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Asked for help in ASDA and she had a breakdown.

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Springingintolife · 28/03/2024 12:54

Not sure what I'm asking about being unreasonable for, but am I unreasonable to be shocked?

So it was my fault. I had gotten round and started scanning things on the self checkout after having done my whole shop and realised I had take my card out of my pocket and left it on the side at home. I'm a single mum with a condition which affects my memory, so I have to check 100 times for things before I leave the house but this morning DD was taking her time getting ready for school and I was being picked up by a local minibus service as soon as I had dropped her off and was in a rush.

But I had some ASDA vouchers on my phone from free school meals for the holidays and £7 in cash as I had had a 10 euro note lying around and had cashed it in at the beaureu de change booth. (Remembered that but couldn't remember my card!). My phone doesn't let me do that google pay thing, as it isn't a good enough phone.

I explained to the supervisor that I wanted to cancel my order and put some bits back and he took me to the customer services, but the lady was talking to some of her friends for ages. Eventually I explained to her the situation and told her that I wanted to just scan enough for £37 and put the rest back. She didn't help me figure it out, but just cancelled what I scanned so far.

So I went and grabbed one of those scan and go things as I have an account with them, so I could add up the most important parts of my shopping and put back anything over £37.

Anyway, after I had spent about half an hour doing this, I had 15 minutes left until the minibus was leaving and I went over to the bit to pay for scan and go. As I never use cash, I didn't know that you couldn't pay for cash at the scan and go bit, as it doesn't actually say that when you queue up, and I'd never tried to before, so it wasn't something that crossed my mind.

I scanned the vouchers I had on my phone and had £5.53 left to pay. It was only then that I noticed that there was nowhere on the machine to put cash into.

So I called for assistance to explain, thinking they could maybe transfer my payment over to customer services for me to pay the rest in cash, or help me re-scan everything in the self service bit.

When a different girl came over this time, I calmly explained the situation and she looked at the screen and got really stressy, saying she didn't know what to do, as I'd used gift vouchers for some of my shopping. So she asked for help on her headset and I think they told her to find a supervisor and she stomped off (I think they said this, because she walked over to the cash registers and the ladies on the minibus later mentioned in passing, that they had gotten the supervisors to man the cash registers as it was a bit busier than usual).

As she was stomping off, a lady with limited english was trying to get to the self service tills for trolleys and she was getting aggravated at them for walking through the scan and go to get to the self scan for trolleys, next to it. Kept shouting at them to leave the scan and go back around to get into the two person queue, but they didn't understand. She had a huge loud huff about it, threw her arms up and walked off.

But on her way to the cash registers, she let out a huge shout and said "I'm OUT", and kicked her headset angrily across the floor. I don't know if she threw it on the floor or if it fell off her head first, before she kicked it. I wasn't watching I only looked up and saw her because of her shouting and huffing.

Then she walked past me and in the opposite direction to the customer service desk, and never came back. A lady who had witnessed it all (customer) looked and me and said "I'm standing back", as this staff member had been so angry walking past her.

There was no one left in the scan and go area, and I couldn't press the button again for assistance, as she hadn't scanned her pass to reset it. I couldn't just cancel the transaction and go to self scan as I had already scanned my vouchers on my phone and would have lost them.

After about 5 minutes, another worker came into the scan and go and started helping other people. I asked her if the girl was coming back and she said 'no.' I said 'did she just quit?' and she said 'no, she just...' and kinda sighed with exasperation. I asked her for help and she looked at the screen and said 'yeah i know', and scanned her pass to reset the assistance screen and walked off. I had to wait for her to finish with new customers and then asked her for help again and she got really annoyed at me and said 'it's because you can't use cash here'. I calmly said, 'yes I know, but it was a mistake, I didn't realise.' She walked off again. I was about to just leave my £5.53 cash at the customer services desk and walk out, as I'd been standing there for ten minutes now waiting for help, and the minibus was due to leave, when the man next to me (who was also annoyed as he had just been made to re-scan his entire shop for picking up 2 different flavours of hams on an offer, instead of 2 the same) paid for me on his card and I gave him my cash. So the staff were refusing to help me otherwise.

I know I created the situation with my forgetfulness and not realising I couldn't pay cash until too late, but surely there's a better way to handle someone having made a mistake and asking for help to pay. They were all huffing and puffing about having to help customers, and normally they're just standing around chatting, so it seemed like they just didn't like having to engage with people for that busy day.

I was wondering if I should complain, but maybe the girl who shouted and kicked her headset across the shop after my request blew her mind, had been having a bad moment in her life.

