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Asked for help in ASDA and she had a breakdown.

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Springingintolife · 28/03/2024 12:54

Not sure what I'm asking about being unreasonable for, but am I unreasonable to be shocked?

So it was my fault. I had gotten round and started scanning things on the self checkout after having done my whole shop and realised I had take my card out of my pocket and left it on the side at home. I'm a single mum with a condition which affects my memory, so I have to check 100 times for things before I leave the house but this morning DD was taking her time getting ready for school and I was being picked up by a local minibus service as soon as I had dropped her off and was in a rush.

But I had some ASDA vouchers on my phone from free school meals for the holidays and £7 in cash as I had had a 10 euro note lying around and had cashed it in at the beaureu de change booth. (Remembered that but couldn't remember my card!). My phone doesn't let me do that google pay thing, as it isn't a good enough phone.

I explained to the supervisor that I wanted to cancel my order and put some bits back and he took me to the customer services, but the lady was talking to some of her friends for ages. Eventually I explained to her the situation and told her that I wanted to just scan enough for £37 and put the rest back. She didn't help me figure it out, but just cancelled what I scanned so far.

So I went and grabbed one of those scan and go things as I have an account with them, so I could add up the most important parts of my shopping and put back anything over £37.

Anyway, after I had spent about half an hour doing this, I had 15 minutes left until the minibus was leaving and I went over to the bit to pay for scan and go. As I never use cash, I didn't know that you couldn't pay for cash at the scan and go bit, as it doesn't actually say that when you queue up, and I'd never tried to before, so it wasn't something that crossed my mind.

I scanned the vouchers I had on my phone and had £5.53 left to pay. It was only then that I noticed that there was nowhere on the machine to put cash into.

So I called for assistance to explain, thinking they could maybe transfer my payment over to customer services for me to pay the rest in cash, or help me re-scan everything in the self service bit.

When a different girl came over this time, I calmly explained the situation and she looked at the screen and got really stressy, saying she didn't know what to do, as I'd used gift vouchers for some of my shopping. So she asked for help on her headset and I think they told her to find a supervisor and she stomped off (I think they said this, because she walked over to the cash registers and the ladies on the minibus later mentioned in passing, that they had gotten the supervisors to man the cash registers as it was a bit busier than usual).

As she was stomping off, a lady with limited english was trying to get to the self service tills for trolleys and she was getting aggravated at them for walking through the scan and go to get to the self scan for trolleys, next to it. Kept shouting at them to leave the scan and go back around to get into the two person queue, but they didn't understand. She had a huge loud huff about it, threw her arms up and walked off.

But on her way to the cash registers, she let out a huge shout and said "I'm OUT", and kicked her headset angrily across the floor. I don't know if she threw it on the floor or if it fell off her head first, before she kicked it. I wasn't watching I only looked up and saw her because of her shouting and huffing.

Then she walked past me and in the opposite direction to the customer service desk, and never came back. A lady who had witnessed it all (customer) looked and me and said "I'm standing back", as this staff member had been so angry walking past her.

There was no one left in the scan and go area, and I couldn't press the button again for assistance, as she hadn't scanned her pass to reset it. I couldn't just cancel the transaction and go to self scan as I had already scanned my vouchers on my phone and would have lost them.

After about 5 minutes, another worker came into the scan and go and started helping other people. I asked her if the girl was coming back and she said 'no.' I said 'did she just quit?' and she said 'no, she just...' and kinda sighed with exasperation. I asked her for help and she looked at the screen and said 'yeah i know', and scanned her pass to reset the assistance screen and walked off. I had to wait for her to finish with new customers and then asked her for help again and she got really annoyed at me and said 'it's because you can't use cash here'. I calmly said, 'yes I know, but it was a mistake, I didn't realise.' She walked off again. I was about to just leave my £5.53 cash at the customer services desk and walk out, as I'd been standing there for ten minutes now waiting for help, and the minibus was due to leave, when the man next to me (who was also annoyed as he had just been made to re-scan his entire shop for picking up 2 different flavours of hams on an offer, instead of 2 the same) paid for me on his card and I gave him my cash. So the staff were refusing to help me otherwise.

