To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

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Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

My (70F) 77yo DH being diagnosed with vascular dementia, and the implications that has for his future, my future and our future together - that is to say, right now none of those feel like they exist.

He is going downhill slowly, slowly: I am watching and trying my best to care for him whilst still having some form of life for myself; and knowing that we have no real prospect of any kind of normal future from now on as his faculties ever so gently slide off into the sunset. Heartbroken ............... 😪

This thread is heartbreaking, there is so much pain in people’s lives. I feel very lucky to be healthy and to have healthy children, a reasonable job and a somewhere decent to live.

My biggest problem is that despite all this I am very unhappy. I’m heartbroken about a relationship that didn’t work out, lonely despite having friends and family, I can’t seem to find anything that brings me joy - I just go through the motions and go for walks, gym, work, cook, clean. I wish I could appreciate everything I have going for me. I fell guilty that I don’t, especially reading this thread.

So great full for this thread I think it has opened a lot of ppls lives and also helped ppl to realise actually my life isn’t that bad …sending lots of special hugs to those who really do need them wishing you peace and happiness and lots of hope thanks agin for this thread it’s really helped me x

Loss, confusion, sadness.

I'm worried about the future of my son with ASD.

I'm worried about mine and DHs health and the effects of long-term stress, poor diet and lack of sleep.

I'm worried about money and if I'll still have a job in a year.

I'm worried about mine & DHs future - pension/savings/housing.

There are organisations that can help saw this on Children in need.
Families come together where the child has lost a parent.

Infertility and another failed ivf attempt and trying to come to terms with the thought of a future without children.

I’m so sorry and I really hope you have the baby you so long for x

MSK pain. I’d love that to all fuck off.

My disability which turned my life upside down at age 33. I’m now 39 and about to have my first baby and I’m absolutely terrified at how I’m going to cope despite putting everything possible in place to make it work.

Last year I lost my career due to my disability that I only qualified for at age 30 and had spent 12 years studying for. As a result of this we also need to move house as we can’t afford the mortgage on our current home anymore due to losing all of my income, it was meant to be our forever family home 😞

Infertility and failed IVF floored me. I very much hope you get your longed for baby xx

My four year old has type 1 diabetes and I live in fear of something catastrophic happening to disrupt insulin supply and watching him succumb to DKA and die. If no insulin supply issues, I'm terrified of what complications might ruin his life in the future.
My second son was stillborn and I worry I'll forget details of his birth. My liver and kidneys were failing when I gave birth so I was barely conscious. I don't want to lose what I do have.
These things both being true I worry what is coming for my third son. I desperately want him to be ok but I feel cursed.
I'm also a bit bigger than before I had babies but I just bought some new clothes and meh no big deal.

Arthritis

I lost my lovely dad to cancer last year and still coming to terms with that. My mum is struggling too and I feel constant guilt that I’m not doing enough for her (only child).
Money and time- husband and I both work full time and there never seems to be enough of either.
weight- need to lose about 3 stone. I’m mid 40s so worry about health if don’t do something about it soon.

Eye opening and sobering thread. Lots of posts putting my problems well and truly into perspective.

My biggest problem is probably my marriage. My husband is depressive, our relationship fell apart during infertility and IVF. He had an affair. We are now incredibly fortunate to have two beautiful children but our marriage is not good. I don’t trust him. He works away a lot (every week) and I found out recently he has breached boundaries messaging women at work - speaking to them about how bad our marriage is. I strongly suggested a trial separation but he is desperate not to - wants us to be together, says he loves me, wants us to be happy. He says he will sort his head out but I’ve heard this before. He also has no sex drive and I really miss sex and intimacy. I’m exhausted all the time doing most of the childcare alone. I wanted to have children so much and now I’m here with my own beautiful son and daughter I can’t even believe are mine and yet I’m struggling and unhappy a lot of the time. Bloody men hey.

I have a constant nagging worry about my job in the back of my mind. It's high stress, I don't think I'm doing it well and always feel on the verge of a huge fuck up. I wish I could give up work.

Trying to decide whether to stay or go in a relationship. Blended family, moved to his city. Partner publically screamed at my ds for an unintentional misdemeanor. I can see that anger was really coming from panic about the wherabouts of his (younger) son, but it's not an excuse. Because of the complicated history with my ex, I fully expect my exh to report this to Social Services.

Partner becoming increasingly irritable and combative with everyone, including randoms. He's stressed about the house, a crumbling pile that he bought as a doer-upper, about money, his job. I think he's on the verge of a breakdown

Despite this son is really happy in this city. Doing really well in school despite ASD and approaching GCSE's, and doesn't want to move back. Loves having a brother, gets on well with partner. But it's about a year since he screamed at my son again, so I'm at a crossroads

After reading this thread I feel that my problems - fatigue, persistent cough and hair loss - are nothing compared to what others are going through. Sending all good wishes xxx

I'm so sorry for those facing bereavement or life-limiting illness. In fact, I'm sorry for all of us on this thread. Life can be ridiculously testing.💐

Very sobering to read that so many of you have significant health issues yourselves or with loved ones. Also that money is so much of a limit to what you want and need.

I have a lot to thankful for, even if sometimes it is not perfect or I am dissatisfied.

Cat piss on my carpet....

DH died.
I feel frozen in panic and disbelief.

I don’t know if this helps, but I’ve struggled with my perception of my body since as long as I can remember. I’ve had every ED under the sun and spent most of my life hating what I see in the mirror.
Now I’ve just turned 50 and of course I’m noticing changes in my appearance that I realise is me becoming old. I lol back at photos of myself when I was in my 30’s and I feel so sad that I wasted so much energy on it because I looked young and alive and slimmer than I ever believed. At the age of 50, I’m now seeing a new “me” on so many levels. I’m appreciating my beauty and my strength, I’m proud of how I’ve dealt with trauma, grief, motherhood, a difficult marriage. I wear skinny jeans and DM boots, I have waist length (greying) hair and I’m not afraid anymore to say no or to care so much what others think of me.
I hope you’ll see yourself differently too, and I hope it happens in your 30’s and not when you’re much older and with less in your future.
Life throws many challenges at us, but the one gift we can give to ourselves is to learn who we are and appreciate our appearance and our strength.
Much love.

@SoSadForPoorDH oh no, I'm so sorry to read this! 💐💐💐

@SoSadForPoorDH - I am so, so sorry. Thinking of you.