To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

[Biggybigbiggles]

Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

So sorry darl. It doesn't get much worse than this. Hopefully soon x

To Ella and those who have same issues going on I am so terribly sorry for your loss and please just take each day at a time and will keep you in my thoughts and sending positive healing vibes to you all.

Chronic pain.

He sounds a lovely boy.
Being young can be very hard.

My son {now over 6 foot and an adult} used to be small sized for his class, and young looking {July birthday so youngest in his year}

He too was bullied.. but lost it and actually punched the bully.

It got him and the bully suspended for a few days...but worth it, as he was never bullied again .

It is scary being bullied, but if he can find the strength to stand up for himself {punching probably not a great idea in retrospect!} he will be respected more by his classmates.

It's horrible but kids can be like ''animals''..and they prey on who they perceive as 'weak'.

Your son obviously has strengths, and he won't always be unhappy.

Being a tween/young teen is horrible.

At a school reunion, years later, he towered over the bully , who actually apologised and said ''I don't know why we picked on you''.. Best of luck to your son.

Not sure I should be married to/with DH

Not sure I like being a mother

Frustrated by a job I like but with unrealistic expectations on me that mean I'm often asleep by 8:30

Miss being able to train/row as and when I wanted

Miss myself

My daughter is dead.
Nothing else matters.
I try to care about her siblings.
They deserve to matter.
What other people think of you is none of your business.

Mid 50s and my fellas has started ghosting me. I'm feeling low and lost. I feel frumpy, menopause has kicked in!
But none of thos compares to what a lot of you are dealing with.
Sending hugs to all 🙏x

My kids don't get on. My 22yo DD moved out today. I'm heart broken. My 21 yo DS is going to help me get the house ready for sale, he will then go too.
If I could put it all right my DH wouldn't have died in 2016 because it's due to that they can no longer live together - grief is horrendous:(

My disability

I'm super morbidly obese and exhausted by if.

I can feel myself disliking my job more and more. I had an interview on Friday for a job I think I would like and it didn't go well I don't think.

@Dibbydoos I'm sorry to hear that. My girls didn't get on when they lived together but one moved out and they can be very close at times now. Sorry for your loss 💐

A fuckbroid causing constipation to the other way - nhs scan and specialists want to get to spec savers … oh but we’re not allowed to talk bad of the nhs.

A mate who was end of life this time last week, had a DNR cos the fight against obesity is just a small’un,

My 16 uear old DD has very low attendance,due to undiagnosed mental.health issues. Despite 4 rounds of funded counselling and lot of of support from school, her choice of college have told her her attendance must significantly improve. She had a great interview, practiceand prepped answers that really impressed us. She passed her mocks with the required grades as she does schoolwork at home when unable to go in. There is no allowance for explaining low attendance. Her current MH worker is going to try harder to get an actual diagnosis rather then low mood put down on paper noone sees.
My DD believes she is autistic,a fact she has come to after seeing her sisters progress into getting diagnosed,13year old DD displays very different t traits but we have no doubt both are.
16 year old DD has been at an all.time low all Easter holidays, leaving the house 3 times, she has ceased all revision and I have little hope of her attendsxhook Monday.
Her school totally support is as pare ts and know we she trying all we can, but equally secondary school environment is too much for her.

I'm so worried that college won't accept her and then what will be her options?

I would wink myself out of existence. My job us almost good enough to keep us above water, but not enough to afford a home. If things were fair, I would be being paid more, but that's for the men in my line of work--literally my employer just employed a bloke at the salary scale above me whose metrics are almost as good as mine. If I wasn't here my H and our kids could move back to our country of origin, and the insurance would pay for a home for them.

And TBH, I don't feel like anyone would miss me anyway. The two people who supposedly care most about me in life have shown me over and over and over again that I don't mean anything to them. My parents wanted me to be so different than I am, and never hid it. I'm probably autistic, never diagnosed, but that can't change my childhood.

And my darling cat died late last year, and I just can't seem to get over it, even a bit. I know she was "just a cat", but she was so special to me. My family all seem to be over it.

I could do something about all of this if I wasn't so damn tired, but I have to juggle everything. I won't kill myself, because that would be traumatic for everyone, but if I could wave a wand, I wouldn't be here anymore.

A close relative has just been diagnosed with cancer.
I have my own chronic illness to deal with that makes me very fatigued. Plus I'm recovering from covid at the moment.
The cost of living increasing more and more. We're ok but I worry so much about others in worse situations.
Sorry for everyone going through a rough time.

Weight and the sense that I’ve totally lost myself. I’m early 50s (undiagnosed) ADHD which is driving me crazy also pretty sure I’ve passed this on to my DC. 🙈Hate my house, unfulfilled by my job and feel like I’ve nothing in common with anyone I know anymore.

i know I sound like an awful & ungrateful and I wish I could just feel better.

My cat was run over a couple of years ago and it broke my heart. I still think about him everyday. A death of a pet is horrible.

I've been ill pretty much constantly for the last few months. Just want to be healthy and well and enjoy life.
I hate my job.

To Theshirespace Have you seen a doctor for peri menopause as hrt will help with your mood and help to make things better. Don't suffer in silence and get the help you need. Sending best wishes to all going through difficult times and feeling bleak.

Infertility.

The way it takes over your life. The way it consumes you. The way it changes you so completely that you fear you’ll never be who you once were. The constant heartache. Fear. Underlying sadness and anxiety that sits with you everyday. The constant masking when someone else just happened to fall pregnant by accident. How it’s so difficult to explain to someone who has never been through it. How it just doesn’t get any better or easier as the years go by.

I would never wish this on anyone.

My new job. It’s awful 😢

Arthritis and limited mobility. I'm only 43 but I feel about 100. I used to be so fit and active and now my life is so small. I feel depressed.

I can’t lose weight. No matter what I try it’s always the same 4-6kg.
No I also have an illness that takes recovery time and reduces my mobility. Due to my illness I had to cancel a holiday abroad and probably will lose some money.

My DS hates me and has no contact, takes presents I send for her kids and doesn’t send a thanks. No text when I was in hospital sick.

Griefing for a recently deceased grandparent who I loved so much. She died in so much pain and agony for weeks, it was so awful. An end she didn’t deserve.

so grateful my DC are happy and healthy and we can afford nice things and holidays.

My only problem is that I have developed an incurable physical disability which affects every single second and every minute and every hour of my life. This literally is the only problem I've got. In every other way I literally have the perfect life: I'm single, I own my own home, I run a small successful business, I have heaps of money in savings, my mental health is excellent, I'm very satisfied with my life.

I remember years ago hearing somebody say "if you don't have your health then you've got nothing" and now I have found that that is true.

Having no help with DD (one year old) who is fussy and highly strung.

DH leaves me with the brunt of childcare on days DD is not at childcare. We both work but for me work never stops I am with DD all other times. I dream of a break especially on the weekend. I would LOVE help from my uninvolved parents, siblings or in-laws (my siblings (older) have no partners or kids). They know it’s hard for me but no one helps.

I’m guessing DD will eventually be a teenager and maybe finally I’ll get an hour to myself sometime over the next two decades.