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Asked for help in ASDA and she had a breakdown.

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Springingintolife · 28/03/2024 12:54

Not sure what I'm asking about being unreasonable for, but am I unreasonable to be shocked?

So it was my fault. I had gotten round and started scanning things on the self checkout after having done my whole shop and realised I had take my card out of my pocket and left it on the side at home. I'm a single mum with a condition which affects my memory, so I have to check 100 times for things before I leave the house but this morning DD was taking her time getting ready for school and I was being picked up by a local minibus service as soon as I had dropped her off and was in a rush.

But I had some ASDA vouchers on my phone from free school meals for the holidays and £7 in cash as I had had a 10 euro note lying around and had cashed it in at the beaureu de change booth. (Remembered that but couldn't remember my card!). My phone doesn't let me do that google pay thing, as it isn't a good enough phone.

I explained to the supervisor that I wanted to cancel my order and put some bits back and he took me to the customer services, but the lady was talking to some of her friends for ages. Eventually I explained to her the situation and told her that I wanted to just scan enough for £37 and put the rest back. She didn't help me figure it out, but just cancelled what I scanned so far.

So I went and grabbed one of those scan and go things as I have an account with them, so I could add up the most important parts of my shopping and put back anything over £37.

Anyway, after I had spent about half an hour doing this, I had 15 minutes left until the minibus was leaving and I went over to the bit to pay for scan and go. As I never use cash, I didn't know that you couldn't pay for cash at the scan and go bit, as it doesn't actually say that when you queue up, and I'd never tried to before, so it wasn't something that crossed my mind.

I scanned the vouchers I had on my phone and had £5.53 left to pay. It was only then that I noticed that there was nowhere on the machine to put cash into.

So I called for assistance to explain, thinking they could maybe transfer my payment over to customer services for me to pay the rest in cash, or help me re-scan everything in the self service bit.

When a different girl came over this time, I calmly explained the situation and she looked at the screen and got really stressy, saying she didn't know what to do, as I'd used gift vouchers for some of my shopping. So she asked for help on her headset and I think they told her to find a supervisor and she stomped off (I think they said this, because she walked over to the cash registers and the ladies on the minibus later mentioned in passing, that they had gotten the supervisors to man the cash registers as it was a bit busier than usual).

As she was stomping off, a lady with limited english was trying to get to the self service tills for trolleys and she was getting aggravated at them for walking through the scan and go to get to the self scan for trolleys, next to it. Kept shouting at them to leave the scan and go back around to get into the two person queue, but they didn't understand. She had a huge loud huff about it, threw her arms up and walked off.

But on her way to the cash registers, she let out a huge shout and said "I'm OUT", and kicked her headset angrily across the floor. I don't know if she threw it on the floor or if it fell off her head first, before she kicked it. I wasn't watching I only looked up and saw her because of her shouting and huffing.

Then she walked past me and in the opposite direction to the customer service desk, and never came back. A lady who had witnessed it all (customer) looked and me and said "I'm standing back", as this staff member had been so angry walking past her.

There was no one left in the scan and go area, and I couldn't press the button again for assistance, as she hadn't scanned her pass to reset it. I couldn't just cancel the transaction and go to self scan as I had already scanned my vouchers on my phone and would have lost them.

After about 5 minutes, another worker came into the scan and go and started helping other people. I asked her if the girl was coming back and she said 'no.' I said 'did she just quit?' and she said 'no, she just...' and kinda sighed with exasperation. I asked her for help and she looked at the screen and said 'yeah i know', and scanned her pass to reset the assistance screen and walked off. I had to wait for her to finish with new customers and then asked her for help again and she got really annoyed at me and said 'it's because you can't use cash here'. I calmly said, 'yes I know, but it was a mistake, I didn't realise.' She walked off again. I was about to just leave my £5.53 cash at the customer services desk and walk out, as I'd been standing there for ten minutes now waiting for help, and the minibus was due to leave, when the man next to me (who was also annoyed as he had just been made to re-scan his entire shop for picking up 2 different flavours of hams on an offer, instead of 2 the same) paid for me on his card and I gave him my cash. So the staff were refusing to help me otherwise.

