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To want every women in England to vote Tory at the GR

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Hurrydash · 28/03/2024 02:01

So I don't agree with Angela Rayner's description of the Tories as scum, but I get her drift and if she'd been more tempered in her language I probably would have bought in.

HOWEVER

For me - and actually should be got everyone - the only real issue at the next GE is freedom of speech/women's rights.

I see Labour as the destroyer of these and so must vote against them. The only meaningful way to do this is to vote Tory which I am reluctant but prepared to do.

Is this unreasonable?

Happy to be convinced - for real not just words - if there is evidence Labour (Starmer 1 in 1000 women have a dick) may see the light before the GE.

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WaterWeasel · 28/03/2024 10:41

StillProcrastinating · 28/03/2024 07:03

Tories are corrupt. Labour are anti semitic misogynists. Where are the Lib Dems when we need them ??

Also obsessed with gender woo - a very worrying prospect is of a Lab-Lib coalition.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 28/03/2024 10:41

BelfastBelle05 · 28/03/2024 03:13

You seriously believe that the Torys care about women’s rights? It’s called trying to desperately win over voters - in reality they couldn’t give a shit and you’re delusional to think that they do. Can’t call yourself a women’s rights activist when you believe that rubbish

Well said.

Ahugga · 28/03/2024 10:42

gettingbackonit23 · 28/03/2024 10:35

The best way to fight domestic abuse is to empower women equipping them with the resources to leave abusive relationships and don’t even need to go into a refuge. There are hundreds of refuges around the country and I don’t think you will find many TW in them. It’s a myth that all changing rooms, toilets and refuges are now crawling with men.

Quite. COL is trapping more and more women in abusive relationships. Trans women in refuges or not, women won't leave if they can't feed their kids. And they won't report if they can't trust the police.

ArcticOwl · 28/03/2024 10:42

Hell will freeze over and the moon fall from the sky and crush the entire tory voting public and party before i put my x in the box for a tory.

Merrymouse · 28/03/2024 10:43

Acapulco12 · 28/03/2024 10:33

This is exactly what I think. I think ‘dog whistle politics’ sums up the Tories’ approach to transgender issues really well.

I think the Tories have created and encouraged a moral panic over transgender people. It is entirely overblown and being used for political purposes, as the Tories are fully aware that transgender issues is a very sensitive and divisive issue and they are succeeding in making it more so.

This sounds a bit like the panic created over AIDS in the 1980s. Whilst that did sound like a frightening time to be living in, it led to a lot of absolutely unwarranted and upsetting consequences for gay men, such as being socially ostracised and generally very badly treated. I was born in the 90s, so wasn’t around in the 80s, but I’ve read and watched a lot about the AIDS epidemic and its impact.

I do realise that incidents do happen where men take advantage of women-only spaces, target vulnerable women or compete in women’s sports, to give a few examples, and they then escape the consequences that would have applied to them as men because they say they are transgender.

However, my main feeling on this is that it’s really important to put this into perspective. It’s important to remember that these sorts of incidents are really rare. Whilst they are frightening, they are not at all commonplace.

I think we owe transgender people our respect and kindness as they are human beings and need to be treated as such. Some of the press coverage I’ve seen - and the comments I’ve heard from people - makes it sound as if transgender people are not actually human, which is awful and upsetting.

The other thing that I often think when I’m thinking about this is that men already attack and kill women quite often, so if a man wants to attack, rape or kill a woman, why would he go to the enormous trouble of identifying as a woman when he could just as easily do it (and very possibly get away with it) as a man?

The other thing that I often think when I’m thinking about this is that men already attack and kill women quite often, so if a man wants to attack, rape or kill a woman, why would he go to the enormous trouble of identifying as a woman when he could just as easily do it (and very possibly get away with it) as a man?

1). That is an odd argument. Men (and it is mainly men) will become priests, teachers, sports coaches, care workers to access victims. That is why we now have safe guarding policies and codes of practice.

2). Most places and facilities aren’t single sex. The point is that it should be legal to exclude on the basis of sex in some circumstances.

  1. None of this would be an issue if people weren’t actively campaigning against single sex sport/refuges etc. You are right. This shouldn’t be a big deal. It is because women aren’t expected to say no to unreasonable demands.
Jovacknockowitch · 28/03/2024 10:44

ArcticOwl · 28/03/2024 10:42

Hell will freeze over and the moon fall from the sky and crush the entire tory voting public and party before i put my x in the box for a tory.

I wouldn't do it even then :)

CaterhamReconstituted · 28/03/2024 10:44

Acapulco12 · 28/03/2024 10:33

This is exactly what I think. I think ‘dog whistle politics’ sums up the Tories’ approach to transgender issues really well.

