DS’s friend killed his hamster

[HamsterAccident]

To cut a long story short DS’s friend came round and held DS’s hamster, hamster nipped him (didn’t draw blood, but I’m sure it was a shock obviously), and friend flung hamster across the room, she landed on her back and died a little later.

DS is absolutely distraught and has vowed to cut friend out his life completely. They are year 6 age.

Any advice on how to manage this? I have reiterated that it was an accident but also I do blame myself as this friend is known to sometimes aggressively overreact with sibling so in hindsight I shouldn’t have let him hold her.

DS doesn’t have many friends so I feel really sad about the loss of this friendship, but I also see his point that even knowing it wasn’t intentional, it’s a hard thing to get over.

Violence. The OP said he was angry at the hamster. His words support this view.

@ChedderGorgeous oh you again, the one who can't read and comprehend posts.
OP never said they were age 6. Her opening post said they were Year 6 and some posters skim read and mistook it for 6 years old. OP corrected them.
Blaming the hamster is ridiculous. An animal reacted to protect itself.

Reflexes ? That's reassuring!

This was a while back. OP clarified the age confusion.

It’s Not ‘unfortunate’
The Kids an aggressive little monster that deliberately stood up and threw the animal over arm and killed it. How is that unfortunate
He showed no empathy and thought only of himself as did his mother.
The reaction is not normal and extremely worrying.
Id keep well away from people like that OP, they are dangerous and not worth your time or headspace.

@Tinysoxxx OP said the hamster nip didn't break the skin or draw blood. So very different from your description.

The one confused about the age of the boys was you. OP stated they were in Year 6, not aged 6. They are 11. Your lack of basic reading comprehension has been shown throughout the thread, where you also question the meaning of the word "flung", have also missed the point that the boy who flung the hamster and showed no concern for it afterwards, only anger, has a history of aggressive behaviour.

Too busy wittering on about Jesus to take in the basic facts.

The jury is still out for me on this one.

No one knows for absolute sure how they would react aged 11 if they were bitten by a rodent is all I'm saying, I don't think we should start berating the kid as though he's a murderer.

It's an inappropriate day for you to take a swipe at Jesus I must say. I think working out if it was a startled reaction to a bite which flung the hamster or a deliberate act, is core to the interpretation of the situation and I'm sorry you don't understand that.

HamsterAccident · Yesterday 15:37
Dutchesss · Yesterday 15:36

How did the friend react after having hurt the hamster? That would be the decider for me.
He was angry the hamster had nipped him and not concerned about the hamster tbh. But they are 11.

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after aged 10 (unless severe abuse cases/ trauma/ physical or mental illnesses )

children aged 10 and above should and would have developed the frontal lobe which teaches them right from wrong, morals and compassion

He is 11. And he showed no compassion, sadness or regret for this poor hamster. I’m sorry but that’s unforgivable.

Your son sounds amazing and he knows deep inside they it’s his right decision in not to associate with this boy. His gut is telling him. I’m so sorry your lovely boy had to witness this and lose his lovely pet. Please tell the teachers to keep an eye on this troubled boy. If children can hurt animals and show no remorse it rarely ends well.

I'm sorry you don't understand words, or emotions, or how to spell your own username.

I doubt the kid is on the thread. However
He acted aggressively which resulted in the animals death.
He’s a murderer.

If you had done a little research you would see that there is already a cheddargorgeous out there. Try to be kinder.

You are really not being harsh, OP. That boy is dangerous.

“Threw the animal over arm”?
This story is growing more dramatic…

I think we need OP to just come back and clarify the actions of the incident tbh. We can debate what we feel she meant for hours.

This action is not what OP said !

did You try GorgeousCheddar as an alternative since the one you wanted wasn’t available.
It’s a bit late now as I’ve just this minute taken it, but it was available.

As to the post.

The kids a nasty so and so.
Hes 11. Old enough to not react like he did. He deliberately threw your dcs hamster and I’d have nothing to do with him.
His mum isn’t dealing properly with it either. I’d have list my rag if my kid did this.
She bringing up a monster. Keep away OP

@Whereareallthemillionaires

I don't think your conclusion would be considered fair.

Manslaughter possibly, not murder.

Of course the kid isn't on here. Odd comment.

He acted aggressively because he was bitten by a rodent, i suspect it shocked him more than anything, he won't be petting hamsters or the like again in a hurry. I accept OPs son is upset but it's hardly worthy of label of murderer for the lad, that's extreme.

That's awkward as it was a nod to my favourite drag act!

Apologies others have been saying this but it’s not accurate. I now see
OP said

He was sitting
He stood up
And Flung his arm wide throwing the hamster across the living room.

Not overarm.
But clearly violent enough a throw to kill the animal.

In Y6, friendship groups change and shift anyway. I think your son will have difficulty seeing this person without thinking about what happened. They have a term left together and then secondary school will change friendship groups.

It may end their friendship, they may eventually become friends again. I think you need to step back and let whatever happens happen.

Oo yes. Very Elizabeth I

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