OP posts:
ElaineRaige · 28/03/2024 13:50

I've never used self service. My PA usually does my weekly shop.

MindHowYouGoes · 28/03/2024 13:52

I used to work in a supermarket and I think I would put in a complaint about how unsupported the staff were - she went off to find a supervisor and came back without one so chances are she didn’t find anyone to help.

at my supermarket often the managers would all fuck off for lunch together all at the same time so you’d be rushing around looking for one - nobody. Either that or they would all be hiding in the office which had a keypad lock on it. You had to knock on the door and wait - it was 50/50 if they’d open it or just ignore you. Put a call out on the tannoy and nobody would come. So I’m aware that I’m projecting massively but I wouldn’t complain about the staff member but I would state that there seemed to be a lack of support or training

Springingintolife · 28/03/2024 13:53

ElaineRaige · 28/03/2024 13:50

I've never used self service. My PA usually does my weekly shop.

😂

OP posts:
Pinkdelight3 · 28/03/2024 13:54

MorrisZapp · 28/03/2024 13:05

I guess both of you had a bad day. I'd move on and forget it.

This. You want people to make allowances for you so do the same for them. Sure they're staff, but they're humans too and dealing with many people like you and worse, pushing them to the brink. Ask for better signage at most.

Theunamedcat · 28/03/2024 13:54

Springingintolife · 28/03/2024 13:42

Thanks Jantesmug :) I noticed one of the people trying to be testy with me on here keeps coming back with additional comments, but that made me realise they're doing it just to try and create some aggravation, for whatever reason.

Honestly it's always freaking asda with the bad training and poor management I was instructed by asda to return an item to my local store for return to the warehouse they refused because they don't stock that item we had to get asda customer services to ring the store for the manager to scream at them (instead of me) and eventually take the item he never sent it back and I couldn't get a refund until I complained again 😒

He left!

The next manager thought it was really REALLY good idea to put a lady with an extreme fear of covid in a position where she had to interact closely with the public (during the height of the pandemic) this resulted in her screaming social distancing to any customer who approached her and ended up with her hysterical and screaming when a customer persisted in asking for her to help she literally ran up the shop howling

Another asda branch tried telling me there was no two for £2 offer on grapes its...its printed on the packaging? (Looks) oh yes I didn't notice....

Pinkdelight3 · 28/03/2024 14:00

Oh and saying you weren't having a bad day is disingenuous. Even if you were in a jolly mood about it, you said yourself you were in a rush, forgot your card, and then got into these repeatedly pickles. It was objectively a bad day and I find it hard to believe you weren't flustered/frustrated, especially when you're flagging up things like how long it took you, how the customer services bod didn't do things for you, how the minibus was about to leave. If that's you in a good mood, I'd love some of the drugs you're on!

LolaSmiles · 28/03/2024 14:03

On reflection if you wanted to put a complaint and there wasn't any notice of card only machines (Vs you missing it or not noticing when you started scanning) then that's something to raise.
It might also be worth suggesting there's a clearer standard approach where someone has insufficient means to pay on self service. Eg instead of messing around with vouchers vs scraps of cash, rescanning partial orders, just take that customer straight to a human checkout queue where someone can establish what they can pay for

SplitFountainPen · 28/03/2024 14:03

Every time I go in asda the staff seem stressed and rude.
Aldi they always seem very cheerful though a bit unprofessional at times.
Tesco are usually very professional and calm.
Lidl there are barely any staff to assess.

DSD9472 · 28/03/2024 14:09

Surely the FIRST time you got to the check out and realised you didn't have your card, you just use the scanner to delete items off and put them back on the shelf? Rather than deleting the entire order at the service desk. 🤔

Phrogg · 28/03/2024 14:14

Could you possibly afford a better phone so you can install Google Pay? It's brilliant if you forget your purse or card. You can buy affordable second hand phones from places like Cex.

poetryandwine · 28/03/2024 14:18

OP, I am sorry this happened and I think you have a reasonable case for a complaint. Whether it is worth the energy only you know.

I have heard a lot recently about poor customer service at ASDA. Oddly the customer service at my local ASDA is excellent. But even great staff cannot magic up merchandise for the rows and rows of empty shelves. I think ASDA are in trouble and as I have never been enamoured of their merch TBH I wouldn’t mind getting one of the other big supermarkets into their space.

