Husband stole kids' Easter eggs

[AnnBoo]

Not sure if this is unreasonable, my friends seem to agree with me but wanted an outsider's opinion...

I'll try to keep this short.

Last night my hubby went out to the pub while I stayed home with the kids. I fancied a night out myself- haven't had one in months- but didn't have the option since he wanted to see the lads. He said he would go only have a few rounds and be home by about 10:00-10:30pm, but stumbled in at about 1. I was already in bed, and woke up to the slam of the front door but fell back asleep shortly after he came in. This morning I woke up around 6am to set up the kids Easter egg hunt, but to my surprise the cupboard was empty. I then found a huge heap of cardboard and tin foil beside the sofa. All 4 Easter eggs- 2 each for the kids- were demolished, along with brown smears all over our new beige sofa. LIVID!
It's not the first time he's done this too! My 7 year old daughter's Christmas chocolate disappeared late one night, luckily with enough time to replace before Xmas day. But this time, I've had no chance to.
My kids came downstairs so excited this morning but their faces absolutely dropped as I told them what happened. My husband was hungover and dead asleep in bed until midday, when he got up I explained to him how upset he's made the kids. He didn't even bat an eyelid before he went to make his coffee.

I've asked him to stay at his mums for the next few nights, or until he replaces the chocolate (which he's refusing to do). AIBU?

yeah he’s a twat for eating the eggs but could be forgiven if he’d got up today and gone out to replace them. It sounds like he doesn’t respect the efforts you make for the kids. I can’t imagine he normally treats you all well if this is his attitude.

Not everywhere is England. All shops open in Scotland.

Thoughtless, cruel and doesn't care. I think the doesn't care is worst. LTB.

This is awful! What reason is he giving for not replacing his own children's Easter eggs, that he ate? I almost, almost get coming home drunk and starving hungry and eating the kid's chocolate because you're off your face. But to not wake up with a jump, full of horror and run straight down the shop is unforgivable. What reason is he giving, how on earth is he justifying this? And does he not care, if not about the feelings of his kids, that the whole school class and playground will know your child's drunk daddy ate all their Easter eggs and wouldn't buy any more? Doesn't even looking like a complete shit to absolutely everybody shame him? Wow.

That is horrible behaviour. Who steals from their children? And not even to be ashamed of himself.
Good grief. Not a man I would want as a husband or father.

YABU to allow him to sleep in until midday after that performance. I would have tipped ice water over his head and kicked him out.

What a shithead!

He appears to have no regrets though.

What an awful role model for your children.

Yes the fact that it was 4 whole Easter eggs makes me think even more that he did it out of some sort of spite tbh...

Horrible , just horrible.

This.

I’m always amazed how many women on this board have husbands and partners that think nothing of getting so drunk that they damage the house, disrupt planned activities, and can’t get up with the family in the morning. It’s not normal behavior. It’s the kind of thing done by alcoholics. Yet even on this thread there are already people saying that everyone does crazy things when they are drunk, he just should be handling it better now.

No, he shouldn’t have gotten so drunk that he screwed up so badly. If he is old enough to have children, then he is old enough to have learned to modulate his drinking. Getting super-inebriated is a mistake someone makes once or maybe twice as a teen or young adult and then doesn’t repeat because they now understand how alcohol works.

What a nasty human he is. What kind of a father destroys Easter for his kids and doesn't care and doesn't try to fix it. Personally I wouldn't think any more of him even if he brought replacement eggs over now. He's ruined Easter and that's all the kids will remember. He needed to be up and out before the kids woke up so he had full replacements and they had no idea anything has happened. Anything less is selfish, vile, hurtful behaviour. Why inflict a man of your kids who would hurt them and not care less? He's supposed to protect them.

LTB and enjoy events with your kids there can't be ruined by selfish arseholes. To the poster who thought YWBU, get some standards or prove your own behaviour. Ruining Easter for your kids because your drunk and can't control yourself is ridiculously low, pathetic parenting.

He is a nasty pig and has form for this. You said he did it before at Christmas time?
He should be cleaning the couch, going to the shop for replacements and playing with his children.
Arsehole.

What a horrible shit of a man.
LTB.

Doesn't sound like much of a father. Eating their eggs and sleeping in till midday?

Poor kids. I'm not a LTB fan OP but imagine this is the tip of the ice berg. They deserve better.

I can’t believe this happens in real life…

Are they your DH's DC? I can't believe anyone would do this to their own DC, and behave with so little remorse. What an awful man.

It wouldn't be so bad if he apologised and nipped out to get some more (LOTS more).

The fact that he's refusing to apologise says everything!

I said ypthread that drunkenly eating the eggs can happen. But I've changed my mind. Because I based it on my having the munchies big time when im drunk. But - there was presumably other food in the house. So he could have had that. He didn't. He deliberately and cruelly ate the kids chocolate.
Someone up thread has nailed it. He is a narcissist. Deliberately spoiling other people's happiness, even when it's his own kids. This isn't about Easter eggs. This is about a horrible cruel man showing who he is. Ltb.

I'm glad you removed him. Otherwise your kids might think 'so it's OK for people to treat me like this, mum supports this behaviour too. Maybe I did something wrong or bad in some way and don't deserve Easter'. Also 'it's OK to take other people's things if I want them. There won't be any consequences'.

We look to our parents to model healthy behaviour and healthy boundaries. Tbh,I wouldn't be having him back. I'd be starting the divorce rolling tomorrow. Life is too short to live with nasty men.

He should have just got a kebab like anyone else after a drunken night out.