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To want every women in England to vote Tory at the GR

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Hurrydash · 28/03/2024 02:01

So I don't agree with Angela Rayner's description of the Tories as scum, but I get her drift and if she'd been more tempered in her language I probably would have bought in.

HOWEVER

For me - and actually should be got everyone - the only real issue at the next GE is freedom of speech/women's rights.

I see Labour as the destroyer of these and so must vote against them. The only meaningful way to do this is to vote Tory which I am reluctant but prepared to do.

Is this unreasonable?

Happy to be convinced - for real not just words - if there is evidence Labour (Starmer 1 in 1000 women have a dick) may see the light before the GE.

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TitusMoan · 28/03/2024 10:56

Hurrydash · 28/03/2024 02:01

So I don't agree with Angela Rayner's description of the Tories as scum, but I get her drift and if she'd been more tempered in her language I probably would have bought in.

HOWEVER

For me - and actually should be got everyone - the only real issue at the next GE is freedom of speech/women's rights.

I see Labour as the destroyer of these and so must vote against them. The only meaningful way to do this is to vote Tory which I am reluctant but prepared to do.

Is this unreasonable?

Happy to be convinced - for real not just words - if there is evidence Labour (Starmer 1 in 1000 women have a dick) may see the light before the GE.

Don’t you think it’s important that you understand that there is a difference between the singular ‘woman’ and the plural ‘women’?

Let’s at least name ourselves correctly.

SabreIsMyFave · 28/03/2024 10:56
That 70S Show Lol GIF by Peacock

Thanks @Hurrydash 😆 I needed a laugh on this dull, cold, wet, windy morning.

EVERY WOMAN MUST VOTE TORY IN THE GENERAL ELECTION!!! 😂 That's a new level of funny! Grin Good one!

Moonmelodies · 28/03/2024 10:57

Flatulence · 28/03/2024 10:37

I think the NHS, housing, education, public infrastructure, improving the economy, improving wages etc. are all more important that navel gazing about what constitutes a woman.

And all of the above have been shit under the Tories.

If your biggest concerns about modern Britain is "freedom of speech" and "women's rights" - both of which are already pretty damn good in this country - then you must have a more privileged life than most.

And even shitter in Wales, under Labour.

SabreIsMyFave · 28/03/2024 10:59

@ilovesooty

If you'd bothered to read the responses some of us are saying that we feel women's rights are not the issue which will primarily drive the decision of most of the electorate. Not to mention the fact that that the Tories don't care about anyone's rights, let alone the rights of women.

What this poster said! ^ 100%.

CuriousGeorge80 · 28/03/2024 10:59

I would rather poke both my eyes out with flaming hot coals than vote Tory. Ever. They have destroyed this country in the last 12 years. How anybody can contemplate voting for them is beyond me.

EasternStandard · 28/03/2024 10:59

WaterWeasel · 28/03/2024 10:55

Disgusting post.

Agree

ZarZarGabor · 28/03/2024 11:00

@Hurrydash vote for the same party who merrily jumped into a coalition with the DUP, a party who actively campaigns against abortion even in cases of rape or incest? Although as you only mentioned women in England presumably women in NI can get stuffed

AhNowTed · 28/03/2024 11:00

SabreIsMyFave · 28/03/2024 10:59

@ilovesooty

If you'd bothered to read the responses some of us are saying that we feel women's rights are not the issue which will primarily drive the decision of most of the electorate. Not to mention the fact that that the Tories don't care about anyone's rights, let alone the rights of women.

What this poster said! ^ 100%.

Seconded.

ArabellaScott · 28/03/2024 11:00

EasternStandard · 28/03/2024 10:59

Agree

Yep. The amount of people willing to sneer at rape survivors and call them 'transphobic' is very defeating.

anotherside · 28/03/2024 11:00

@Perzival

I'd love to vote Labour but I think they'll make everything worse and pull thd country into more issues

I won’t be voting Labour because they won’t solve the fundamental problems. But do you actually believe that someone as professional, intelligent and experienced as Starmer would be less competent than Johnson, Truss and Sunak? I find that amusing. I won’t be happy if Labour win but at least as a small consolation with Starmer we will finally have a leader who isn’t:

A) idiotic dangerous morons like Johnson and Truss
or
B) not morons, but still woefully out of their depth like May and Sunak

Acapulco12 · 28/03/2024 11:01

Merrymouse · 28/03/2024 10:43

The other thing that I often think when I’m thinking about this is that men already attack and kill women quite often, so if a man wants to attack, rape or kill a woman, why would he go to the enormous trouble of identifying as a woman when he could just as easily do it (and very possibly get away with it) as a man?

1). That is an odd argument. Men (and it is mainly men) will become priests, teachers, sports coaches, care workers to access victims. That is why we now have safe guarding policies and codes of practice.

