SIL didn’t get DD an egg bc she’s “too old”

[Eastereggcheek]

SIL has bought my younger DD, 13, an easter egg but not my older DD, 18, because she’s now an adult. I was absolutely furious when I found out! What an absolute cheek! You don’t buy one without the other. I haven’t given younger DD her egg yet as I don’t want my older one to feel left out. I’m going to go to the shops in a bit and get one for older DD and pretend it’s from SIL!

Would you find this inconsiderate? I would never have the nerve to be this spiteful!

I don’t think it’s weird I thought most families did this I think ours stopped at 16 that was for birthdays Easter and Xmas!
so I don’t think she was being unreasonable
sorry

I guarantee your 18 year old won't give a crap

Easter eggs last for as long as Easter does.

We all buy each other rggs and Mum is 82. SiL is being tight fisted.

Did you buy her one, OP?

I would have bought.one for her. I wouldn't have turned up at the house with one for the younger sister and not one for the older sister no matter how old she is. I think I will.be buying easter eggs for my nieces and nephews tull mid 20s easter eggs are cheap as chips always on offer so not that expensive. my mother still buys me an easter egg and am in my mid 40s. my husband bought his mid 80s mother an egg. its a nice thing to do.

Exactly what OP says. When the youngest reaches 18 then otherwise what does it say to the older one ahh you are too old to get a treat I mean really! And the treat isn’t because the younger one believes in the Easter bunny that might be different

But then the youngest needs to get them to 23+ then...

Jesus. Calm down.
It's completely reasonable, and normal, to not buy an 18yo ADULT an easter egg. Little kids? Absolutely. Teenagers? Meh. Ok. Other adults? Not important.
Like others have said, there has to be a cut-off somewhere, and 18 is totally reasonable.

No because then it’s unfair on the younger one because over her lifetime she’ll have had less Easter eggs, presents etc in total than her sister who will in theory benefit until she is 23! if it stopped when they were each 18 they’ll have both have had the same from all family members.

What age is the cutoff? 20 40 50?

Clearly the OP favours her older DD, otherwise why would she want her to have eggs for 5 years more than the younger DD?

Maybe she wanted a DS as the second child?

Let's say your SIL stops giving both of your kids Easter eggs once the younger one turns 18, won't you then be 'absolutely furious' that your elder daughter received eggs for an additional five years, and make out that it's a terrible insult to your younger daughter, as she'll be left egg-less at the tender age of 19, and demand equal treatment, meaning the younger one must get a choccie from her auntie until she turns 25? 🙄

I'm with the 90%

YABU and hyperbolic.

Perfectly normal to stop once nieces and nephews are adults.
You'd be in absolute melt down in our family - we stop buying nieces and nephews birthday presents and Christmas presents once they are adults too.

Do people not think it should stop once younger DD reaches 18 though?

Obviously not, as then the older sibling will have had eggs (or other presents in our case as well) for 23 years and the younger one only 18.
The youngest would feel very aggrieved about that. It wouldn't be very fair, would it ?

I don’t expect my relatives to buy other adult relatives Easter eggs no. Fine for the children I.e the 13 y old but it doesn’t generally continue throughout their entire lives.

Then your older DD gets 23 years of Easter eggs and your younger DD only 18, and
sure you’d be furious about that too!
18 is a perfectly reasonable age to stop buying Easter eggs. She’s an adult.

So what's your plan? Eat the egg meant for your younger daughter so neither daughter gets one from auntie?

Buy another egg for your elder daughter and pretend it's from auntie?

Don't you think your older daughter would rather not be treated like a 13-year old? Maybe just give her a tenner towards a night out? Remembering that this doesn't mean that you need to give your 13-year old the same, because they are not actually the same age...

I buy my 3 adult nephews and partners Easter eggs, but I only have 3 nephews and no children of my own. Might be different if I had many more nephews and nieces.

You are massively overreacting. This is part of growing up. If she stopped when youngest was 18, then eldest would have had another 5 years of eggs than younger dc. There's just no perfect answer. She's 18 I'm sure she can understand.

Last Easter egg at 17 in our family….once you turn 18 you are an adult….it’s a natural cut off age….so I would not be offended at all

Sooo for Easter we give Easter bags with egg until age 12, then Easter egg until age 25, then wine or beer.

Similar for Christmas, present until 12, then money until 25, then wine or beer.

We would have had an 18 cut off point for presents/eggs/money except we didn’t realise until after the fact 😂😂 now done it for one we have to do for all!

OP you’re overreacting.

Did your daughter buy her aunt an Easter egg? She's an adult and past the age of expecting something from another adult without some sort of reciprocation.

You are being absolutely ridiculous.

@Eastereggcheek how have you determined that it was spite?

Why would you be absolutely furious?
It's just one of those things.
Let it go.

No, you’re being way too precious over fairness. Your SiL is not being unreasonable not buying an adult an egg.

If there are two kids, and I’m buying an egg for one; I’d go ahead and buy for the other as well. Buy for both or neither.

No, that opens a can of worms.

Younger DD could then say "but she got stuff till she was 20"

It's fairer to have the same age cut off for across the board.

In my family it was 16.