Husband stole kids' Easter eggs

[AnnBoo]

Not sure if this is unreasonable, my friends seem to agree with me but wanted an outsider's opinion...

I'll try to keep this short.

Last night my hubby went out to the pub while I stayed home with the kids. I fancied a night out myself- haven't had one in months- but didn't have the option since he wanted to see the lads. He said he would go only have a few rounds and be home by about 10:00-10:30pm, but stumbled in at about 1. I was already in bed, and woke up to the slam of the front door but fell back asleep shortly after he came in. This morning I woke up around 6am to set up the kids Easter egg hunt, but to my surprise the cupboard was empty. I then found a huge heap of cardboard and tin foil beside the sofa. All 4 Easter eggs- 2 each for the kids- were demolished, along with brown smears all over our new beige sofa. LIVID!
It's not the first time he's done this too! My 7 year old daughter's Christmas chocolate disappeared late one night, luckily with enough time to replace before Xmas day. But this time, I've had no chance to.
My kids came downstairs so excited this morning but their faces absolutely dropped as I told them what happened. My husband was hungover and dead asleep in bed until midday, when he got up I explained to him how upset he's made the kids. He didn't even bat an eyelid before he went to make his coffee.

I've asked him to stay at his mums for the next few nights, or until he replaces the chocolate (which he's refusing to do). AIBU?

I'd advise leaving him at his mum's. This isn't the first time he's done that, and neither time showed the least remorse in disappointing his children on special days. He isn't a dad, or even a "father," he's a sperm donor, according to his own actions. He's shown you who he is with the FIRST instance, and reaffirmed it with the second. And from reading your first post twice, I see signs that he has no problem putting himself first, probably at all times.

Do children "need" a father? Depends on that father. They do need a good, upright male role model. And stealing chocolate from children without remorse just does not qualify. Uncle, good family friend, grandparent, older cousin, any and all of these can fit the bill.

YANBU at all sounds like a t@&t.

Has he apologised to the DC’s now?

What a horrible man 😢

I am so sad that you imagine you even need to ask. Your husband’s behaviour is shocking. Some people sometimes do bad things when they are drunk (though most have a filter to prevent the worst) but your DH wasn’t even sorry sober and acknowledged nothing.

I think it might be best if he stayed at his mum’s for a good long time - and he got a chance to consider his priorities and you get a feel of just how much happier you and the kids continue to be without him.

Good luck!

Disgusting. Absolutely inexcusable.

Haven't read the while thread- too much outrage to deal with.

My question is, why did you tell the children what he had done? They would be disappointed by the lack of chocolate, why make them feel shit about their dad too? You sound mean.

You were both BU.

He shouldn’t have eaten the eggs. You should have sent him out to replace them and done the egg hunt later in the day. No need to tell the kids at all. You told DC to punish your husband.

out of the two of you, you were more unreasonable because you brought the kids into it.

Wrong to get pissed and be hungover for Easter Day. Very wrong to eat the eggs. Unforgivable not replace them or even show remorse. He sounds like a nasty, selfish piece of work. You and your kids deserve better. I would be leaving his bags outside the door.

Urgh. I'm ashamed to say this is something I can envisage happening in my house.
So sorry. Fuming for you. What a fat (yes it is fat scoffing 4 Easter eggs in one go!) useless, selfish lump.
I hope you are braver than me OP.
Get rid of him.

I struggle to believe this happened, if my DS did this and came home with his tail between his legs and told me the reason why, my shame would have driven me to replace them.

Honestly, why do folk say "surely...." in these situations?

How on earth can you think that "surely" the Op has local shops that are full of replacements?

We have absolutely no idea of the Op's living circumstances. Maybe she lives in the Yorkshire Dales, like me?
Maybe she lives in the Scottish Highlands and Islands?

Please stop with the presumption that everyone lives in a 24hr city.

Nor do I.

Tbh the chocolate would have angered me too but the refusal to acknowledge and try to fix the issue would have angered me more. Coming home drunk and slamming the front door in the early hours of the morning and sleeping until noon isn't acceptable either. Neither was not asking you if you'd prefer to go out if you hadn't been out in a long time either.

I hope you managed to bring the kids somewhere to choose the biggest egg they could find OP.

Although I imagine it was hard because on Saturday, I went to my local Tesco to buy more mini eggs and they were completely sold out of all Easter eggs. I managed to get some overpriced packets in a nearby small shop.

Oh, my God. I would be leaving him. That is awful. What a disgraceful man.

Mydad usedtogetus chocolate on Sundays which he'd magic for us. He used to give us money to save for Mum's presents. She found it one year and tackled me when I cane hone from school and I said it was a secret and she then realised it was some thing dad was doing with us for her. I still have the ring he bought her. I live in a village in Cornwall and its unlikely there will be eggs left in the supermarkets at holiday periods.

Only considering it?

He’s a cunt. He doesn’t deserve a wife or children.

Do you not have a kebab shop nearby?

YANBU. But I wonder what you see in your husband. He sounds awful :(

Are you joking or just a twat?

Imagine being the type of mother who wouldn't set an alarm to set up an Easter egg hunt for her kids. I hope you are not a mum.

YANBU It is well known people don't do things when drunk they wouldn't do when sober, only the moral restraint is not there. So being drunk is no excuse for stealing the children's easter eggs.

Imagine having a wife who grasses you up to your MUM ffs! No wonder he went out and got shitfaced if he's married to someone who sets alarms at 6am on a Sunday to set up a fucking easter egg hunt.

You wouldn’t question your adult son showing up at your house with a bag, no children and wife on Easter, a day often spent with family and most parents with their children? Or, call and see what’s going on if he says nothing about it?

Grassed? Act like a child, be treated like one.

Believe it. There are some absolute horrors out there.

What an arse

Sorry OP but your husband is a pig. To refuse to replace the eggs too. Is this a pattern of behaviour? Just get rid.