2). Most places and facilities aren’t single sex. The point is that it should be legal to exclude on the basis of sex in some circumstances.

  1. None of this would be an issue if people weren’t actively campaigning against single sex sport/refuges etc. You are right. This shouldn’t be a big deal. It is because women aren’t expected to say no to unreasonable demands.

I’m not sure how it’s an odd argument. My point is that is rare than men will go to the lengths of identifying as a different gender to attack or kill women. I’m not at all saying in my post that it doesn’t happen though. I’m saying in my post that politicians (mainly the Tories) make us think that this is a much more common occurrence than it is. Of course, we should keep our safeguarding policies and codes of practice to guard against this sort of thing. Unfortunately not every incident can be prevented, but we can update safeguarding policies and regulations to try as much as possible to prevent them from happening.

I agree that it should be legal in some circumstances to exclude on the basis of sex - e.g. women’s refuges, places used by vulnerable women, sports where women are competing on the basis of physical strength and power, as their strength and power will be different to that of men.

I also agree with you that women aren’t expected to say no to unreasonable demands.

WaterWeasel · 28/03/2024 11:01

ZenNudist · 28/03/2024 07:55

The OP conveniently forgets that the trans supporting ideology grew all of its many tentacles under tory rule.

Except that the Labour Party brought in the GRA in 2004. So you are wrong.

Zebedee999 · 28/03/2024 11:02

SabreIsMyFave · 28/03/2024 10:56

Thanks @Hurrydash 😆 I needed a laugh on this dull, cold, wet, windy morning.

EVERY WOMAN MUST VOTE TORY IN THE GENERAL ELECTION!!! 😂 That's a new level of funny! Grin Good one!

Guessing you're a man as you find women's right so contemptible. Post a Labour election victory don't be surprised when you find your daughters in changing rooms with men etc.

A firmn line needs to be taken on these things... women's safety is no laughing matter as you clearly think it is.

CaribouCarafe · 28/03/2024 11:04

No fucking way. They've caused immeasurable damage during their tenure and anyone blind to see that is either wilfully blinkered, hate-fueled or woefully self-centered.

SoreAndTired1 · 28/03/2024 11:04

Acapulco12 · 28/03/2024 11:01

I’m not sure how it’s an odd argument. My point is that is rare than men will go to the lengths of identifying as a different gender to attack or kill women. I’m not at all saying in my post that it doesn’t happen though. I’m saying in my post that politicians (mainly the Tories) make us think that this is a much more common occurrence than it is. Of course, we should keep our safeguarding policies and codes of practice to guard against this sort of thing. Unfortunately not every incident can be prevented, but we can update safeguarding policies and regulations to try as much as possible to prevent them from happening.

I agree that it should be legal in some circumstances to exclude on the basis of sex - e.g. women’s refuges, places used by vulnerable women, sports where women are competing on the basis of physical strength and power, as their strength and power will be different to that of men.

I also agree with you that women aren’t expected to say no to unreasonable demands.

My point is that is rare than men will go to the lengths of identifying as a different gender to attack or kill women.

That's the whole point! Because they don't have to go to ANY lengths! Just walk in as a man, dressed as they are! They don't have do anything! Just walk in. And now we cannot call them out, because the we are the ones charged/banned etc. I'm not sure why you think there is any effort at all for a man to enter a womens space. That's the whole point.

CaribouCarafe · 28/03/2024 11:05

The country is more at threat from the Tory government than the small subset of population that would abuse trans rights

Devonbabs · 28/03/2024 11:05

DrunkenElephant · 28/03/2024 10:51

Have you looked on their website - it outlines key issues they want to address.

The manifesto, when released, will go into more details and how this will be funded.

But they aren’t going to be able to fund all those things they want to do. Without a massive tax hike on the general population. At this point the NHS doesn’t just need more cash, it needs a massive overhaul - it’s no longer fit for purpose giving it more cash is pouring money into a black hole.

The problems faced by schools, the nhs, the police are problems of society as a whole. It’s a broken society with too much immigration - our local schooling has virtually collapsed with kids being shipped nils away even though they live in catchment, schools hang balloon forms - my sons school had to create 2 new forms per year. Lack of discipline, mental health issues, lack of consistent moral compass (often caused by a push towards multiculturalism- which I think has been shown not to work). Our local hospitals are full. 12 hour A&E waits common, large amounts of people who can’t speak English.

EasternStandard · 28/03/2024 11:06

ArabellaScott · 28/03/2024 11:00

Yep. The amount of people willing to sneer at rape survivors and call them 'transphobic' is very defeating.

