To be annoyed that DH spent €350!!

[MeAndMia]

DH just popped out to the shops. He said he needed a couple of pairs of jeans. He has gone to an outdoor clothing store (very pricey) and bought two pairs of jeans for €100 a pair and then a jacket for €150. He’s come back and I’m upset. We have so much to pay for this month. We are going on holiday and we also have a number of events that we are attending. We are not rich. DH’s argument is that he never buys clothes. He doesn’t buy clothes often but he has sports that he plays where the equipment is really expensive. In the last couple of months, that has been a big expense. I have asked DH to return the stuff and buy cheaper alternatives. He is really upset with me for this. AIBU?

If you budget better all year round, there would be no need to panic about one of you getting some clothes. If you have savings, then no you would not have needed to go "into the red" as you said. What is it that scares you about budgeting and challenging all the expenses, when you are willing to challenge your DH's one off clothes purchases?

If he works and has paid the bills, he's entitled to buy himself some clothes.

You can easily sort out excessive spending like this by giving each of you a certain amount each month for personal spends and putting it in a separate account for each of you.

If he spends more than you, you can have an agreement that he gets a bit more because his lifestyle is more expensive, but it's still capped to a certain amount each month so you know what to expect.

Me and DH do this - I spend a bit more than him, just because I socialise more and buy more expensive skincare products etc. So I get a bit more than him each month to cover this, but that's all agreed between us. It's still capped and stops you upsetting one another with sudden outlandish purchases like this. It just helps you both manage your money better.

Also this. You need to budget properly.

You should both be spending the same on your own things. Dh should not have more than you do.