SIL didn’t get DD an egg bc she’s “too old”

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SIL has bought my younger DD, 13, an easter egg but not my older DD, 18, because she’s now an adult. I was absolutely furious when I found out! What an absolute cheek! You don’t buy one without the other. I haven’t given younger DD her egg yet as I don’t want my older one to feel left out. I’m going to go to the shops in a bit and get one for older DD and pretend it’s from SIL!

Would you find this inconsiderate? I would never have the nerve to be this spiteful!

Same in my family. We buy for DC up to 18th birthday. They get big 18th birthday gift then just a card. I have 21 nieces and nephews.

So you want your older dd to keep getting easter eggs until she is 23 so it's fair?

What if dd gets married and has a baby at 21? Will SIL still need to treat them the same?

You're being absolutely ridiculous.

You need to treat your children equally, the rest of the world doesn't need to treat and adult and a child the same.

I can see where people are coming from but I just find it a bit harsh. I’d feel mean handing my 13 yo to her Easter egg and then saying to my 18 yo “oh Aunty hasn’t got you one this year”. It’s just a bit uncomfortable.

Utterly ridiculous. YABU.

Oh come on this is a ridiculous over reaction.

18 sounds a good age to stop giving eggs. It's not spiteful in any way.

Oh well.

For goodness sake. What a ridiculous over reaction.

I think 18 is old enough to understand that people have different ideas to us. Surely you're daughter will just roll her eyes?

It's April Fools right.

At 18 you’re old enough to understand why your younger sibling may get an egg but you, a legal adult, may not.

Your DD is a big girl, I'm sure she can handle not getting a £3 egg.

Spiteful? She’s bought them for her as a child so she’s hardly a bad person. There’s got to be a cut off and 18 makes sense. I doubt an 18 year old will care and if they do they have some growing up to do. Maybe you care more than them? does she still want to be receiving them well into her 20s as the little one will be??

You wouldn't like me then OP. I adore all my nieces and nephews, blood related or by marriage.

But one by one, we'll stop buying Christmas, Easter and birthday presents as they turn 18.

There is a lot of them and it's bleeding expensive.

Ludicrous overreaction

Do it when she’s not there? This is so silly.

YABU it has to stop at some point & 18 seems reasonable

Buying her an egg & pretending it's from her aunt will not end well so don't do that.

Then you haven't raised your 18yo very well, have you?

I have a 22yo and a 19yo, they absolutely don't find it uncomfortable that their younger siblings sometimes get things they don't, because they are adults.

Did she buy one for her aunty though? Adult egg giving is usually reciprocal.

I think it's fine to stop at 18. They each will have had 18 years of eggs.

There is no need to keep buying for adult nieces and nephews. It becomes awkward, expensive and unnecessary.

I do see you point about the older one being left out, but I think an 18 year old is old enough to understand.

Is 'absolutely furious' a typo for "briefly a tiny bit miffed and then thought about it for one second and thought fair enough"?

If not, then YABU

You need to get a grip.
It's a chocolate egg for the child and the adult will be fine.

Eggs were always reciprocal in our family - we exchanged eggs rather than gave them. So net result of SIL deciding 18 was too old was that DD(or you) didn't have to buy her one.

Seriously?
Absolutely furious?
Doesn't take much to upset you if adult relative doesn't buy other adult relative an easter egg. Did your daughter buy her aunt one? Guessing not. Was aunt absolutely furious?

Hope that your brother isn’t still with your SIL. If they are together, not sure why the SIL is getting all the flack here?

No, because then younger child could say, Well they were getting an egg for 23 years and I only got one for 18 years, so unfair! No. Needs to be the same amount of time for both.