I wonder if it’s the SNP new law effect emboldening abuse against women, or just the same old

MrsSkylerWhite · 28/03/2024 11:06

CaterhamReconstituted · Today 10:25
People are really letting their tribal and partisan hatred of the Tories blind them to what is at stake with single-sex spaces.”

Alternatively, other issues take precedence, as they do for me?

IClaudine · 28/03/2024 11:07

Moonmelodies · 28/03/2024 10:57

And even shitter in Wales, under Labour.

"In Labour run Wales" is such a classic Tory deflection.

Meanwhile, the people of Wales continue to strongly support Labour.

BIossomtoes · 28/03/2024 11:08

anotherside · 28/03/2024 10:27

This was a wonderful country not so long age - now it's fast becoming a violent, misogynistic sh1thole

Please elaborate. Domestic violence, to name just one thing, has been falling steadily since 2005. What is this violence in the current day that was so much better 10,20,30 years ago? Or does domestic violence not meet your definition of violence? As it doesn’t back up your point?

Not true.

Huge rise in domestic abuse cases being dropped in England and Wales https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-58910802

Woman

Huge rise in domestic abuse cases being dropped in England and Wales

Police in England and Wales are increasingly running out of time to bring charges, the BBC discovers.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-58910802

EasternStandard · 28/03/2024 11:08

IClaudine · 28/03/2024 11:07

"In Labour run Wales" is such a classic Tory deflection.

Meanwhile, the people of Wales continue to strongly support Labour.

Edited

Your demographics likely mean you always will

SoreAndTired1 · 28/03/2024 11:09

CaribouCarafe · 28/03/2024 11:05

The country is more at threat from the Tory government than the small subset of population that would abuse trans rights

One man in a woman's space is ONE TOO MANY. Already there are accounts on this very site of girls not going to school when they're on the periods because they have no girls only toilets. The ripple effect of this is enormous. People simply don't have the critical thinking to understand how serious and wide-reaching this is. Another poster said their girl never changes their pad at school, and they flood. Another poster last year said they restrict fluids during the work day (thus risking a UTI) so they don't have to use the all-sex toilet.

This is a MASSIVE issue. But people are too stubbornly narrow-minded to use cognitive reasoning and critical thinking.

Matronic6 · 28/03/2024 11:10

Lwrenn · 28/03/2024 08:51

@Matronic6 @DaisyDaisyDaisyDaisyDaisyDaisy

Okay, so you've both got an issue with me spoiling my ballot, yet I have nobody who represents me, give me your suggestions? I'm all ears.

And matronic I have emailed my local mp repeatedly, I've talked to her whilst canvassing repeatedly, I attend demonstrations on the issues that matter to me, what else do you and your infinite wisdom recommend to make changes?
Because I'm not voting for parties who not only are complicit in genocide and allowing children in my local constituency go hungry, (no I don't volunteer at a food bank, but I do buy for them, I do make up lunches for local kids clubs at half terms when needed and my DS and I do batch cooking for homeless people locally when we can, we are also hugely involved in other things community based, so I'm not sitting back and moaning without doing something when I can, I'm not as active as I was, however I'm still trying) but I'm not voting for the decimation of women and children.

Tell me what I should do as opposed to your snappy, aggressive and pointless comments?

Unless you don't have answers as to what I can do and just fancied being aibu vipers because that's your morning excitement?

I eagerly await your suggestions.

My post was in no way snappy or aggressive, patronising maybe, but not aggressive. It was also in response to a patronising comment you made to another poster. Strange that you find it so offensive.

The fact that you also bemoan a comment as 'pointless', when you're plan is to deface a ballot!!! Why even waste your time going to the polling station just to write an essay that will be glanced at and put in the bin?

I never claimed to have the answers or infinite wisdom to solve the current situation. I am as fed up and frustrated with the current situation as you seem to be. My only tip is: wasting votes like this could contribute to Tory reelection, please reconsider it.

ArcticOwl · 28/03/2024 11:12

anotherside · 28/03/2024 10:55

If you vote Starmer & Reeves that’s what’ll you get anyway.

“On 31 January 2024, Reeves announced that Labour would not reintroduce a cap on bankers' bonuses, despite having questioned why the cap was being removed by the Conservatives in October 2023. The decision has been linked to large inflows of money into the Labour Party from global banks, professional services firms, consultancies and financiers since 2022. The next day Reeves announed that Labour would not raise corporation tax in the next parliament if it got into power.”

you get the idea …

Didn't say i'd be voting for Labour Either

I'm as yet undecided, but i do also live (unfortunately) in a Tory 'Safe Seat' so my vote is unlikely to have much effect other than to chip away at a very vast, long standing majority :( This area stayed Tory even during Labour Government.

The issues at the forefront of my attention tend more to financial/disabled rights/Benefits/Environmental than womens rights in isolation.

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