SIL didn’t get DD an egg bc she’s “too old”

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SIL has bought my younger DD, 13, an easter egg but not my older DD, 18, because she’s now an adult. I was absolutely furious when I found out! What an absolute cheek! You don’t buy one without the other. I haven’t given younger DD her egg yet as I don’t want my older one to feel left out. I’m going to go to the shops in a bit and get one for older DD and pretend it’s from SIL!

Would you find this inconsiderate? I would never have the nerve to be this spiteful!

Are we supposed to buy nieces and nephews Easter eggs??? Birthdays and Christmases are expensive enough!

Then your older child has had five more years of gifts than the younger. The fairest way is a cut off age, so each of your children has 18 years of gifts in their childhood, then it stops. Having been the oldest child in the situation it’s not hard to understand.

It does seem a bit mean to buy one sibling an egg and not the other, if they are still living together. But DD is old enough to understand the reality, you do not need to lie to her or cover up.

No, because then older DD gets five more years of eggs

When is it OK to stop? Or should she buy her adult neice eggs/presents for ever? If she keeps buying for both until the youngest is 18, then the oldest will still be getting eggs in her mid 20's, which hardly seems fair either.

But then your youngest would get less eggs, as hers would stop at 18 and your eldest at 23.

I'd say it's a bit odd. But then I'm from a family where adults still like getting Easter eggs too.

Stopping at 18 makes sense.

Each child will get 18 years of Easter eggs.

I doubt an 18 year old would be that upset about a £3 chocolate egg.

I think your SIL is right.

I wouldn't be bothered. My 17 year old has felt awkward that he is still given eggs by other family for a couple of years now. We only buy for the children.

Left my (adult) kids a chocolate bunny and buggered off on holiday for Easter without them. My nieces and nephew have only now crossed my mind because of this post. How weird?! Appreciate families are different but I’ve never known anyone to buy Easter eggs for kids other than their own 🫣

18 is a reasonable cut off point. Otherwise you elder dd receives 23 eggs and younger dd gets 18. I mean why should you leave younger dd get dd get 5 less eggs?

hopefully your dd have more emotional maturity than you are displaying here. Poor Sil.

Is this some kind of joke?!

Your older daughter has presumably had 5 more years of Easter eggs than your younger daughter.

You think it's more fair to stop when she turns 18 and not the elder?

So your older DD should continue to get an egg until she's 23? I think adult Easter eggs is a relatively recent thing. They're pretty expensive too. I guess if the 18 year old is still at school, she may feel a bit put out that younger sis gets chocolate and she doesn't. If I was the aunt I might have got each if them a chocolate orange or something. But I think buying an 18- 22 year old niece an "Easter egg" would be continuing to treat her as a child. As the parent I certainly wouldn't be furious about her not getting one.

Is the eldest buying for SIL now they are an adult?

No! Then older child gets exponentially more presents/gifts)eggs than the younger.

She's 18. She doesn't need an egg

Sounds like a good idea...your sil is right. Yabu. Only fair to stop with the oldest first or else you youngest misses out. You lucky she kind enough to buy eggs fur 18 years

Really?!! Elder DD should realise that Aunty has just bought for the kids and if she fancies some chocolate she can go to the shop like the adult she is. And doesn’t the eldest get consumable stuff the youngest doesn’t like a glass of wine with dinner or free rein of the coffee machine? But if you really want to be that petty about it then no the eldest shouldn’t get one until the youngest turns 18 otherwise the youngest is down 5 extra eggs that got given to the older one from aged 18-23.

There are no small children in our immediate family. The people for whom I bought eggs are between 25 and 74 years old. I am early 60s and was given an egg.

Sorry, Egg Police, I had no idea we were all breaking the law.

Some people decide on firm age cutoffs and stick to them, I wouldn’t get too worked up about it.

We had the opposite situation here in that DD (18) and DS (15) wanted their usual Easter egg hunt in the garden again. DD was annoyed because DH has been tidying up and got rid of their little Easter baskets that they always collected the eggs in. 🤣

How is it spiteful?

Is your 18yo still at school/college, or got a job/University? Personally I would consider that the cut off rather than age. But your SIL is within her rights to use age.
It can't go on forever.

How old are you sister's DC? Do you buy them eggs?