I know I created the situation with my forgetfulness and not realising I couldn't pay cash until too late, but surely there's a better way to handle someone having made a mistake and asking for help to pay. They were all huffing and puffing about having to help customers, and normally they're just standing around chatting, so it seemed like they just didn't like having to engage with people for that busy day.

I was wondering if I should complain, but maybe the girl who shouted and kicked her headset across the shop after my request blew her mind, had been having a bad moment in her life.

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InTheShallowTheShalalalalalalalow · 28/03/2024 15:54

If you have a disability, and a phone with apple/Google pay would improve your life op there are charities that can help out.

It's very area dependent, but worth having a look online and applying where you can.

Edit - stupid mistakes

justasking111 · 28/03/2024 15:56

ASDA is going through turmoil. Staff being treated dreadfully, ditto suppliers. The brothers that bought it have bitten off more than they can chew.

I wouldn't risk online shopping with them the quality of fresh goods is poor. Their prices are erratic and different at the checkout.

Bizin34710 · 28/03/2024 15:57

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You're on the wrong thread. Suggest you start your own. And you will get a far better response.

exiledfromcornwall · 28/03/2024 15:59

The simple act of shopping has been made so complicated, I feel sorry for everyone who has to deal with it, customers and staff. That said, it does sound like there are some serious issues with this particular branch. I would have been majorly stressed out in your shoes OP.

Anguish · 28/03/2024 16:03

Springingintolife · 28/03/2024 15:16

👏👏👏 have you thought about being a life coach?

the amount of people in life, triggered by someone with memory issues and not realising a machine wasn't built a certain way...

Maybe that young woman you're blasting here has memory issues or a disability too. Have you considered that?

Wagies aren't your servants.

123anotherday · 28/03/2024 16:04

OP@Springingintolife please complain - I had to after a horrendous experience with self service ( no manned tills open and due to a particular health issue I struggle to use self service so asked for help and wasn’t given it) ….the poor staff on the shop floor have to to try and deal with systems that the management decree should be “ progress” even when their elderly/ disabled customers aren’t managing to use these systems.

Nolongera · 28/03/2024 16:05

No one should have to work with the public.

PooSniffer · 28/03/2024 16:06

God you sound annoying, shopping is stressful enough without faffers getting involved. Vouchers, euros, pounds etc etc … do us all a favour and shop online in future?

(I’ve just had a bad trip to Asda)

Anguish · 28/03/2024 16:07

PooSniffer · 28/03/2024 16:06

God you sound annoying, shopping is stressful enough without faffers getting involved. Vouchers, euros, pounds etc etc … do us all a favour and shop online in future?

(I’ve just had a bad trip to Asda)

this.

MyGooseisTotallyLoose · 28/03/2024 16:08

ChangeIing · 28/03/2024 13:19

You seem to think that you’re entitled to have a bad day and be flustered and frustrated, but nobody else is.

If you don’t like that store, go elsewhere.

Mountain out of a molehill.

This, you want to have concessions made for you and your difficulties but want to make problems and complain about someone else have a bad time?

Katemax82 · 28/03/2024 16:08

Sounds awful op. I've felt on the edge when working on self checkouts but would never lose it completely because someone made a mistake which wasn't their fault. Yes, complain then they should improve staff training

Anguish · 28/03/2024 16:10

Katemax82 · 28/03/2024 16:08

Sounds awful op. I've felt on the edge when working on self checkouts but would never lose it completely because someone made a mistake which wasn't their fault. Yes, complain then they should improve staff training

You're completely wrong, it is not the employees responsibility to comply with complex and ridiculous requests that involve re-scanning, euros, pounds, pennies etc and it's perfectly okay for her to have a bad day or get overwhelmed. These people are paid peanuts for bloody hard work.

