winter2020
Unfortunately not. They earn too much.

For me , not being able to afford desperately needed clothes for my 3 kids! Secondly my weight I can't find any motivation for myself and I hate it

Husband

Am so sorry for all of the tough times and struggles everyone is going through. You truly don't know what goes on in the lives of those we pass in everyday life.

For me, we started trying to have a baby over three years ago, when none of our friends had children. Now they all have children (and some have 2) and we are still trying, with endo, PCOS and low count in the mix. We've had one early miscarriage years ago and nothing since. We have to smile and be enthused about everyone's littluns and what seems like their life moving on. Since age 17, I wondered if I'd ever be able to have children as a result of period issues; it seems life is answering me cruelly. I don't know how I'd handle not having this dream/hope fulfilled.

Losing too many people that I love and life just going on. My heart regularly aches for them.

Endo since my teenage years which can be debilitating but I can never really speak on just how much pain I'm in when there is work or things to be done.

My weight....having PCOS and stress eating does not help. I feel so close to achieving my goal but am self sabotaging with the talk of IVF coming up (what if it doesn't work). I feel an odd kindred-ness with others with weight struggles.

My teeth, ground down because of stress of previous losses, health conditions now resolved and my job. Makes my smile not look so good anymore. I want us to save any money for potential IVF and so won't follow through dentist recommendations.

Having parents who can give lip service but don't know if they genuinely love, care for, are interested me, my brothers and their grandchildren.

Throwing myself into owning my own business because I could control that, but I'm drowning in it. I want to stop but I feel trapped and that I'll let so many people down.

Being a people pleaser.

Not being able to 'stop', 'just relax' or 'enjoy' for very long recently.

They aren't big problems like some here but am hoping for some light and positivity for us all 💐

This thread is incredibly sad. I appreciate we all have issues and at some point in our lives, we will all face life altering issues. But the dearth of support speaks volume.

In my case, a teenager who having beat severe MH issues and addiction managed to create a new life with work in a new area, has been violently attacked and is facing homelessness through no fault of his own and not for financial reasons. A return to home area or homelessness is enough to tip back to addiction. I've tried everything I can think of but am so helpless

Im 50 and far and have a heart problem
single parent and wish to hell I wasn’t and that I had a supportive lovely partner who team tagged with me and the children, who supported me and was my best friend
I too have a lovely dog

if I could change anything it would be the disgusting way my 17 year old sometimes talks to me - like I’m a piece of shit and her constantly overruling me with my younger one / eg he asks if he can have an Easter egg and I say yes, two minutes later she has snatched it off him and is saying ‘Mum, he’s got an Easter egg again …’ well yes xxxxx he’s broken his up and is having them a small bit at a time and meanwhile you are all yours without permission on Sunday last week. Im constantly fighting for control on my own bloody house and she’s a bloody screamer, screams if you go in her room, she screams if you move any of her stuff she has dumped on the kitchen, she screams if you move any of her stuff that she has dumped in the lounge. She takes my shoes off the shoe rack and puts hers on. She takes my phone off charge and puts hers on. She uses the last milk, bread etc and she has a face like a slapped wet fish half the time - but at school she’s wonderful and an absolute joy!!

Mum has advanced dementia and partner became a double amputee last year. Just beginning to get to grips with it, and on Wednesday I had a letter for a call back from a mammogram I had the previous week. I actually found a lump in the shower yesterday morning, so now I’m absolutely bricking it wondering how we’ll cope if it’s cancer. The only consolation is that I don’t have long to wait as the appointment is the end of this week. Edited to say I have a lovely dog too, as well as a lovely mum and partner.

My husband is 70 and has long Covid. I’m 65 this year and have osteoarthritis. We have only been married 8 years and still have so much to do, so it’s age and health and plays in my mind. I use mindfulness to address it, because worrying won’t make us healthier, or longer living!

My husband is in remission from cancer, which is great but I’m so scared it’ll come back. My dad died last year and my mum lives a long way away. I worry about her all the time. I had a terrible fracture last year and was diagnosed with osteoporosis, which is terrifying. Particularly as I’m only in my 50s and most people I’ve met with it seem to be much older. There is a person at work who has created a lot of problems for me at a time when I could do without it and I’m worried about that too.
Life is very hard work, I’m very tired and I don’t feel anyone supports me in any area of my existence. My mum and husband would probably like to but can’t. I do have lovely friends but with their own lives and problems. So it ends up I’m supporting everyone else and it feels like no-one has my back - I feel I can’t ever drop a ball and am desperately afraid about who will look after my mum and husband if I have more disabling fractures in future. I feel I’ve let everyone down by having osteoporosis which I know isn’t rational.
On the plus side, my husband is in remission, and I do still have my mum. I don’t have the weight or financial problems expressed so often in this thread - I’m slim (though it’s hard work) and have no money worries though we’re not rich. I’ve got good treatment for my osteoporosis. But I’d just like to be carefree again.

The sadness on this thread is overwhelming. Love to everyone. ❤️

Sending you a hand hold - absolutely no sympathy implied - just a fellow feeling. I found a lump yesterday after getting a call back from a mammogram - appointment next week. Swinging between bricking it and optimistic, so I understand how your mind takes you places you’d rather not go. I’m sending you all the good vibes I can muster up, and a very unmumsnetty hug - it must be so hard. I do hope you’re wrong and things improve for you. 🌷

Thefutureisourownpath, I'm so sorry. The next time DD screams at you, just calmly say: I have been thinking long and hard, and I think we must aggravate each other. I've decided that the minute you turn 18, you will evacuate these premises. It's for the best and it's for you I'm doing it... Might sober her up a little.

I want to send my heartfelt thoughts to those experiencing heartbreaking circumstances on this thread,
My life sentence is being estranged from my only son. After years of the consequences of addiction, I had to say goodbye to save some level of sanity for myself. Multiple episodes in prison, child protection plans were just some of the consequences. My heart is permanently sad and wounded. Like so many others, I paint a smile on my face and keep going.
Hope and peace to all on this thread, thank you for sharing

We all have real problems, yours are not insignificant to you. Feel free to share them.

Heartbreaking. Such burdens everyone has to carry. Life is not easy. Definitely adding my sympathy to everyone. It doesn’t make a material difference, but MN can be a place to share. ❤️🌷❤️🌷❤️🌷

Being early 40’s on minimum wage, part time job, living in a shared house, no family or friends close by, feeling isolated, lonely & unloved. Just been diagnosed with gallstones, might need an operation to remove my gallbladder, nobody to help me if I do, can’t afford to lose what little money I make recovering afterwards. Sorry feeling a bit down & nobody to rant too.

Not enjoying parenthood

Hank you, I'm planning to see a surgeon later this year to ask for one. I've been on long term steroids and piled weight on so I know I need to lose that first. 2 stone off, 1 more to go. Then I shall see the man

@Ani21 I get you on the teeth & dentistry thing - I had to have a tooth out last year - crown came out, snapped off the remaining bit of tooth. It's really bothering me, but we don't have the money to do anything about it and if we did I doubt if I could cope with the procedures right now.

@EilonwyWithRedGoldHair Sorry to hear that's happened to you, that sounds painful and irritating. I feel like it should be a priority because it effects everyday life but there are so many other things we need to pay for/think about paying for...perhaps wanting a lottery win is another thing!

It's hard isn't it.. need to lose weight but it's much harder now in 50s. Teen moods.
But also have a lovely dog and my hair did what it should today too :)

50s and need to lose weight.
Teen having issues with school like so many others nowadays
Can't afford deposit on a house so still renting..impossible to save with living costs and one income..despite a decent job
Life's hard at times