SIL didn’t get DD an egg bc she’s “too old”

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SIL has bought my younger DD, 13, an easter egg but not my older DD, 18, because she’s now an adult. I was absolutely furious when I found out! What an absolute cheek! You don’t buy one without the other. I haven’t given younger DD her egg yet as I don’t want my older one to feel left out. I’m going to go to the shops in a bit and get one for older DD and pretend it’s from SIL!

Would you find this inconsiderate? I would never have the nerve to be this spiteful!

Honestly just laughed at how pathetic this is ,what a massive overreaction. I thought I was going to read a thread about someone under the age of 10, not an 18 Yr old. She's an adult so when does it stop otherwise? And yes she should continue to get you younger child an egg until she turns 18.

Hmmmm, I think you and the family need to have a discussion about what age you stop doing presents. My parents and aunts and uncles agreed to buy up until the age of 18. So yes, some siblings received presents when others did not, but we were all aware that after 18 we would not receive presents from everyone.

I think the issue here is that it wasn’t discussed beforehand, and one person made the decision.

This has to be a wind up

You're being utterly ridiculous. There are ways of smoothing over this non issue like an adult.

Buy your older daughter an egg. Hand younger daughter the egg from aunt and say to older daughter "I think aunt has decided you're too big for all this nonsense now but you're still my wee girl and I couldn't help myself."

Aw shucks mum, you didn't have to, etc etc.

Then forget about it.

I assume this is an April Fool's post as surely nobody is this ridiculous! "Spiteful" not to give an 18 year old an egg, nice one! 😂

You're 'absolutely furious ' because your adult daughter wasn't bought a chocolate egg!

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I agree with a pp, there is usually a cut off point.

It wouldn't occur to me to buy an eighteen year old an Easter egg. She is far too old.

She’s too old for Easter eggs from family
but you as her mum should get her one

I know - when I opened the thread and saw the words "DD, 13", my immediate thought was "OP's being unreasonable, 13 is a bit old to be expecting Easter eggs from an aunt". When I actually read the OP and saw that the 13-year-old was the one who had been given an egg, and her mother was annoyed that an 18-year-old hadn't, I couldn't believe it!

No, because then DD1 would get eggs until she was 23 whereas DD2 would only get them until she was 18, which is way more unfair than stopping at 18 for both of them. This really isn’t complicated at all.

If my mum had been kicking up a fuss about an Easter egg for me when I was 18, I would have wanted to die of embarrassment.

I have nieces and nephews aged 11 to 31. By argument, I’d still have to be buying an egg for my oldest niece when she’s 38 years old. My oldest nephew earns about double what I do and lives in Dubai. Do you think I should be popping an egg in the post for him? Or maybe I could drop one off at the police station for nephew 2; I suppose he might have time to eat it in between carrying out drugs raids and attending crime scenes?

So you want her to be buying your older DD eggs up till your DD is 23? This is an April Fool's joke right?

Absolutely furious? I think you need some help. I don’t buy my 18 plus nephews/nieces Easter eggs, iI buy for their siblings if under 18. My own yes but not for other adults which you are at 18. Is your 18 year old absolutely furious as well, hopefully she understands

I'm now picturing a grown woman telling another grown woman, "Niece, I have something to tell you. I've decided to be upfront, because I know it wouldn't be fair to leave your mum to break the news to you. You might want to sit down. It's hard to find the right words for this, but... I didn't buy you a chocolate egg this year, because you're an adult."

I’m 32 and my lovely auntie buys me and my daughter eggs for Easter 😂🥰

Do people not think it should stop once younger DD reaches 18 though?

No, because then you could argue that DD1 has had 23 years worth of eggs and DD2 only 18 years worth of eggs.

My family stopped when we turned 18 but I still choose to buy for my nieces and nephews in their 30s (I can afford it and I want to).

You say you may buy one and say its from her, but I'm presuming 18 year olds either verbally or via text would say thank you for their egg, so would that not cause an issue? Maybe just speak to DD about it. She can form her own opinions of her aunt. I personally wouldn't care or presume to dictate that people had to buy my DC an egg.

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You are massively over reacting.

We stop gifts at 18 in our family - no-one gets upset. Now I have babies of my own, people buy for them instead.

Errr why?

So the older one gets eggs for 25 years while the younger one gets them for 18.

How is this fair either?

If your 18 year old cant cope with no longer getting presents cos she's an adult, I think the person you need works with isn't your SIL it's her own parents...

Well I just buy eggs for all of my family ranging from 4 to 68 . Just a nice gesture🤷‍♀️
Really not very expensive £2-3 egg x10 so about £20 -£30 .

You are over reacting. Easter eggs are for young children.

Ps. Mums are differant than aunts. Everybody has differant ideas.

No, because then younger DD will have had 5 fewer eggs over her lifetime than elder DD which seems unfair.

I've never bought my nieces or nephews an easter egg. I hardly buy for my own kids 🤷‍♀️
Do people really get upset over chocolate eggs? Don't get me started onthe gift grab Easter seems to have become 😂
Anyway, perfectly reasonable not to buy for the 18yr old and I'd expect them to have no issue with it. They're not a toddler and surely the entitlement of these times doesn't extend to chocolate eggs.
Although we don't 'do' Easter, our Christmas cut off has always been 18 for the kids of the family. After that, feel free to join in the present giving with the other adults. So, I see no issue here