Anguish · 28/03/2024 16:11

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justasking111 · 28/03/2024 16:13

123anotherday · 28/03/2024 16:04

OP@Springingintolife please complain - I had to after a horrendous experience with self service ( no manned tills open and due to a particular health issue I struggle to use self service so asked for help and wasn’t given it) ….the poor staff on the shop floor have to to try and deal with systems that the management decree should be “ progress” even when their elderly/ disabled customers aren’t managing to use these systems.

I had this, this morning at Asda. My guests announced they were arriving two days early so I went to Asda shopping a full trolley. No checkouts open only self service. I just loaded my goods on an empty checkout and waited. Eventually someone did come. I wasn't being unreasonable it was a lot of shopping £150 that would never have fitted on a small self service shelf.

There are so few staff there now.

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 28/03/2024 16:15

Springingintolife · 28/03/2024 15:16

👏👏👏 have you thought about being a life coach?

the amount of people in life, triggered by someone with memory issues and not realising a machine wasn't built a certain way...

'Triggered' you seem to be triggered by the staff not running around after you! Your complaint, she "wouldn't help" you seems to be more she wouldn't cater to the chaos created!

Doteycat · 28/03/2024 16:18

Anguish · 28/03/2024 16:10

You're completely wrong, it is not the employees responsibility to comply with complex and ridiculous requests that involve re-scanning, euros, pounds, pennies etc and it's perfectly okay for her to have a bad day or get overwhelmed. These people are paid peanuts for bloody hard work.

You are completely wrong.
That is exactly their responsability.

Whycantiwinmillionsandsquillions · 28/03/2024 16:21

Ok so I come across so many people who do not work, often younger than I am.
I’m very good at my job but there are times that I think ffs, please God let me win the lottery so I can Jack this bollocks in.
I seriously would not work if I did not have to.
Perhaps everyone in ASDA feels the same. It’s pointless shit, working for the extremely wealthy to get even more extremely wealthy whilst others sit on their arse all day not working.
Do not suggest getting sone sort of fairytale job which is wonderfully enjoyable. For the vast majority of folks that is so out of reach.
Anyhow op, the only thing any supermarket cares about is profits.
They do not care about you or the staff. Profits are the only thing which matter.

concernedchild · 28/03/2024 16:22

Sounds like she was having an awful day and got yelled at by her manager. No need to make a complaint and make her life even harder. Just make sure you take your card.

DSD9472 · 28/03/2024 16:25

You can buy inexpensive phone covers to store your cards/cash in, to prevent the card being left behind next time.

Asked for help in ASDA and she had a breakdown.
WhereIsBebèsChambre · 28/03/2024 16:26

Doteycat · 28/03/2024 16:18

You are completely wrong.
That is exactly their responsability.

Completely agree with @Anguish, how long would every transaction take if this was OK all day every day?!

Anguish · 28/03/2024 16:34

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 28/03/2024 16:15

'Triggered' you seem to be triggered by the staff not running around after you! Your complaint, she "wouldn't help" you seems to be more she wouldn't cater to the chaos created!

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So triggered she came here to try and retell the story uncharitably to make HER seem the one in the wrong.

Have you ever considered maybe SHE also has issues with neurodivergence? You sound young and entitled.

Doteycat · 28/03/2024 16:38

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 28/03/2024 16:26

Completely agree with @Anguish, how long would every transaction take if this was OK all day every day?!

All that means is that you are wrong too.
And as you know, its impossible that this would happen at every transaction so your point is irrelevant.
The asda staff, and every other CS employee is paid to do customer service. Not just the easy ones, all of them. You dont get to choose who you do your job for, every customer should be looked after.

Boomboxio · 28/03/2024 16:39

Anguish · 28/03/2024 16:10

You're completely wrong, it is not the employees responsibility to comply with complex and ridiculous requests that involve re-scanning, euros, pounds, pennies etc and it's perfectly okay for her to have a bad day or get overwhelmed. These people are paid peanuts for bloody hard work.

If the companies install these new modern technologies in their stores they have to make sure their staff are able to assist customers using them. That includes vouchers, cash, etc..

If the stores accept those form of payment, then customers are entitled to use them and staff have to be able to help them if they encounter an issue.

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