SIL didn’t get DD an egg bc she’s “too old”

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SIL has bought my younger DD, 13, an easter egg but not my older DD, 18, because she’s now an adult. I was absolutely furious when I found out! What an absolute cheek! You don’t buy one without the other. I haven’t given younger DD her egg yet as I don’t want my older one to feel left out. I’m going to go to the shops in a bit and get one for older DD and pretend it’s from SIL!

Would you find this inconsiderate? I would never have the nerve to be this spiteful!

At 18 I’d have politely thanked someone for a tiny gold Lindt bunny, but thrilled? I can’t say I would have been. I’d have been perfectly happy with nothing.

Spiteful?

I hope not. I forgot to get my kids an Easter egg this year. Once they were 5-6 and past the egg hunt thing, they don't seem bothered.

Turns out the rest of the family "forgot" too. Just not on our radar

18 is the last birthday I buy card/gifts for nieces/nephews. They’re old enough to appreciate other adults and I think it’s a good lesson to learn relationships are a two way street. Obviously if they go out of their way to drop a text or card then it will be reciprocated but no way would I be buying Easter eggs and selection boxes for adult relatives.

I got my 20 year old nephew an easter egg and my brother but not my son. That's because I spent Easter with my brother and nephew. In our family if you spend easter with someone they get an egg. Under 18s get money sent to their parents to buy an egg on your behalf. My brother didn't but my over 18 son an egg because he didn't see him. Easter is not Christmas.

Same here, I have 5 cousins and one child free aunt. She stopped at 18 with all of us. Otherwise where would it end!?

My mum got me an easter egg, and I am 44.

I had to re-read this. I stopped getting (any) eggs when I was twelve.
You can still give your daughter one I presume? She doesn't need to get them from other people?

18 is a reasonable cut off.

Perfectly reasonable! I stopped buying my own dds last year aged 15/19. I told aunties and uncles once older dd was 16 not to do it anymore!

In our family it tends to be generational rather than age based.

If we are all together the younger generation are all gifted if that's what we do.
I'd personally feel mean leaving the over 18s out if the rest of their generation is receiving a gift.

You have to draw the line somewhere and turning 18 makes them no longer a child.
Most people I know ...the kids get and it stops at 18. This includes birthday presents and Christmas presents etc.

The younger daughter might be ragin to find her aunt stops when she turns 18 but her older sister got eggs for years after. You need to have common sense.

My aunts etc all stopped buying christmas and birthday presents after aged 18 (last one was when we were 18)
My brother did the same with my kids - he never brought them easter eggs but I suspect the same would be the case

Direct family (parents, grandparents, greatgrandparents keep going - up and down) extended stop as adults

Get a grip! There has to be a cut off!

I still buy all of my children an Easter egg or an alternative such as a bunch of flowers, they are 26-35 and my husband still gets one and he is 59. Same goes for advent calendars, my husband would be gutted if he missed out. Just our little family tradition. Eggs are basic ones, nothing fancy and same for the advent calendars. Of course the grandchildren get them or an alternative too.

My Mum was buying me Easter eggs up until she went into care - when I was 59! Not the same thing as an aunt however.

Do you still buy them for nieces and nephews, too?

Bloody hell, and your adult daughter didn't get an egg from a relative, so you're withholding your youngest (am actually child) because it's unfair, and seem genuinely quite enraged with the use of exclamation marks. No. I don't see the need for the rage. She obviously doesn't think she still needs to buy for an adult. She bought your eldest an egg for 5 years that the youngest didn't get. You are acting very oddly over a shitty egg on behalf of a flipping adult

No we dont have a close relationship with our nieces and nephews who live quite some distance away.

No

Oh god, please unclench! She's an adult, not a child. My family all stopped when we were about 16. Communicate

It’s not really comparable to the OP then, as she’s talking about an aunt.
Im 40 and my parents still buy me an Easter egg. My aunts don’t though.

You have a low opinion of your 18 year old.

Oh dear
my 8 month daughter didn’t get a single Easter egg, first & only child btw !

Is this real? Oh my god, my adult daughter didn't get an Easter egg😯🙄

Then how would that be fair if your older DD keeps getting eggs up to teh age of 23 and your younger DD stops at 18?

We stop all birthday presents etc after the 18th birthday fairer for everyone.