WhatNoRaisins · 28/03/2024 14:20

It sounds like you're in a difficult situation with having a memory condition and I assume no local supermarket and being dependent on a lift. You did the best you could and I think that supermarket needs a better system for assisting someone that has forgotten a card and needs to edit their shop, you can't have been the first person to do that.

TitusMoan · 28/03/2024 14:21

Springingintolife · 28/03/2024 13:24

No I can't, soz :)

’I was in Asda. A staff member there was unable to deal with my query and kicked her headset across the floor’.

HTH

Seriously, learn to sift out the relevant facts…

Hecate01 · 28/03/2024 14:27

If I had a pound for every time the customer claims not to have seen the card only sign I could have quit retail a long time before I did. Same goes for the button that asks you do you want a receipt, apparently the machine just doesn't give them it's not customer error 🤦‍♀️

Is it worth complaining? Depends how honest you are, if you say that you were on the card only checkout trying to pay with cash then yes complain but if you are going to gloss over that fact then don't. Staff always get into trouble because customers don't tell the whole story.

DSD9472 · 28/03/2024 14:27

I had had a 10 euro note lying around and had cashed it in at the beaureu de change booth.

What relevance does this have???

Carelesswispalover · 28/03/2024 14:30

I would absolutely complain. I can understand someone having a bad day, but the second assistant wasn't exactly helpful either.
I work in a customer environment, and frankly if we behaved this way we'd be hauled over the coals, and rightly so. We have targets to meet that specifically revolve around customer satisfaction, as I'm sure Asda have too.
They need to have a really good look at the staff culture, training, and attitude there, how hard is it to be helpful to someone who was being perfectly nice, be different if you'd been nasty or ranting!

LolaJ87 · 28/03/2024 14:30

People are really going hard at someone who says in the OP that SHE HAS A BRAIN INJURY.

Not everyone processes things the same way and some people need help sometimes, that's why there are customer service staff. Some of the attitudes here are disgusting.

TurtleMoon · 28/03/2024 14:35

TitusMoan · 28/03/2024 14:21

’I was in Asda. A staff member there was unable to deal with my query and kicked her headset across the floor’.

HTH

Seriously, learn to sift out the relevant facts…

OP has a brain condition. It doesn't seem implausible that this would affect her ability to recount a story concisely. Ironically, if you had "sifted out the relevant facts", you'd have known this.

Seriously, learn to show some compassion...

justasking111 · 28/03/2024 14:35

I've forgotten my purse before, stuck everything in customer service gone home got my purse and gone back to pay

TurtleMoon · 28/03/2024 14:38

justasking111 · 28/03/2024 14:35

I've forgotten my purse before, stuck everything in customer service gone home got my purse and gone back to pay

Same. OP was reliant on a minibus service though so presumably wasn't able to do this.

Springingintolife · 28/03/2024 14:38

justasking111 · 28/03/2024 14:35

I've forgotten my purse before, stuck everything in customer service gone home got my purse and gone back to pay

i don't have a car. i was there on a weekly minibus service for people with disabilities and the elderly.

OP posts:
Doteycat · 28/03/2024 14:46

Jesus some of ye are so fucking rude.
What woukd i expect from a complaint?
A big fat apology. Flowers. And a big fat fucking voucher thats what.
How dare they think their staff should carry on like that and think nothing should happen?
Oh id bloody complain alright. Loudly. And id expect something bloody decent from them for their appalling service.
Fuck me some of ye are just rude as fuck to people in distress. Are ye this nasty in real life?

ArcticOwl · 28/03/2024 14:46

as someone who used to work for a supermarket. She should have pended your transaction, then taken you and the receipt it spits out to the CS desk for them to scan that receipt, pick up the transaction on their till, and allow you to pay.

justasking111 · 28/03/2024 14:49

Doteycat · 28/03/2024 14:46

Jesus some of ye are so fucking rude.
What woukd i expect from a complaint?
A big fat apology. Flowers. And a big fat fucking voucher thats what.
How dare they think their staff should carry on like that and think nothing should happen?
Oh id bloody complain alright. Loudly. And id expect something bloody decent from them for their appalling service.
Fuck me some of ye are just rude as fuck to people in distress. Are ye this nasty in real life?

Well I don't respond to potty mouths like you or hysterical supermarket workers

Carelesswispalover · 28/03/2024 14:50

I agree people have been so harsh to the OP, probably most of them unfulfilled supermarket workers who think it's ok to treat people like shit.
And I say that as someone who worked in a supermarket for 6 years, and always showed as much compassion as I could.
OP please complain to Asda head office, they need to be be called out for this behaviour.