SIL didn’t get DD an egg bc she’s “too old”

[Eastereggcheek]

SIL has bought my younger DD, 13, an easter egg but not my older DD, 18, because she’s now an adult. I was absolutely furious when I found out! What an absolute cheek! You don’t buy one without the other. I haven’t given younger DD her egg yet as I don’t want my older one to feel left out. I’m going to go to the shops in a bit and get one for older DD and pretend it’s from SIL!

Would you find this inconsiderate? I would never have the nerve to be this spiteful!

Would your 18 year old daughter even care? It’s an Easter egg. At that age I would never have expected anyone to buy me an Easter egg nor would I have wanted them to.

YABU

Also, buying the Easter egg and pretending it's not SIL is overreaching. IMHO, you don't have a right to do that

My sister didn’t get an egg for her oldest niece ( my daughter who is thirty ) did she care ? No !

Nope at 18 we stop with Easter eggs, birthday presents from aunties/uncles/etc.

She’s not a child anymore, she can buy her own Easter egg if she wants one.

I wouldn't even say it's unfair because that implies receiving eggs is some highly coveted/desirable thing for 18-25 y/os 🤣

It's not really unfair, just pointless

I think this is an April Fool's joke by OP

Get a grip.

Yeah exactly, how dare she say it's from SIL when she should be pretending it's from the Easter Bunny. The daughter is only 18 FFS and has 7 long years of innocence ahead of her as OP wants to keep going till 25. Don't ruin her innocence before her time!

Good grief OP. It’s just chocolate. Your 18 year old can just go to the shop and buy her own chocolate bar, cant she?

I think stopping the egg buying at 18 is fairly standard.

Surprised so many people buy eggs for distant relatives they aren't seeing. Posting an easter egg seems madness

I don't buy my own easter eggs now they're adults and I have never bought my nieces and nephews them . Get a grip

Do people not think it should stop once younger DD reaches 18 though?

Or, she could stop buying eggs for both of them now the oldest is eighteen. It's the same logic.

No. That means the older one gets many more presents over the years.

I stopped buying for my nieces and nephews when they were 18, they all got a particularly nice / good present for their 18th.

My only exception to this was when the youngest got into medical school I sent her a stethoscope.

ffs your daughter is an adult!!!

I suspect most aunts / uncles don’t buy eggs for adult nieces / nephews.

I think tab far more unreasonable than Aunt .. Aunt puts boundary in place you lie about it ?

I got my Ds a £1.49 egg .. that was the only egg he got . He ate it not complained .. Don’t make a none issue into a big issue

Does your 18 year old consider herself to be an adult? My Dd did at 18... maybe just inform her that family egg gifts end at 18 as she's an adult now 🤷‍♀️

But then you'll get annoyed as younger one only received 18 Easter eggs from sil and older one received 24 or whatever number is......and you'll think that that is not fair

OP, if you've been even slightly hostile to your SIL over this, you really need to apologise. You say you were furious and thought she was spiteful - odds are, she's picked up on that. She's done nothing wrong - in fact, it's nice that she's still buying Easter eggs for your thirteen-year-old.

Our family does this when DC become 18. I don't. My DS and my DSD are both adults with jobs and I still get them an egg each. I think it's cute and they are always delighted. It's just a little celebration. I certainly would get one without the other.

In my family we stopped recieveng Christmas presents, birthday presents and Easter eggs from the wider family at 16. You are being totally unreasonable.. 18 is an adult. I brought my oldest son who is 18 an egg but that is because he's my son. You can buy your daughter an egg if you want but don't expect others too. Its rude to expect things anyway and you should teach your daughter than and to be grateful for anything she does get

@Eastereggcheek

Your 18 year old is legally allowed to have sex, drink, smoke, vote, drive, travel independently, rent/buy a house….

They aren’t a child anymore and there should be a differentiation between the younger offspring and elder in terms of treatment and responsibility.

Otherwise you get disparity with the elder being treated like an overgrown child until 23, and the younger being flung out into the world at 18… because you aren’t prepared to treat the elder as an adult until the younger is one also.

As for cutting off eggs when younger is 18, no because it means the elder gets 5 more years of eggs and also it is treating them like a child, which isn’t helpful.

Fair enough if you want to get some grown up chocolate or egg… but expecting the whole family to arrive with smarties eggs with a cut out dinosaur on the back is a bit ridiculous.

Yes, but that is from their parents, which isn't what this thread is about.

I'm with (what seems to be the majority - certainly on this thread) in that we, as a wider family agreed to stop getting the nieces and nephews presents once they became adults. I still get my own adult dc presents, I just don't get Easter eggs, birthday and Christmas presents for all of our dn.
Doesn't mean I don't treat my adult dn sometimes - I might buy lunch or coffee and cake if we meet up, for example - just that we no longer get them presents every Christmas and Birthday, nor eggs at Easter.

Are you seriously suggesting she buys a 23 year old an egg so she doesn't feel left out? Because that would be her age if she keeps buying until 13year old is 18. It's chocolate for god sake. Grow up.

You’re their mother. Do you buy Easter eggs for all your adult nieces and nephews, brothers and sisters, mother and father, grandmother and grandfather, aunts and uncles, cousins…. plus all your adult in laws too?