SIL didn’t get DD an egg bc she’s “too old”

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SIL has bought my younger DD, 13, an easter egg but not my older DD, 18, because she’s now an adult. I was absolutely furious when I found out! What an absolute cheek! You don’t buy one without the other. I haven’t given younger DD her egg yet as I don’t want my older one to feel left out. I’m going to go to the shops in a bit and get one for older DD and pretend it’s from SIL!

Would you find this inconsiderate? I would never have the nerve to be this spiteful!

Surely you can make sure your 18 year old understands that this is a reasonable decision as she's an adult now. There has to be a cut off somewhere. Lovely her aunt bothered to do this throughout her childhood and is doing the same for your younger child .

SIL could mean her husband's sister.

If you stop when the youngest is 18 the oldest would have 5 years more. Which is still unfair.

You'll need to have that conversation with her at some point though surely? You may find this goes for Christmas and birthdays too!

So why not get her an extra egg yourself and then say when you give the youngest hers from her auntie that you've got her one yourself so she doesn't feel left out?

I wouldn’t get too upset. But I would always buy all ‘kids’ an Easter egg whatever the age. My husband’s sister came over on Friday with eggs for both our kids aged 18 and 21!!

I don't buy eggs for anyone other than my own kids, but yes if you buy for one buy for the other. Adults enjoy Easter eggs too!

No! Because she's getting 5 extra eggs then!

That's not fair to younger one then? Older will get till she's 23?

Yabu your daughter is an adult at 18.

Why is it the SIL's responsibility to get the neice/nephew Easter eggs? Surely it's their uncle who is the closer relative?

But at 18? Really?

Mine will be 35 when his cousin turns 18. Is that a 'kid' then?

Does the 18 year old even give a fuck?! It’s an Easter egg!

So you think both DDs should receive eggs until the youngest is 18? In that case the eldest would be 24 by then so that wouldn't be fair lol

SIL could be her husband's sister.

Adults reciprocate!

So the aunt isn't even there to see the nieces? I give eggs (or bunnies) to my nieces and nephews if I see them at Easter. If I don't see them, I don't give them eggs. Do you really think your dd will be upset that her aunt didn't give you an egg to give to her?

Do you have a very big family? Personally I plan on buying my niece and nephews Easter eggs and presents until I die, but there's only four of them so I do understand it might be different with a bigger family.

YABU as I wouldn’t be ‘absolutely furious’, you are overreacting but it would get an eye roll out of me tbh. Small Easter eggs were like 3 for €5 in Dealz and pound shops this year, just get something for both nieces. I’d never show up with just one egg as it’s bad manners for the sake of a few euro.

So you think the eldest should get them until ages 23 ? Then what if your youngest followed your lead in being outraged and started demanding she got them until she's 23 also.

You are being crazy

Is there a back story here, are you a bit bored in general? I can’t fathom why you’d be absolutely furious over an Easter egg for an adult. How very odd.

I don’t even buy my nieces and nephews eggs. I get them Christmas and birthday presents though and my siblings and I have agreed that following their 21st we will cut it back to a token gift and maybe cash in a card. When the oldest is 22 (next year) the youngest will be 5. I think the 22 will cope with her 5yo cousin getting toys to unwrap. Eggs are a bit different as they are a token gift and are only £3 but tbh I find it quite burdensome buying stuff every year. We’ve really cut back over the last few years and had a much nicer time. If you don’t want to buy for adults (which is fair enough) then you have to stop somewhere.

I wouldn’t mind at all what anyone else does. I would probably buy for all until the youngest turned 18, despite the age of the oldest. I wouldn’t expect it in return though.

I dont understand. The reasoning seems sound!

Out of curiosity, and due to cheap nature of Easter eggs as you have pointed out, do you find it bad manners for OP’s adult daughter to not give an Easter egg to her aunt after a childhood of Easter gifts?

It's fascinating to realise that some people have literally no problems whatsoever and nor do they seem to have ever encountered any that would offer perspective. Absolutely extraordinary. An Easter egg causing family ructions 🤣