To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

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Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

Relationship breakup. Starting over at 34. Feeling suicidal most days.

My mum living with us. She’s doing my head in so much that we’re considering buying a buy to let property just so we can let it to her 🙄 😜

FFS edit doesn't last long enough. I meant better for you all.

My lovely mum is dying and the palliative care team are struggling to manage her pain. I’ve never felt so helpless.

Can't your relative claim universal credit/housing benefit etc?

I'm coping with a DH who has a number of issues that makes it hard for him to socialise and engage with daily life and impossible to work. So I'm in charge of the house and all that entails, dealing with any relationships we have including his various doctors.

Mother is in her 90s, in poor health and lives in another country. Every couple of months there's a "she's dying" panic from my brothers and then I hear nothing so have no idea what's going on.

If that wasn't enough I work, which I enjoy and don't really want to give up even though I'm also collecting state pension. I'd like to be able to relax and not worry about others and have time for me. Sounds greedy but hey ho.

my youngest having a mental health illness and worrying about his future when we are gone

Overweight, fat and in massive debt, also bordering on accidental hoarding.

House is a terrible mess in almost every room.

Clean stuff, like clothes, ( I will add again, they are all clean, just not put away anywhere) as have a damp problem in a wardrobe area
Lack of wardrobe space

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

Husband

I have the same problem, I bought a cycle cross trainer and it has made such a difference. Low impact on my hip but I can really go for it and destress.

I'm so disappointed with the men in my life. My Dad is lovely but had a gazillion hobbies as I was growing up and I feel that because of this I've craved male attention and love... I've never been very beautiful, just average and I just haven't attracted any men that I might fancy physically. I have settled quite late in life. My DH is a good Dad but is unfit and tired all the time. Quite grumpy also. I'm the breadwinner and I feel overwhelmed and unsupported.

Where to start, lost my dearest sibling (closet to, I have lots of siblings) died tragically. Most recent my uncle I was close to and a cousin to cancer.
Family treat me like shite, taking a lead from my mother. Basically I am the family maid, whipping boy and scapegoat.
Retrained in accounting to get a job as a technician, at considerable cost. Nope, employers are fickle.
Then I completed an intensive course to become an IT technician due to demand for these roles, again nope no chance.
I am also dyslexic although I find ways around it.
Have a great business plan, but I’ve given up.

Feel the same.. and my heart goes out to some people on this convo who or whose partners are very ill..😢

Going through a divorce, started dating again and was dumped.... feeling sorry for myself!

Reading so many of these, I just wish I could make everything better for everyone here, whatever that looks like for people's individual circumstances.

Infertility struggles seem so small in comparison, I am so lucky in lots of ways, and will try to do better to remember that.

Maybe take time out for yourself it may be to soon for you

Very unhappy marriage

A pregnancy I want very much but I know was not the best idea

A big new job I’m dreading going back to tomorrow after a week off

Mum died. She knew she had sepsis, she told A&E she had sepsis, they sent us home. Back the following day, same A&E, sepsis confirmed. Local trust complaint yielded nothing, Ombudsman said 'she received adequate care'. Their lies. Exhausted, shaking when getting a notification of 'new message in your inbox', even though case is closed.

My son’s mental health
money

if those 2 problems could be resolved life would be sweet

My cancer, entirely caused by misogynistic gynaecologists ignoring symptoms for 10 months, and my husband's malignant brain tumour, causing memory loss, and speech and comprehension difficulties so I have to do everything. I am so weary.

Not a big problem as such in the grand scheme of things but no close friends apart from my DH. Would like a close girly friend to chat with now and again!

Ombudsman are just hopeless 😔 how about the legal route?

Health - symptoms I don't know what to do with-are they part of a condition I've been diagnosed with? Am I getting worse? Why do I feel rotten so much of the time? Lost private health care so need to start all over.
Young adult children - neurodiverse, I worry about their (present and) future. When one seems to be doing okay, another dips!
Thoughts and prayers to all those on this thread who are suffering x

She will be fine. I live in central London. I have two kids. They travel around solo. It takes some getting used to but I promise it’s busy and safe and she’ll do great. Let her go if she wants to. I know it’s hard hit wanted to reassure you.

I'm sorry things are so difficult.
Is having a stoma bag fitted an option for you?
I think some people find that this option gives them their freedom back.
I hope things improve for you.