To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

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Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

Infertile?

Health anxiety

I have a lot of the same sorts of problems as most people (not the really difficult ones on here) but I think the biggest, deepest one is lack of self esteem. I think that affects a lot of the other things in terms of health, work, money, relationships.
I should work on that.
But I am very grateful for my lovely kids. I nearly didn't have them, I came to motherhood late and I really do not deserve the lovely young people I live with now. Motherhood is hard work and has taken so much out of me, but these amazing people are the biggest joy in my life.

Bowel cancer I've been battling for nearly a year
Menopause symptoms (not allowed hrt yet)
My stoma bag. It saved my life but I hate it
A bad cold that I've had for over a week
Feeling like I'm not been a good mum to my baby

You'd be best starting a thread about this on the relationships board, as you'll get some good advice there. I'm sorry he did this.

Being widowed in my late thirties with young DC has broken me. The worst thing is that everyone thinks I'm coping admirably. Ten years on and my mental health is worse than in the early years, because raising traumatised and neurodiverse children has broken my spirit. I'm sort of dead inside.

I'm so sorry bless you ...but I bet your an amazing mum to your baby sending you hugs

Fear of the future for my children: war (and rubbish UK defence) and climate change. But mainly war

I wish I could go back in time.

Short term. Massive work project. Ex very ill in hospital so am supporting him and the DC.
Medium term. My three young adults ever being able to earn enough to move out of home (near London).
Being fat. addicted to nicotine.
Long term. Health and pension.

They are my worries because everyone is fighting some sort of battle all the time BUT I am generally very content and love life. I count my blessings and this thread has reinforced that my problems really not that bad. So sorry for many people on this thread.

Aww OP, it’s so hard, but don’t lose hope hopefully before long she will realise. It so difficult to see it when you are in the situation. We had the same situation with DS1 a while back, he now has a fantastic girlfriend who we all love so much. He is so happy, loved, it’s a joy to see. Good luck.

My DH lost all interest on me sexually when I got pregnant with your twins - they’re now 5

we don’t not get along, but wr’re more like friends. Sometimes I’d like to leave but I’ve worked so hard in getting this house to where it is, it’s perfect for us and DC’s. I’d never be able to afford to pay out equity and take on higher mortgage by myself.

I know I’d never get with anyone else, I am so overweight, peri menopausal, and just can’t seem to get on top of anything food or health wise. I make sure my kids eat well but don’t do it myself, and then I have a massive fear that my lifestyle means one way or another I’m not going to be around for my DC and the waves of anxiety are sometimes overwhelming

so like a PP said up thread, I wouldn’t swap my problems with anyone else, it’s not that bad compared to some on here and for those living in war zones etc but if I could click my fingers it would be my weight/diet

our twins

Living in fear of relapse when it comes to a health condition. I feel ridiculous worrying about something that may never happen but it completely consumes me. Terrified of the potential pain.

Love to everyone 💐.

Sounds like anxiety...your catastopising sending hugs

@Nicetobenice67 you are 100% right and I need to get a grip on it. Think I'll go see the GP this week. Thank you for your response x

Having a young adult child who is frequently suicidal.

My pure OCD. It rules my life. Every ache and pain makes my mind panic that I’m dying. I have a lot of aches and pains due to auto immune issues so this panic happens multiple times a day. Trying to find the correct therapy is hard because I also have complex PTSD and suspected BPD and can become unstable easily. I would just like my mind to shut up.

Anxiety and loneliness triggered by perimenopause and 3 key bereavements in 6 months
Now left with very small family and its scary

My elderly parents. They are in fine fettle at the moment but I worry all the time about their future. Worry about what will happen if they decline, what will happen when one dies, how I would care for them because I just can't imagine how I will do that.

Having two parents with Alzheimer's and Dementia, having to manage their lives alongside my own, dealing with ever increasing chaos and demands, feeling absolutely consumed by it all

I have an interview with an Excel test on Tuesday… but I only have rudimentary knowledge of how to use it! Have been trying to learn basics over weekend 😬.

I have other problems/worries but this is the pressing one today.

Multiple Sclerosis, how my life has changed on just about every level. Fed up of always saying I am fine, when I am not.

That sounds awful. I'm so sorry you have to live like that. As another UK national married to a German living in his country, I couldn't imagine how I'd feel if DH refused to come back with me in an extreme case of war / feeling unsafe.

Do you mind me asking how old your daughter is App13? My friend’s daughter didn’t speak until age 4. She is now 5 and talks fluently in sentences. My friend also used to worry endlessly. Things can change quickly, App13 🌺

I've lost my way with my career, left a horrendous permanent job to do interim/ contract work which meant swapping one stress for another really although I don't regret leaving the permanent job. But it means I'm having to pick up anything and can't plan.

My dad has gone senile and fallen out with the entire family, his wife ( my step mum) is encouraging this to get us step kids out of the way as she's weirdly possessive of him.

Apart from that, mustn't grumble!