Husband stole kids' Easter eggs

[AnnBoo]

Not sure if this is unreasonable, my friends seem to agree with me but wanted an outsider's opinion...

I'll try to keep this short.

Last night my hubby went out to the pub while I stayed home with the kids. I fancied a night out myself- haven't had one in months- but didn't have the option since he wanted to see the lads. He said he would go only have a few rounds and be home by about 10:00-10:30pm, but stumbled in at about 1. I was already in bed, and woke up to the slam of the front door but fell back asleep shortly after he came in. This morning I woke up around 6am to set up the kids Easter egg hunt, but to my surprise the cupboard was empty. I then found a huge heap of cardboard and tin foil beside the sofa. All 4 Easter eggs- 2 each for the kids- were demolished, along with brown smears all over our new beige sofa. LIVID!
It's not the first time he's done this too! My 7 year old daughter's Christmas chocolate disappeared late one night, luckily with enough time to replace before Xmas day. But this time, I've had no chance to.
My kids came downstairs so excited this morning but their faces absolutely dropped as I told them what happened. My husband was hungover and dead asleep in bed until midday, when he got up I explained to him how upset he's made the kids. He didn't even bat an eyelid before he went to make his coffee.

I've asked him to stay at his mums for the next few nights, or until he replaces the chocolate (which he's refusing to do). AIBU?

Hopefully his Mum will make him see sense!

He's a keeper.just not very good at keeping off the chocolate,no really out of order.

Absolutely yanbu he sounds like a gluttonous pig

Sounds like he comes back home with a huge munch attack! Does he smoke weed? I would keep all sweets away from his eyes next time he goes to see the lads. You’re not being unreasonable at all!!

What a selfish man. This isn’t about the eggs, it’s about his lack of thought with regards your children and respect for yourself. I assume he is selfish in other ways? Personally I’d walk away, a man like this won’t put his family first.

Judging by the fact it's not the first time he's done something like this I'd carefully consider if this is who you want to spend the rest of your life with. I hope you have separate bank accounts. As others have said, it's not just that he stole his children's chocolate while drunk, it's that he felt no remorse about it.

Omg. So so selfish. Hes not even taking responsibility and replacing (even with chocolate bars as there’s probably no eggs left in the shops) what he stole. He owes you all (especially the kids) an apology and a huge chocolate treat. What a selfish obnoxious pig.

This isn't the only way he is selfish though is it?
I honestly couldn't be with someone who thinks it's OK to do this.
Hope you managed to get to a corner shop/coop for the kids to have an Easter egg hunt in any case xxx

The teeth part 😂

They walk amongst us….why are you even together with this waste of skin?

Surely they have a shop where HE could get the replacements, but he’s refusing!

IMHE mum’s back their son’s even if they are guilty of the most heinous crimes. You were probably unreasonable in her eyes for having them easily available

No, "everybody" doesn't - only some people. And this person is unrepentant.

YOU ABU.

He’s a cunt. Shit husband, shit dad, nasty piece of work.

Why are you accepting this behaviour? This man clearly gives zero fucks about anyone apart from himself! To ruin his kids Easter and have no remorse is someone who deserves to be alone. You and the kids would be better off alone trust me. I've been there.

Well this is similar... my ex-husband was a nasty drunk. I'll finish writing a book one day about about the 5 year nightmare. Not long before the nightmare ended this happened: my line manager gave all of his people a box of Italian chocolates for Christmas. I left the box resting on Christmas tree branches to enjoy on Christmas morning to find wrappers on the floor. Assuming they were from the Italian chocolates, I opened the box and he had taken a bite out of every single chocolate and put them back. I remember sitting there and wondering what kind of an insult this was supposed to be.

When I read OP's first post I thought, he's insulting OP. Subconsciously he's saying fuck you, perfect mummy who my children adore. Seems to be rooted in jealousy and inadequacy. If a man thinks like that he has no real respect for you or your children. And it makes me curious if there has been any other malicious or abusive behaviour.

Disgusting greedy selfish pig. That is unforgivable especially refusing to replace them. The coming home drunk at 1am is bad enough but stealing your children's Easter Eggs is way worse. I would struggle to get past that.

Wow. Raise your bar love.

Not sure why either of you have kids and want to go out and get blind drunk?
Neither does it sound healthy for either of you to want to punish the other person without looking at the underlying problems.
You both sound very immature.
Neither of you act as a team to plan for the welfare of your children.
You may just think easter eggs - I think dad and husband who wouldn't put his life on the line to protect the kids or you.
Maybe that's why you both want to go out and get blind drunk.

He's refusing to replace them? Wtf?? He sounds like a nasty selfish twat. Let him stay at his Mum's. Big thanks to your kind friend for actually replacing the children's eggs. I hope this, and the Christmas chocolate situation and his shitty attitude make you have a good think OP.

Your poor children, why aren’t you protecting them from this man?

I could not get past this; selfish, cruel; he doesn’t love you or your children. Please leave this vile man. That he comes first is obvious from his behaviour beforehand; seeing the lads more important; coming home drunk and late; slamming the door. Your children will never forget this, leave

Oh piss off you sanctimonious nob. How on any level is this the OPs fault??
I have kids, guess what? Sometimes I go out and get drunk!!
But not ON E have I ever disregarded my kids feelings like this. I’d have never done anything like this, neither would my husband.

I can't actually believe he did this to his own children so they had no eggs in Easter morning. I bet none of their friends parents were so selfish. That's the kind of memory that your children won't forget and I would honestly go out of your way to try to spoil them in another way to redress the balance a little. It wasn't your fault but it doesn't sound like their father is going to make amends.

Awful. I couldn't be with a man like that. I really couldn't. Your poor children 😳