To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

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Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

Grief, but I know it's best gone through and not just taken away.

As long as they don't disable help or not allow your phone so you can't use Google you will be fine. It's much easier than it used to be. Good luck.

A 15 month old who won’t eat due to food aversions (due to long history of reflux, food allergies and intolerances). Currently working with a feeding specialist and a nutritionist and hoping things will get better but god, it’s crushing my soul.

Alot of work places don't have sick pay, mine included. You only get the statutory which is hardly anything so if you want to survive financially you have to use your A/L.

Facing taking my husband to court for domestic abuse, planning the divorce and trying to keep my head above water. All while grieving what is lost (or was never there).

Realising that my in-laws don’t give a shit about me and will never really make an effort to get to know me. I’m just around when I am and if I get hit by a car the. They’ll just roll onwards without a second glance.

My ex husband. I despise him with every fibre of my being.

fucking neighbours who think it is ok to blast loud basey music at 6.45 am on a Sunday🙄

My problems are nothing compared to some of these. But currently - lack of scope for progression in my career, difficult relationship with DH, trying to lose weight, money worries.

Have you thought about having a worry (or communication) box? Sometimes some children/teens find it hard to approach an adult and say what is bothering them. Sometimes it can be easier to write it down. He can then post any worries that he has in the box when you’re not present. You can then read them when he’s not there before tackling the worry/issue.

My own anxiety/mental health, I would stop comfort eating, id have the courage to deal with problems and I would go out and socialize with people instead of being a hermit. I wouldn't be afraid of confrontation or men and think everyone thinks I'm ugly. If I could fix my own head I could fix alot of problems.

My severely affected ASD teen has just told me the reason he doesn't commit suicide is that I have worked so hard to try to help him & he doesn't want to make more work for me.
I just want to be able to stop work & be there for him but as I was widowed 7 years ago this week everything is down to me so it's not possible.
On the plus side I have lost 38lbs, so I can look in the mirror & start to see I am on the right path - changed outlook as need to be as healthy as possible for as long as possible for children.
Lots of love to those dealing with cancer & other health issues.
When my LH was diagnosed I remember thinking people judged far to easily when they have no idea what is going on behind closed doors

Soon to be husband diagnosed with cancer and just started Chemotherapy 3 days ago, I went to Doctor on Friday and he’s fast tracking me for suspected Thyroid/neck cancer, life is just dandy right now

@janeljl I know how you feel! Research OIT - form of allergy treatment. It is life changing!

Living pay cheque to pay cheque and it sucks. Last month we saved a grand total of £14 and our mortgage hasn't even up yet, we're still on 2%.

I think seeing this thread, you realise that noone's life is perfect, even if you really think it is. I've def got less to complain about than many though.

Money- My dh who has health issues(including bipolar) and has been out of work for most of his life is going to have to try and find a part time job in the next couple of years, no easy feet. Luckily we have savings that we can use for now.

My Anxiety/Depression. It has improved a lot but has meant I've not had a proper career, just a low paid job and it has hindered me learning to drive(aswell as the cost of the lessons)

Yep lottery win would help me feel less pressured.

I feel worthless. I’m struggling to find the confidence to find a new job and in something I’d enjoy (no idea what that is either).

Whether to go back to Spain or remain in Australia. We're approaching retirement age and my eldest is in Spain. He married last year and my DDIL is expecting a child - our first g/c. My middle son is thinking of going back but my youngest is very happy in Australia. Whatever we do, we'll have children living a whole world away from us.

My weight. I started putting on weight in lockdown and haven't stopped. I have been looking at holiday photos taken in Spain last week and I feel horrified at myself. I'm so .... round. I've got a wedding in September and I'm determined to shift two stone before then.

Time is flying. Every stage of life is fleeting. The kids are still young but are growing up, soon DS will be in secondary school and the primary years will be over. I want time to slow down; I want to savour these years a while longer. I guess that means I'm happy. I just wish I wasn't too scared of the future to enjoy it.

Caring for frail DH. Feeling unsupported as my family is 300 miles away. Somehow we have to move.

It actually wasn’t that for me - I currently have a huge surplus of annual leave and had it booked anyway, I’m just annoyed that I was sick the whole way through. I could change it to sick leave but then I’d still have too much AL to use and not enough time to take it!

Elderly mother dementia.
You could not get a fag paper between my youngest getting to 16 and this becoming an overwhelming issue.
So when do I get to live my life?

I have a message of hope for everyone who has teens/people in their early twenties who are suicidal and struggle with mental health and/or substance abuse. That was me, I am now forty. Happy, healthy, in a great relationship with a good job and a lovely home. There is hope out there.

I think in the grand scheme of things, I’m waiting to see if a pre malignant large cyst has grown back on my liver - that hangs over me daily.

the surgery from the above has caused me to gain lots of weight and lose all my fitness but that’s something I know I can work on.

SEN daughter - just the constant worry and fight for her is exhausting.