To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

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Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

Extreme harassment from my ex husband. One waiting for the police to look into the situation but right now it is all consuming and terrifying.

@LongLegSpider this sounds tough. Why can’t your DH do more?

Money and being completely unfit yet also not doing anything about it

This.

I'm so sorry to all of you and some truly awful situations here.

Love the poster who said 'survive out of spite'. Absofarkinlutely.

My problems - significant credit card debt. Worries for my ASD child. Being main provider for household and getting older (47).

War.

I hear you. And it's so hard and no one understands. They think they do but unless they have it, the debilitating pain, the want to do so much but being unable to do sometimes the smallest thing and the tiredness. Hope you're OK x

Missing my Mum who died in February. I can't see past the pain of her loss. Not eating. Not sleeping. Everyone saying she had a good long life, which she did, but she was my Mum & my life is empty without her 💔

Grieving for my mum, it’ll be 5 years this November and i’m still just as bad as the week after I lost her, i’m not hysterically crying every minute but I don’t feel much better. I’ve been to therapy,took medication I just can’t get past it, I was 21 and I still need her

Currently battling my soon to be ex husband for my share of the equity in the family home. I moved out into rented accommodation late last year as I couldn't stand his controlling, cheating and narcissistic behaviour any longer. He has since moved his girlfriend in, and they are living mortgage free in a house that also belongs to me.

I have just posted about losing my mum too, sending you a big hug its absolutley soul destroying 💔

Money worries, drinking too much and HRT messing with my moods.

That must have been absolutely heartbreaking, I'm so sorry for your loss.

🤗

Starting a new role that both me and my company are excited about - managed two days then caught Covid and have had to take 3 weeks off to recover. I feel like the flakiest flake and that my new colleagues will judge me harshly. I’m due in tomorrow and still feel fatigued.

fat, 40 and fertile 😢

I'm having the opposite problem at the moment - I lost too much weight when my IBS was really bad, got underweight and I haven't managed to get it back. I'm really feeling a lack of energy. I'm still having a lot of digestive problems, stomach pains and acid reflux. If I could gain half a stone and get back to feeling fully well, I'd be delighted.

Also I love my work but my job is only secure through to 2026. If I could wave a magic wand, I would fix my digestion and make my contract permanent! Also I would make my little old lady cat immortal 😆. Don't get me wrong, she's well for her age, but definitely a senior citizen now.

Apart from those things its going pretty well right now!

My little boy was stillborn last year. I’m now extremely fortunate to be pregnant again but I’m very nervous and finding it hard to think positively and imagine a good outcome this time. I still have flashbacks, although am at last getting proper help and EMDR therapy.

My daughter has developed an eating disorder, made worse by her medical condition and she ate 1200 calories total in the 2 weeks after a recent trip to A&E when her medical condition was triggered and she felt extremely unsafe. Some days she didn’t eat at all and drank only s few ml of water.

This is a trauma response. She’s lost so much weight. Idk what to do because it is pretty much guaranteed her medical condition will be triggered again if we go to hospital and the eating disorder clinic. She has GCSEs in a month and I’m desperately trying to keep her eating for these and see what we can do after that. If she goes to the clinic, it’s probably game over for her exams. If she doesn’t, there’s a chance she will be able to sit them…

Her friends have been stellar at getting her to eat but she won’t do it for me. She’s so angry at her medical condition but has projected her anger onto me, punishing me by not eating or eating very little. Yesterday she ate twice, very small amounts.

Apart from that I have chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia and chronic pain. I’m disabled and haven’t had much of a life at all for over 10 years. All of this is making my life far more difficult. My dh is absolutely useless in all of this and he actually makes things worse. The arguments between us are ridiculous and caused by his inability to be flexible and help. He shouts at me when I am asking him to put up boundaries with her and her eating because he doesn’t want his life disrupted to deal with it or he goes ballistic at her and me. He’s clearly on the spectrum, undiagnosed and dd has some traits. The advice from the books and BEATS (ED charity) don’t work with her at all.

My mum, 72 and recently retired, was crushed to death 6 months ago when a Sprinter van went into reverse without checking. She was opposite her house.
I still don't know if there is going to be a prosecution and she hasn't had her inquest yet.
MIL, 82, has cancer and hasn't done a single thing to help herself. She won't use any of the equipment she was given to help keep her mobile.
I am plagued with uncharitable thoughts.

After a very stressful 5 years, I’m happy to say that I don’t have any big problems right now, but of course… more money would make our lives easier.

Horse stood on my foot and it’s so fucking painful. Co codamol helps but I still have to get up to go for a wee. It wouldn’t be so bad if I could just get comfortable.

Teeth & dental problems.

Sending you all love and wishing you hope for everything that is afflicting you

Leaking roof I can't afford to fix.
Boiler losing pressure every couple of days due to leak I can't find and also cannot afford to fix.
My DS has recently been diagnosed with ASD&ADHD, I cannot stop worrying about his future.
I'm roughly 5kg overweight.
My hair desperately needs a cut and colour, I can't afford it.
But, we keep moving forward!