Husband stole kids' Easter eggs

[AnnBoo]

Not sure if this is unreasonable, my friends seem to agree with me but wanted an outsider's opinion...

I'll try to keep this short.

Last night my hubby went out to the pub while I stayed home with the kids. I fancied a night out myself- haven't had one in months- but didn't have the option since he wanted to see the lads. He said he would go only have a few rounds and be home by about 10:00-10:30pm, but stumbled in at about 1. I was already in bed, and woke up to the slam of the front door but fell back asleep shortly after he came in. This morning I woke up around 6am to set up the kids Easter egg hunt, but to my surprise the cupboard was empty. I then found a huge heap of cardboard and tin foil beside the sofa. All 4 Easter eggs- 2 each for the kids- were demolished, along with brown smears all over our new beige sofa. LIVID!
It's not the first time he's done this too! My 7 year old daughter's Christmas chocolate disappeared late one night, luckily with enough time to replace before Xmas day. But this time, I've had no chance to.
My kids came downstairs so excited this morning but their faces absolutely dropped as I told them what happened. My husband was hungover and dead asleep in bed until midday, when he got up I explained to him how upset he's made the kids. He didn't even bat an eyelid before he went to make his coffee.

I've asked him to stay at his mums for the next few nights, or until he replaces the chocolate (which he's refusing to do). AIBU?

LTB
I couldn't stay with a piece of shit who'd done that. Absolute deal breaker for me.

He’s a grown man if he wanted a bloody Easter egg he could have got himself one!!

It's the lack of respect for others' property (like who the fuck eats the children's Easter eggs in Easter Saturday night) that I couldn't get over.

He doesn’t sound like he regrets it though 🤣

I don’t blame you. I know sometimes on MN posters say LTB but I agree. This man child is not going to improve. Please LTB - things will NOT get better. ( I speak from experience). Best wishes and good luck 🌺

He’s a total Arsehole. Bin him op.

Sorry I don’t believe this post?

What a walking turd the man is>

You’re referring to people as my Husband, the kids and my Daughter. Is her their Dad? If not then I’d be telling him to stay at his Mum’s permanently the selfish prick….and if he is, well good luck living with that.

No, they don’t. People do things when they’re drunk that they think of when they’re sober…..cheekiness. Not selfishness. The drunken person is a reflection of the real person.

No apology no walk to the nearest off-license. That's awful, he is awful. I'm so sorry this sounds awful.

End it because he eat all of the Easter eggs,is a bit extreme to me .However it's the principle and the fact he doesn't have no regard to you or your children's feelings,on top of that this isn't his first time.Taking space from him ,which you already have done is the best step.Do not call or text him,unless the children ask to speak to him or see him.I would wait for him to text or call for an apology, hopefully he can take accountability for his actions if not ,it's best to just live separately and coparent.

What an absolute selfish prick

YANBU and also he wouldn’t have been asleep until 12 if he was my husband, he’d have been very rudely and abruptly woken up the minute I realised what he’d done. What a selfish AH and I’ll bet this isn’t the first time he’s done something so utterly selfish and then you’ve been the one trying to make amends on his behalf. Teach your children to be better than him. He should be ashamed.

I know what you and the kids NEED to do but I doubt very much you will do what you really should. AND you know it too. He's not going to change my love.

You are both BU. Him for getting drunk, munching the eggs, not apologising. You for over reacting and throwing him out over some eggs. If most of your marriage is sound then you both need to make up. And find a way to keep the choc away from him🤣. From one who always had to hide chocolate anything at my mum's so DH wouldn't eat it before the kids got it.

If this is a one off and he’d apologised, I would be inclined to forgive him, but I suspect this isn’t the first time, or second or third, that he’s acted so selfishly. You have to consider, do you think this is a sign of deeper issues? Is he going to come back from his mums and pretend like nothing happened? I think you need to take a hard look at where this relationship is heading. You may be married, and being single and a single parent may be scary, but is it worse than staying with someone who has so little regard for you and your kids?

He is a selfish, greedy twat, it's not the first time he has stolen chocolate meant for his children. And the fact he won't apologise and replace the chocolate meant for his children says volumes about the sort of person he is.

A low bar set there, sadly.

Yuk
He is not parent material
I don’t blame you asking him to leave

You're not remotely being unreasonable.

I'd be fuming. We all do daft stuff when drunk, even eating Easter eggs (although as an adult with dc I don't think I've been that drunk I'd eat the eggs without realising), but the first thing you do when you realise is race to the shop to replace them and spend the rest of the day trying your make it up to your wife and kids.

People who do things to that extreme when drunk have a problem with alcohol and shouldn't drink.

You're being unreasonable staying with him. Time to kick him out.

Did you miss the bit where he refuses to replace them and in general doesn’t give a shit?

I couldn't stay married to someone that nasty and spiteful to his own kids. I'd divorce him.