I think the Tories have created and encouraged a moral panic over transgender people. It is entirely overblown and being used for political purposes, as the Tories are fully aware that transgender issues is a very sensitive and divisive issue and they are succeeding in making it more so.

This sounds a bit like the panic created over AIDS in the 1980s. Whilst that did sound like a frightening time to be living in, it led to a lot of absolutely unwarranted and upsetting consequences for gay men, such as being socially ostracised and generally very badly treated. I was born in the 90s, so wasn’t around in the 80s, but I’ve read and watched a lot about the AIDS epidemic and its impact.

I do realise that incidents do happen where men take advantage of women-only spaces, target vulnerable women or compete in women’s sports, to give a few examples, and they then escape the consequences that would have applied to them as men because they say they are transgender.

However, my main feeling on this is that it’s really important to put this into perspective. It’s important to remember that these sorts of incidents are really rare. Whilst they are frightening, they are not at all commonplace.

I think we owe transgender people our respect and kindness as they are human beings and need to be treated as such. Some of the press coverage I’ve seen - and the comments I’ve heard from people - makes it sound as if transgender people are not actually human, which is awful and upsetting.

The other thing that I often think when I’m thinking about this is that men already attack and kill women quite often, so if a man wants to attack, rape or kill a woman, why would he go to the enormous trouble of identifying as a woman when he could just as easily do it (and very possibly get away with it) as a man?

On the last point, that’s like saying that burglaries are rare so let’s just leave our doors and windows open because why would a burglar go to all that trouble of breaking into a house when he could just rob you on the street?

Ahugga · 28/03/2024 10:45

anotherside · 28/03/2024 10:39

Sure but then you need to take all stats with a pinch of salt - as well as all claims full stop.

Well, yes actually I think that's sensible. I would never blindly trust anything the government tells me without looking at the bigger picture.

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 28/03/2024 10:45

BelfastBelle05 · 28/03/2024 10:05

You do realise what the word rapist means? It’s certainly not what you’re implying

You need to explain what you think you're saying.

poetryandwine · 28/03/2024 10:46

I too have more pressing concerns.

If the very poor state and still declining state of the UK under 14 years of Tory rule has not affected you, OP - the NHS, education from early years through HE, the sorry state of our natural environment and local councils, our sparsely filled supermarket shelves and on and on and on - you are living a charmed life.

Whatifthehokeycokey · 28/03/2024 10:47

Tories know what a women is! It's someone who will make them coffee and whose bum cheek they can grab as a little joke at a work conference.

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 28/03/2024 10:47

DaisyDaisyDaisyDaisyDaisyDaisy · 28/03/2024 10:11

@KeinLiebeslied54321 well my suggestion would be to study the relevant parties manifestos, select the party that best fits you and vote them 🤷‍♀️

You think I'm not aware of how to decide who to vote for?

Flubadubba · 28/03/2024 10:47

The 'only' issue? Fuck me.

What about the past 14 years, the crumbling NHS, the state of our schools, the sleaze, the lies, the reduction of living standards, the many children living in poverty, the handling of the pandemic, the lack of humanity, the state of the country, crime, the focus on helping the rich rather than the poor...I could go on.

No party is perfect. But I would sure as hell rather have adults in charge than this bunch of incompetent reprobates.

Ahugga · 28/03/2024 10:48

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 28/03/2024 10:45

You need to explain what you think you're saying.

The legal definition of rape is when a person intentionally penetrates another's vagina, anus or mouth with a penis.
Only men have a penis. Simple.

SecondHandFurniture · 28/03/2024 10:49

araiwa · 28/03/2024 02:06

If the Tories are the only ones who ' know what a women is' its only so they can fuck them over

Yabu

Beautifully put.

Acapulco12 · 28/03/2024 10:50

CaterhamReconstituted · 28/03/2024 10:44

On the last point, that’s like saying that burglaries are rare so let’s just leave our doors and windows open because why would a burglar go to all that trouble of breaking into a house when he could just rob you on the street?

Edited

No it’s not like saying that at all.

In that last point, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t have women-only spaces and that we shouldn’t protect the right to these spaces. I fully support and agree that we should have women-only spaces.

What I’m saying in that last point that it’s very rare that men identify as women for the specific purpose of committing violence against women and that I think it’s important to remember this

I’m not saying that, because this is rare, women shouldn’t take precautions. I don’t think I’ve said that in any part of my post.

I don’t think my point can be compared to suggesting you leave your house unlocked because burglaries are rare.

Vaccances · 28/03/2024 10:50

Moonmelodies · 28/03/2024 09:37

And yet in the subsequent 2017 GE the electorate had the opportunity to stop Brexit by voting for the one party that was committed to ending it.
The electorate chose overwhelming to continue with Brexit.

