To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

[Biggybigbiggles]

Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

I've just finished reading the thread so far.
❤@SoSadForPoorDH

Much more love, and hopes for improvements where possible, and peace, and safety, and virtual hugs for any of you that want them right now.

As I read, I just kept thinking of the quantity of sheer strength and endurance that is being given a voice here.

It takes ages for me to get pregnant and, when I do, they end in miscarriage. Feel like all I do is fake happiness for other people/in front of their kids.

I have the same problem of frumpy and ugly that's dominating everything in my life. Perimenopausal and absolutely need to lost at least 30 lbs. Have been struggling for years. As PP said, also feel stuck and invisible.

Infertility.
I just want it to be my turn now.

Money. In the thick of it with balancing PT working and child care costs. Just trying to break even.

Dad having cancer for the fourth time. I just want him to be healthy so he can enjoy everything he's worked for.

On a smaller note, on annual leave and have had food poisoning and a cold for most of it, so feeling shattered and very unproductive - if someone could come and organise my life/house/admin/finances while I have a nap, that'd be lovely!

So sorry you’re going through this, been there, every miscarriage breaks you more and more… x

Seeing people who actually have real problems makes me feel pretty bad worrying about my insignificant ones. I don’t even dare to mention them on here. An eye opener.
Sending strength to all of you out there having a tough time.

Please don't dissuade her. London's a great place to live and the risk of crime is no worse than any other city. Don't make her give up this opportunity over your anxiety.

So many people I want to message privately but then I'd worry I'd miss someone equally deserving so I'll say I'm sorry for all of you with worries, big and small, sorry for those with health and money worries and I really hope everything gets biter for you very very soon.

I can't accept my MIL won't give me what I need and would like. I have zero family other than my dc and my life has been turned upside down. But I have to believe I will be okay and whatever happens it can't be as hard as what it would have been if I'd not split up with STBEH.

🌷🐶🐱💐🌼🌻🌸🌞👶🍼🧁🍹🍸🥃🍷☕️🥛🚙🏠💵🛌🩷take whatever you need

Mine is too much month and not enough money. Probably like a lot of people.

I have a child with a disability, my father has cancer, my mother is deceased and I miss her, I'm constantly stressed and anxious.

I'm currently going through breast cancer treatment. Almost halfway through condensed chemo, then on to rads, but I start hormone treatment in a couple of weeks. It's going well but I'm living a weird half- life, one week too ill to do anything so trying to catch up on my good weeks.
Will also be moving house in between treatments which we are very excited for but feel so ready to get done. DH is stressed with work and helping me round the house, and getting impatient to go.
Just want to fast forward to summer when at least some things will be a bit more manageable.

Perimenopause has caused so many physical and mental health issues. I dislike the way I look and constantly
compare myself.
money worries. DH has recently had surgery and only on stat sick pay so eating into savings. Also a possibility he may be made redundant as his boss wants to sell the business.

Me and Dh are struggling to have a baby. Had 4 MC in the last 14 months and we really are losing hope

I'm fat and broke. However I am working on both of those things!

For those saying they feel their problems are too insignificant to post. Remember it’s your life and perception that counts, if it’s worrying you - feels too much - it is just as valid as any of us.

Life changing news does change perception and the magnitude of some problems can dwarf others but you can still worry about the gas bill, and say so.

For me, it's where I live, it is horrible, so dirty and unpleasant. I worked so hard on my own as a single mum to bring up my child and pay off my mortgage and do feel grateful that at least I now have no housing costs as the situation is horrific now for so many people. However I can hardly bear to leave my house, there is rubbish everywhere, bins left out for years on end, my neighbours are vile, dirty and noisy. I cannot afford to move and the thought of ending my days where I live make me so depressed. It didn't used to be like this, I would never have bought my house if it had been, it is just that so many houses near me are now owned by BTL landlords who just let the properties rot. Then I feel bad as really my problem is nowhere near as bad as some people's

Me too. 🫶🏻 we will get through this!

I've wasted my life, some my fault, some circumstances.
I struggle with wanting to live, though I know I'm not allowed to do anything about it.

This is so true, I would even dispute the "money can't buy happiness", as it certainly can smooth so much of the rough edges off from life. I have had times in my life when money would have made so much of a difference, money to buy decent food, money for a day out or in my wilder dreams, a holiday, or even just to have the heating on without being worried sick about the cost. Money buys freedom, it give you the space to look at the other things in life that need addressing, it frees you from the stress of just surviving.

Trying to manage issues due to my ASD/ADHD PND and ARFID alone. Cannot ask for any help from professionals at all as when I did in the past they were all over it from a safeguarding perspective and they weren’t supportive or kind at all just basically saying my dc will be affected it was horrible. So I’m trying to manage it alone , might access private care if gets to that point but absolutely not my nhs gp etc

I’m sorry about your ds. I hope he will be ok. Dd is already at private school because she was finding mainstream difficult. It is important to her to get her GCSEs because she’s planning to stay there for sixth form otherwise she will have to repeat the year, which will actually be far worse for her mental health than sitting them now. If this happens it’s fine by dh and me, albeit pretty crap for our finances as the whole thing is being funded through savings. She actually doesn’t feel under pressure from the exams and if she doesn’t study and as long as I can keep her eating she should still pass… and passing is fine, the school will accept this. I need to figure out a plan of action for therapy now.

My drinking.

Someone else having a huge problem doesn't make yours go away. We all want to support each other. Talk to us if you want.