Would your partner wake you up shouting due to cramp?

[Daisypod]

As the title says really, Aibu to think shouting out in agony due to leg cramp in the middle of the night is somewhat over the top?
Dh did this last night and I thought something was seriously wrong! I've had cramp myself and usually quietly stretch out or sometimes stand to sort it, certainly don't shout out in pain.
But I am prepared to admit I'm bu if others have had it much more severely than I have, I've just never heard of it being that bad.

I’ve had a few that have been that painful.

I have found bananas really help with mine. I ate one a day for a few weeks and now just try to have 2-3 a week and it seems to keep them at bay.

I had read that magnesium helps but I was still getting them and read something somewhere about bananas so tried it.

I got leg cramp when I was pregnant. Definitely shouted in pain and jumped out of bed to stretch it out.

Yes. DP gets terrible cramps. He thinks it's due to dehydration and tries to find a balance of drinking enough and not drinking so much that he has to get up to pee. The yelling in agony does annoy me though, because I'm cranky and disorientated from the rude awakening! Also, in general the volume of his yelling doesn't vary whether he scratches his finger or breaks a limb. So I tend to roll my eyes until I find out it's definitely serious😆

I have woken my partner by shouting in pain, yes. It really hurts! Don't forget it woke me up too so no chance to think about it!

I've thrown myself out of bed with cramp and have been lying on the floor trying to stretch it out.

My light sleeping partner strangely enough woke up, but was sympathetic because they've been there too and helped me stretch.

Unfortunately I'm a heavy sleeper so they could be rolling around the floor with me snoring blissfully unaware and not helping them.

They differ in extremes I find I’ve had ones where I just get up and stretch it out others I’ve screamed F*CK!!!

I’ve seen my GP about my cramp. In my case it’s just one of those things. My dad also used to suffer, so I blame him.

As others have said, it hits when you are fast asleep. I jump out of bed in terrible pain and in shock. I’ve tried everything to relieve it when it strikes but hobbling around the bedroom and waiting for it to go is the only thing to do. My affected leg is always very sore for days afterwards.

Comparable to contractions in my experience (caveat, only got to 7cm dilated, but still...)!

Mine would 🙄 But he also puts the bathroom light on to go for a pee.

I would not. I get up and walk it off. No shrieking.

This is why I will never live with someone again 😂

I’ve had leg cramps that have felt similar to contractions, not even kidding. Absolute agony. Usually when I’m dehydrated after a run and yes, I have screamed.

If this happens, stretch your leg out and push your heel away/toes back and it can stop it before it gets going. You have to act fast though.

'Aibu to think shouting out in agony due to leg cramp'

You accept that he was in agony and complain that he cried out in pain?!

What a lovely, caring person you are. Not.

OP sounds like you have never had a real deep cramp. You couldn't help but cry out, its unbelievable pain.

It’s almost impossible not to shout out with severe leg cramps. YABVU.

The first time I ever had cramp, I woke myself up in the middle of the night yelling. I had no control over it. Maybe that’s what happened to him.

I have had occasional nocturnal calf cramps and so has DH. Anyone who can have one and not scream I take my hat off to you. Respect.

Leg cramps can be excruciating- very painful until they pass, and yes, shouting out in agony cannot be helped! Mine have improved a bit since I started taking magnesium.

Cramp is bloody painful but never have I shouted about it. And DH would be pissed off if I woke him up just for that.
At the moment I have constant pain in one of my legs and it's worse at night, often waking me up. I don't scream and shout then either.

Wow, I didn't know this was a thing!

My husband gets them really badly too, he had one the other night that you could see rippling and pinching, it was horrible.

I get them occasionally after exercise and they do bloody well hurt, I'm not surprised he yelled if it woke him.

Yes he has a few times. Totally legitimate ime. We cry out in pain - that's normal. The only real way to get rid of cramp if it's that bad is to have someone massage it for you. So I am happy to be woken up and to massage his legs to relieve the pain. Far better that than him suffering half the night with it.

My friend gets leg cramp so bad, she can vomit. I’ve almost passed out with the pain. It can be really bad. Not everyone has it this bad.

Has he had a diabetes test, or general bloods done? I'm just wondering if they are connected.

My DH gets serious leg cramps - they don't happen too often (I'd say 2- 3 times a year), but when they happen they really hurt him. The first time he woke up screaming, I was really shocked, and like OP thought that something serious had happened/he was dying - I was also unsure about what I could do to help (and middle of the night dazedness), so was a bit useless, to be honest.

Now, if he wakes up screaming, I just roll towards him and gently rub his calves for a few minutes until the pain lessens, and then we both go back to sleep (it is often more stiff the next day too). In turn, my hypo-alarms wake him up, more often than his leg pains do me, and he always checks on me/ensures I have my sweets next to me (if I ever don't, as I may have used them all and forgotten to bring more up, he will always go down to the kitchen to get me some). 🙂

It's perfectly normal to shout out and leap up when in agony. And it's also perfectly normal for the other of the living couple to ask if they're okay and grab their calf to sleepily give it a massage because they don't like to see the other in pain.