I know I created the situation with my forgetfulness and not realising I couldn't pay cash until too late, but surely there's a better way to handle someone having made a mistake and asking for help to pay. They were all huffing and puffing about having to help customers, and normally they're just standing around chatting, so it seemed like they just didn't like having to engage with people for that busy day.

I was wondering if I should complain, but maybe the girl who shouted and kicked her headset across the shop after my request blew her mind, had been having a bad moment in her life.

OP posts:
MagsterMum · 30/03/2024 00:17

I've stopped shopping at Asda mainly due to their customer service, several times at the tills and other times when prices on the shelves are usually lower at what they've scanned at the till andive either brought it up with them at the tills or because ive paid and realised and gone back taken a photo of the shelf and had to go to the customer service desk. I know it's not the staff members fault, but they tend to take their frustration out on me for some reason with a lot of huffing and puffing and on occasion ignoring me. As I type this it cones across it is me lol, but I can honestly say it's not! Lol

Nolongera · 30/03/2024 09:08

Nightmare customers are nightmare customers ,fact.

You deal with 300 people a day, 95% are fine, 4% are difficult and 1 % are a nightmare.

That means 12 difficult customers and 3 nightmare. On top of everything else you have to do.

Sometimes those numbers change, too many nightmare customers are enough to push anyone over the edge.

All this for a few pence over minimum wage.

People saying if they don't like it they shouldn't be there. Increasingly, they aren't.

I started work in 1980.

Since then I have seen every place I have worked at demanding more and more from it's staff while constantly looking for ways to pay them less and less.

This is why so many jobs, particularly dealing with the public, struggle to recruit and retain staff.

PooSniffer · 30/03/2024 09:11

Asda had completely sold out of Easter eggs days ago and have not replaced their stock. What’s going on with that place?!

whistleblower99 · 30/03/2024 09:17

Nightmare customer. I find the post hard work let alone watching all the fussing over a shop.

SevenSeasOfRhye · 30/03/2024 10:34

PooSniffer · 30/03/2024 09:11

Asda had completely sold out of Easter eggs days ago and have not replaced their stock. What’s going on with that place?!

Well, you've had since 26th December to buy an Easter egg😁

WhatNoRaisins · 30/03/2024 10:35

Maybe it's because it's an early Easter but so many people have been last minute egg shopping this year.

Notinthemood12 · 30/03/2024 10:48

RockHardCake · 29/03/2024 20:16

You messed around too much OP, the staff are busy and stressed, they don’t have time for people making such a kerfuffle

Make sure you have a bank card next time and enough money to actually pay for the stuff you’re buying

This, people are at the edge of what they can tolerate these days, and it’s a minimum wage stressful job

Eastre · 30/03/2024 12:12

OP - the normal way to shop is to go in, get what you need, pay for it and then leave.

What’s not normal is to go in, fill your trolley without any consideration as to how you’re going to pay for it … end up putting all your shit back … restarting your shop … partaking in a spot of currency conversion… returning items in order to reach a specific cost … and then not having the bloody means to pay for it all - all whilst expecting busy staff members to assist you in all this faffing about.

I felt stressed out just reading your post! That poor staff member deserves a raise, not a telling off.

Theunamedcat · 30/03/2024 13:43

Notinthemood12 · 30/03/2024 10:48

This, people are at the edge of what they can tolerate these days, and it’s a minimum wage stressful job

But apparently its better than teaching

Thoraxia · 30/03/2024 14:25

I had to send my 8yo to get her dad as the shop i was in wouldnt take my type of card MC and my other one was also MC.

Ive not seen the machine not take card. At all, only some in a bank of machines be card only. All is definitely silly.

Poshladyjane · 30/03/2024 18:41

BandyMcBandface · 29/03/2024 19:04

Whatever happened to the Be Kind movement?

Hopefully fucked off back from whence it came

Vile!

eastereggsrock · 31/03/2024 15:49

Toenailz · 29/03/2024 21:35

Clearly your level of education is such that you cannot understand that plenty of people work in shops whom I can assure you are a fair bit wealthier and more educated than you.

