Cheeky Fckers

[thisisasurvivor]

I had a work trip on mon and Tue

Tue was a 12 hour day and was up since 4 working

My friend text at 9.30pm to let me know she needed to drop her soon uo at 8am
The next fcking day to be looked after

I text back that I was not even home yet

She didn't respond

7.40am next day knock on door
She dropped her son off

I was so angry/tired/ bewildered to go bat shit

SHE DIDNT TEXT AFTER TO EVEN SAY SORRY OR TO THANK me

I'm so done with letting this shit happen

Sorry I just need to vent

Next time she asks I need a firm response

No doesn't seem to work as she has been known to come up anyway and say she has no one

I'm a single parent and I work from home

She has dropped her kids to me many times while I work from home

Fcking cheek

She has many sister in laws who can step in wt f is she still as this utter shit

@Zonder for some CFs apparently the party never ends.

Well that's a very good point @KTheGrey 😄

I don’t understand why your sister just accepted this. Honestly, if have messaged back saying that if she doesn’t come back and pick her children up immediately I will call the police and report the children as having been abandoned.

You do not ask someone to have your kids for an hour and then fuck off out to brunch and say you won’t be picking them up till 3pm.

If the CFer an alcoholic who has tricked someone else onto having the kids and gone out drinking? This level of piss taking flakiness is genuinely astounding.

I think my first reaction would be to report the children as abandoned too. But that would be so traumatic for the children and they don't deserve that. Obvs if someone dumps their kids on you and disappears for days, that's a different story.

No, I think the best thing to do in this case is get the kids home or to a relative by hook or by crook and then learn your lesson from the experience.

I think the husband should be getting a ration of shit on this, but as usual he isn't. I'm sure OP and her DSis probably don't have his phone number, but if I did have it I'd be giving him an earful, too. I can't believe he doesn't know she dumps their kids all over creation and then skips off to play for the day.

I’m just catching up on this and trying to work it out, as it seems a tad ridiculous. But these kids are now at a party that they’ve not been invited to? And the CF is expected to go pick the up from there? On time?

What could possibly go wrong?

I don’t think it would be unnecessarily traumatic for the kids. After all their mum does this regularly and probably dumps them on a group of suckers. This isn’t the first time she’s dumped them and disappeared off - and that is not good for the kids.

involving the police when she abandons her kids - and it is abandoning them - means there will be intervention to ensure she and her husband are actually looking after their kids and making appropriate arrangements for childcare.

I don’t think the police and going to swoop in and take the kids. They’re likely to confirm that the sister will continue to look after the kids (since they are safe with her) while officers locate the parents and deal with them appropriately.

Maybe having the police turn up at brunch might make the CF realise she’s a dreadful mum.

Have the poor bleddy kids been collected from the party yet?

This woman takes being a CF to a whole new level...

OP you may not be able /willing to report this to the police but you can share your concerns anonymously with NSPCC or your local social services. I’m not an expert but some of this behaviour feels like it potentially raises safeguarding issues.

The only way that this Cheeky Fucker (yes, you can type the full word out and sometimes it is actually cathartic to do just that) manages to wangle it is because no one, not you, not your sister, no one has actually shouted from the rooftops
"NO YOU ABSOLUTE PIECE OF DISCARDED CHEWING GUM! WE WILL NOT LOOK AFTER YOUR CHILDREN FOR FREE OR AT ALL. YOU HAVE USED UP ALL OF OUR GOOD WILL AND GOING TO A BRUNCH FOR YOU DOES NOT CONSTITUTE AN EMERGENCY ON MY PART. SORT YOUR OWN CHILDCARE ISSUES OUT WITHOUT PREYING ON THE KINDNESS OF OTHERS. PAY A CHILDMINDER FFS!!!!!"

Yes I did mean to type that out in all capital letters because someone needs to shout in her face that this is not acceptable.

Your sister needs to, on a professional footing, contacting child services because she was told that it would be for 1 hour and several hours later, they are still there and she can't get hold of the mother or the father.

It's the only thing that will work at this point.

Yes they have

My cousin told me she rocked up at half 4

Original pick up time 3

She has not text my sister does not seem very happy with her right now

Oh the irony

It appears she is peeved that we got her mother involved too

She's a cow and is used to people bending sideways for her

This is after she dropped kids to my sister for one hour then text it will be 3pm

My sister had to bring her kids to party
My cousin stepped in to offer lifts

And yea it is utterly ridiculous

Maybe if she had said to my sister when she dropped them off so sorry it will now be a lot later than I said my sister could have made her mind up there and then

Or at least have the fcking option

I stopped it a while ago

I did not directly let today happen now come on

When the nit picking. Starts

Is today my fault now too?

Well done CF
Well done

Your sister needs to contact her 'After today's 'one hour' turned into 8.5 hours, I will no longer be available to look after your children.'

And then block the fucker.

Exactly !!!

Rather than say nothing
Which is the mistake I made

Please tell me you've blocked her.

You and your sister should call the NSPCC and report serious safeguarding concerns.

These are serious safeguarding concerns. This woman (and her husband) are routinely abandoning their children with people and turning up many hours later with no communication.

And that’s the shitty parenting that you can see here. What the fuck goes on behind closed doors?

It is a big problem to agree 1 hour of childcare and then turn up 9 or so hours later. If she did it to a nursery or childminder, they’d call social services.

What did I tell you 😂

Completely agree.
She gets away with this because people let her. Even so often she drops a gift or returns a favour and theoretically is forgiven and therefore permitted to do exactly the same thing again.

Mg sister won't

She has had enough and is just exhausted now

I have her blocked

Too much time wasted for her and she does so little

Fwiw she was never a good friend
When I fled d v she was trying to get all the details out of me when I just wanted to hide away
She was a real gossip relaying it back to her wider family etc
One of those types sadly

You won't do anything to stop this woman dumping her children on other kind and generous people (like your sister or yourself) and you've just said your sister won't do anything either?
If you won't do it for the mother in this situation, why wouldn't you step in and do something for her poor kids??? They didn't ask to be in these situations but they are clearly being left in them because their own parents are such shitty people.

Do it for their kids.

If you don't do anything, then by your own inaction you're also part of the problem here.

@thisisasurvivor

I really do hope you and your sister find your rage and make sure you direct it at CF

Another vote here for reporting her. As others have said this is a form of neglect and if she's doing this how do you know she's not e.g. leaving them home alone when it suits her? It is good you are now saying no but I am surprised neither of you feel confident enough to say to her - this behaviour is not OK. Abandoning your children and treating people like your servants is not OK. We will no longer enable you.

I would also second the reporting . And as your Sister is a Dr then really it is her moral responsibility as a Health Care Professional to do so .

It will carry more clout too .

If your sister had contacted the resturant and got them to relay a message "Excuse me CF , we have a Dr SisterofSurvivor on the phone and she says you must get home immediately . No she didn't say why but said it was imperative you got home now"

Not saying there's a medical emergency , that is cruel to lie like that , but enough to shift her arse .
It would have showed her up in front of her fellow brunchers

Are you going to persue her for the owed money ? Then block her .

Reminds of when my friend had this open weekend where people came to stay in tents in her garden (I didn’t go, I don’t camp). One couple asked her to look after their toddler whilst they popped to the shop in the town about 10 minutes away.
They came back 7 hours later, after refusing to answer the phone, after deciding to have a day out as ‘they never have time on their own’. Apparently toddler had never been left before and cried all day. They didn’t think they had done anything wrong.