FFS... the majority of the electorate voted for pro EU parties in 2017 and the Tories lost their majority, buying off the DUP to remain in power.

Do you sit there making stuff up?

anotherside · 28/03/2024 10:50

poetryandwine · 28/03/2024 10:46

I too have more pressing concerns.

If the very poor state and still declining state of the UK under 14 years of Tory rule has not affected you, OP - the NHS, education from early years through HE, the sorry state of our natural environment and local councils, our sparsely filled supermarket shelves and on and on and on - you are living a charmed life.

And Sir Keir Starmer will do nothing about any of that as he isn’t any more left wing than some parts of the Tory party. Anyway, we are seeing economic growth again.

DrunkenElephant · 28/03/2024 10:51

Perzival · 28/03/2024 08:10

Can somebody tell me what Labour will do to change the nhs, education, child poverty etc please? I can't seem to find anything definitive.

I'm not sure who I'll vote for. I can't see the situatuons with the big issues getting betting under either of the main parties. Things are just so bad. I do think the nhs will have to be privatised more than it already is.

There just isn't enough money to help everyone and I say this as a woman, living in one of the poorest towns in the UK with a severly disabled child who cannot work because of lack of support services (he can't access wrap around care or holiday clubs etc/ appointments and meetings make term time untenable). I'd love to vote Labour but I think they'll make everything worse and pull thd country into more issues.

Have you looked on their website - it outlines key issues they want to address.

The manifesto, when released, will go into more details and how this will be funded.

BIossomtoes · 28/03/2024 10:52

ArcticOwl · 28/03/2024 10:42

Hell will freeze over and the moon fall from the sky and crush the entire tory voting public and party before i put my x in the box for a tory.

Couldn’t put it better.

Devonbabs · 28/03/2024 10:54

HappiestSleeping · 28/03/2024 02:07

If you could genuinely get every woman to vote the way you would like (putting aside your reason), other parties are available. Women represent enough of a proportion of the electorate to make a significant difference to the result.

The Conservative party have done enough damage, so it is unreasonable to vote them in again.

But who to vote for? I can’t vote for any party who is not happy to stand up and say “ the definition of a woman is an adult female human and that is the only definition, men cannot become women and vice versa”

Anyone who is not prepared to do this is a supporter of misogyny and I have no reason to believe everyone of their policies will also be based on the idea women’s rights do not matter, they do not have a voice, because we don’t even recognise their existence

CaterhamReconstituted · 28/03/2024 10:54

Acapulco12 · 28/03/2024 10:50

No it’s not like saying that at all.

In that last point, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t have women-only spaces and that we shouldn’t protect the right to these spaces. I fully support and agree that we should have women-only spaces.

What I’m saying in that last point that it’s very rare that men identify as women for the specific purpose of committing violence against women and that I think it’s important to remember this

I’m not saying that, because this is rare, women shouldn’t take precautions. I don’t think I’ve said that in any part of my post.

I don’t think my point can be compared to suggesting you leave your house unlocked because burglaries are rare.

But the precaution is that no man can enter female-only spaces. All men, whatever they call themselves. You are creating a risk that wouldn’t have been there otherwise. You unlock these norms and it will be far harder to challenge people who enter these spaces, so it will end up as far less rare than now.

anotherside · 28/03/2024 10:55

ArcticOwl · 28/03/2024 10:42

Hell will freeze over and the moon fall from the sky and crush the entire tory voting public and party before i put my x in the box for a tory.

If you vote Starmer & Reeves that’s what’ll you get anyway.

“On 31 January 2024, Reeves announced that Labour would not reintroduce a cap on bankers' bonuses, despite having questioned why the cap was being removed by the Conservatives in October 2023. The decision has been linked to large inflows of money into the Labour Party from global banks, professional services firms, consultancies and financiers since 2022. The next day Reeves announed that Labour would not raise corporation tax in the next parliament if it got into power.”

you get the idea …

AhNowTed · 28/03/2024 10:55

Flubadubba · 28/03/2024 10:47

The 'only' issue? Fuck me.

What about the past 14 years, the crumbling NHS, the state of our schools, the sleaze, the lies, the reduction of living standards, the many children living in poverty, the handling of the pandemic, the lack of humanity, the state of the country, crime, the focus on helping the rich rather than the poor...I could go on.

No party is perfect. But I would sure as hell rather have adults in charge than this bunch of incompetent reprobates.

In fairness one sector has seen off the scale growth - food banks!

WaterWeasel · 28/03/2024 10:55

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 28/03/2024 07:44

What a loaded post.
I am really sorry to hear you were raped, that said a rape survivor could absolutely be phobic in other ways, including as a transphobe!

Disgusting post.

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