Did anything good happen to you in your forties?

[Sashamalia]

To anyone over 40, I am not calling you old.

I just turned 40. And i feel sad.

I've bought into the marketing that women are over the hill at 40, and basically nothing good happens to us after that age.

I need to snap myself out of it

I don’t think there is any marketing that suggests that.

it’s the decade which women achieve the most.

I adopted a baby, and got a new job. It was great. Loved my forties. And my fifties. Just about to start my sixties and feeling great about that too

So far, I've bought my home, rescued a dog and got engaged.

The good thing.... I ended up with a surprise baby x

The bad thing.... her dad ☹️

Not where I thought I'd be.... but she brings me so much joy and she is adored by me and everyone around her xx I'm very proud xx but hoped that love for me would have been different.

Life gets better and better. As you get older you become more and more relaxed in being your self, and care less and less about conforming to anything else.

Being in my 40s was great. also periods stopped forever !! hooray!! love being free of the tyranny of monthly bleeds

40s was the best decade ever, until I experienced 50s!

My mother is in her 90s so she had 50 years ahead in her 40s.

I am in my mid 40’s and a huge benefit has been for he first decade not giving any shits what people think of me!

'I've bought into the marketing that women are over the hill at 40, and basically nothing good happens to us after that age.'

What marketing? Literally nothing anywhere says this.

You’re still young and glamorous in your 40s.

Nothing so far lol

Why your forties and not any other decades? And meaningful things can happen in any decade. I guess the only thing to be sad about is if you wanted biological children and you haven’t had them yet.

The reason 'they' tell you that is because older women aren't chasing male approval any more. We achieve more because we realise it's all bullshit and we are well on our way to our fuck-it fifties. It is liberating and fantastic. As long as you don't swallow the misogynist nonsense and try to chase youth rather than embrace wisdom and power.

Welcome to the best bit.

My forties was just a huge slog raising kids and working etc. Fifties have been slightly better so far !

I had our 3rd baby. Not planned but very welcomed.

I loved my 40s. Old enough to have more confidence and often more disposable income, but young enough to still be fabulous. Aside from that (as if it wasn’t enough), I left my husband of 29-years at the age of 48 and actually met the man of my dreams 🙂

Lots.

Happy to be still here (sadly have friends who passed away before their forties).

Left a fundamental religion and enjoying freedom.

Children are older so have a lot more independence. And more fun things to do with them.

Came here to say this! Love this about being in my 40s.

Really?. I think women are always being told through so many different mediums that they're only useful when they are young.

Several Men called me old when I turned 30!

Went to uni, which I'd wanted to do since a teenager, and got a first class Bsc. New professional career at 46

Well done! That's so great!

This! My friend said it would happen and it did. I was in my prime work wise, confident, then I got pregnant which I also took in my stride.

It's my sixties which are a real downer health wise

Of course. My 50s are better though.

My 30s were so so good and I’ve had a bumpy start to my 40s. I’ll be 42 on Sunday and dh has a high temperature so it’s not looking like it’ll be an amazing start to being 42. However, I’m studying a post grad qualification that’ll finish this year (if it doesn’t break me first), I have a decent paid job (not on mn but above average), amazing dh, 3dc who I love hanging out with and they like being with me (ages 12-16), lots of things planned - holidays, concerts etc. life is pretty good. I also gone far less shits to other people’s opinions.

I had a baby at 44. Then my career really took off in my late 40s. It was by best decade.

My career really took off. The children were more independent so I could work longer hours and had more energy. Greater experience, more assertiveness and a growing calm confidence gained me more respect than when I was younger.

My marriage became more equal and calmly supportive after the power-struggles of the early child-rearing years.