You do understand that even business owners, with successful shops, quite often work on their own tills, don't you? Some of the most successful people I know, do. Absolutely raking it in. Because they're intelligent, educated in business, and hard working enough to sweep their own floors, serve their customers, hell, they even clean the shops toilets themselves..

I wouldn't be seen dead spouting the same vile, classist views you do. It doesn't have a place in society today. Much sooner screw up my nose at people such as you, than retail workers, you lot really gross me out and, having witnessed attitudes like yours in shops, it sends a fucking shiver up my spine. Absolutely something not quite right with these types of people that makes me seriously uncomfortable around you.

Off you fuck.

Well said @Toenailz, maybe @Friedchickenrocks could enlighten us as to what profession he/she has been in for last few decades, or maybe they haven’t, they just sit on the settee slagging people off!

Friedchickenrocks · 31/03/2024 21:52

eastereggsrock · 31/03/2024 15:49

Well said @Toenailz, maybe @Friedchickenrocks could enlighten us as to what profession he/she has been in for last few decades, or maybe they haven’t, they just sit on the settee slagging people off!

None of your business. I am entitled to my opinion no matter what I do for a living.

Cocoda · 03/04/2024 02:57

ScroogeMcDuckling · 28/03/2024 13:25

I’m sorry, but what actually happened?

you’ve got euros, you’ve got pounds, you’ve not got a card, every shop assistant has been awful, I’m sorry to say, I’m struggling to retain the information that you have given

It's pretty straightforward, actually! And OP is not being unreasonable to complain, if she chooses to. The staff are there to do a job i. e. to provide help and assistance to customers. This girl's behaviour was unacceptable and disgraceful short of staff of not.

Cocoda · 03/04/2024 03:01

Eastre · 30/03/2024 12:12

OP - the normal way to shop is to go in, get what you need, pay for it and then leave.

What’s not normal is to go in, fill your trolley without any consideration as to how you’re going to pay for it … end up putting all your shit back … restarting your shop … partaking in a spot of currency conversion… returning items in order to reach a specific cost … and then not having the bloody means to pay for it all - all whilst expecting busy staff members to assist you in all this faffing about.

I felt stressed out just reading your post! That poor staff member deserves a raise, not a telling off.

Great attitude you have! 👏
You must have has Asda training ..

ScroogeMcDuckling · 03/04/2024 04:34

Cocoda · 03/04/2024 02:57

It's pretty straightforward, actually! And OP is not being unreasonable to complain, if she chooses to. The staff are there to do a job i. e. to provide help and assistance to customers. This girl's behaviour was unacceptable and disgraceful short of staff of not.

Cocoda

im not sure why you have specifically written to me and Eastre, although Eastre gives a fantastic breakdown of the original ops thread.

Like has being pointed in another thread, where a lady with a brain injury in Tesco felt she was badly treated by staff, it’s not just the customers who wear sunflower sashes.

ANiceBigCupOfTea · 04/04/2024 06:18

LolaJ87 · 28/03/2024 14:30

People are really going hard at someone who says in the OP that SHE HAS A BRAIN INJURY.

Not everyone processes things the same way and some people need help sometimes, that's why there are customer service staff. Some of the attitudes here are disgusting.

Totally agree.
Plus in any form of customer service atm (source- I'm a manager in customer service), we have to make sure there is additional support provided for people with disabilities.
The customer service received was absolutely shite and they surely could have just finished up on the card only till with your vouchers then moved you over to a cash till to pay for the rest.
People saying things like you should have gone home and come back - OP said clearly she uses a mini bus, maybe there was only one on that day, who knows.
This is a thread where genuinely a lot of people's privilege is showing.

WhatNoRaisins · 04/04/2024 07:03

Agree, all that you should have done this and I just do that isn't helpful for someone living with a disability, no local supermarket (yes these places exist) and dependent on a minibus trip to access one. That's a hard way to live and the OP is most likely doing her best in a difficult set up.

Racheltension1 · 04/04/2024 12:27

So basically...you left your cash card in the house? 500 word essay to try to justify and explain the massively overcomplicated pickle you got yourself in from that point on? 😄

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