Would your partner wake you up shouting due to cramp?

[Daisypod]

As the title says really, Aibu to think shouting out in agony due to leg cramp in the middle of the night is somewhat over the top?
Dh did this last night and I thought something was seriously wrong! I've had cramp myself and usually quietly stretch out or sometimes stand to sort it, certainly don't shout out in pain.
But I am prepared to admit I'm bu if others have had it much more severely than I have, I've just never heard of it being that bad.

My father used to be a wicket keeper , he kept wicket for many years and he used to wake up with dreadful leg cramps from time to time . Really painful ones. But I suppose that sort of goes with the job really.

Yes, DH does and it exemplifies why women have babies/periods and not men. Pain should always be quietly internalised, quietly.

I yelped just reading the title

I get leg cramps that wake me up and they are so painful and so sudden I always shout out.

Like most people I get an occasional leg cramp. I massage my leg, stretch the muscle and get over it quietly. Always wondered why footballers were such babies about them 😂

Last week I had a leg cramp unlike any I've had before. It was in the front of my ankle/shin instead of my calf and my toes curled up like they were in a tight vice. Never felt a cramp like it before, I couldn't uncurl my toes, even physically pulling them with my hands they were so solidly pulled up. I couldn't get any relief from any stretching of my leg in any position - couldn't find the muscle at the front of my leg to stretch, or even stand and it was agony. It, or at least felt like it, lasted about 10 minutes, I was panting like I was giving birth and swearing through the whole episode. I tried to get my ipad to google how to relieve it, but couldn't even type through the pain.

Due to snoring (his), dh and I sleep separately, and he is also a bit hard of hearing, so he was oblivious to the whole thing, but if he was in the room he would have known all about it!

Two weeks ago OP I would have probably said YANBU, but after my recent cramp experience YABU!

I get them when I'm not drinking enough and no i don't cry out in pain. I get up and sort it quietly like a normal person.

It’s agony — I’ve woken myself up screaming, and I have a high pain threshold. I can control my noise level when I’m awake, but when you’re asleep it just comes out.

Wow. Can you not conceive of levels of pain? someone’s pain being worse than yours?

I've had cramps and you shout when they come on because it's sudden (especially so if they've woken you up). Making a noise is more to do with the surprise than the pain (which subsides fairly easily).

Bully for those who are silent and stoic when they get hurt but it's not a reasonable thing to request that everyone else endures pain without making noise.

Awa bile yer heid min. Many folk on here have stated cramp can be more painful than labour. Genuinely can’t remember being in pain in labour but cramp is fucking horrific. This is not a man v woman thing.

I've previously always had the type of cramp that was painful, but could be stretched out. However, in the past few months I've suddenly started getting the agonising variety that people are talking about. Prior to this, I would have thought anyone shouting was exaggerating.

I think in my case it's because I've developed arthritis in my spine and I get a lot of associated hip and knee pain at night, making it difficult to find a good position to sleep in. I try to move or stretch because my hip is hurting and suddenly the cramp strikes, it's horrifying! The worst is that sometimes I get it along the front of my shins and the top of my feet and there's no easy way to stretch those areas sufficiently. I usually end up shuffling along the floor on my knees, swearing and trying to bend my feet backwards. I don't suppose anyone has any good tips for what to do with cramp in that position? I tried asking the physio and he said, 'No idea, sounds awful!'.

I wish I could quietly stretch out a leg cramp. There's no being quiet for me I'm afraid.

I cross-posted with @Blanketpolicy, whom I see has suffered similarly. Commiserations!

I has it at the weekend and it woke me up , there's no one here for me to wake up but the way I shot up and yelped it probably would have woken anyone in the room up. Actually I did wake up the cat who was no use at all 😑

I have and have been in tears at times. Only way I can fix it is running my leg under boiling shower then knee high fluffy socks and electric blanket on max

I've not shouted out but when it's a prolonged cramping that just won't go I might have shrieked. Some cramp can be fixed by pulling your toes up or stretching. Others take ages to go and just when you relax your leg thinking it's over it strikes again.
I find magnesium spray really helpful, every night on the soles of your feet for around a week then atleast once a week regularly.

Poor you and poor him! I’m not surprised he shouted, but it sounds like you both had a really bad night and if you’re dealing with a young child and you’re tired anyway I’m not surprised you were annoyed - we often get annoyed by things that aren’t unreasonable anyway, but especially when we’re tired, hungry, sick etc. I hope you can both find a way to get some rest!

I get this a lot even partner trying to flatten my toes is impossible. Only fix is boiling shower head on leg

Of course. I have read a fair few threads on here and thought 'they went to the GP with that?!' tend not to say it though, because people have varied tolerances.

Never wake me up for a cramp though or you're off my list for the zombie apocalypse 😉

Not everyone can help it, he may have a low pain tolerance. Be glad it's not you with the cramp I guess

Your DH may or may not be overly dramatic. When I used to get calf cramps in pregnancy I woke ow Ow OWWing before I even opened my eyes it was so painful. Agree with a pp, about 7cm contraction level 😆

This story has always made me laugh... My cousin who was a week overdue, sat bolt upright one night shouting with cramp. Her dh, already on edge, shot up so quickly he fell out of bed and crashed into the wardrobe. She's still shouting, and he is shouting back asking what's wrong while scrabbling like a mad thing in the dark trying to get up. In his panic he pulled on the duvet he was half tangled in which knocked a pint glass of water off the bedside table which fell onto his face and knocked him silly. By this point, her mother who was staying over to be on call to care for dc1 is also shouting and running to see what all the commotion is. Everyone involved claims their blood pressure has never fully recovered 😂 (Baby was born about 4 days later).

Welcome to middle age.

Where you wake up in the middle of the night with a random, blinding pain and scream before you even realize you are doing it.

Can't you just believe your partner that it really hurt him? Seems a bit harsh to be asking on here.
And yes calf cramps can be agony. I got them a lot when pregnant and once woke up screaming so loud my DH thought I was in early labour!

Cramp can be anything from 'mild' to excruciating. Mild just needs stretching, excruciating can make you scream out in pain. If you're asleep when it happens, crying out is involuntary. Give him a break!

I used to get calf cramp in the middle of the night when I was pregnant.

I ALWAYS wake up shouting "no no no no NO" for some reason, as if my calf is going hear and say "oh sorry I'll stop now".

And I'm shouting before I even wake up properly, so not doing it on purpose!

It proper scared the shit out of DH the first time.