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To want every women in England to vote Tory at the GR

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Hurrydash · 28/03/2024 02:01

So I don't agree with Angela Rayner's description of the Tories as scum, but I get her drift and if she'd been more tempered in her language I probably would have bought in.

HOWEVER

For me - and actually should be got everyone - the only real issue at the next GE is freedom of speech/women's rights.

I see Labour as the destroyer of these and so must vote against them. The only meaningful way to do this is to vote Tory which I am reluctant but prepared to do.

Is this unreasonable?

Happy to be convinced - for real not just words - if there is evidence Labour (Starmer 1 in 1000 women have a dick) may see the light before the GE.

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Emotionalsupportviper · 28/03/2024 10:25

Pipsquiggle · 28/03/2024 10:18

@Emotionalsupportviper

Why do you think the Tories are so much better for all that you have mentioned vs other parties?

What have the Tories DONE to make you think they are better than Labour for women's rights?

I don't. I'm not voting Tory, either. I am just pleased they'll say what a woman is - just wish they'd do something about it.

I'm hoping for a Women's Party candidate or a good independent, or at a push, Reform.

I don't think any of our main parties are worth a light - they are primarily corrupt self-serving narcissists.

There are some wonderful MPs of all political colours - but the majority are nest-featherers who outvote them and shout them down. Our parliament is filled with idle, greedy men of straw, who allow themselves t be swayed by a few fanatics if it seems that the wind is blowing that way.

Pipsquiggle · 28/03/2024 10:25

LakieLady · 28/03/2024 10:23

I'm planning to vote LD, as I have for over 30 years, because I live in a Con/LD marginal seat where a Labour vote is a waste of time, thanks to our stupid "first past the post" system.

Exactly.

I wish we could have electoral reform &/or maybe compulsory voting like in Australia.

CaterhamReconstituted · 28/03/2024 10:25

People are really letting their tribal and partisan hatred of the Tories blind them to what is at stake with single-sex spaces.

anotherside · 28/03/2024 10:27

Emotionalsupportviper · 28/03/2024 10:11

Because it is both symbolic and important in practical terms.

The countries that do best, economically, educationally and in terms of health and social policy are those where women have the most rights.

Why? Probably because women, in evolutionary terms, see the need to take care of the tribe at a "I help you, you help me" level, and also the need tp protect the vulnerable at both ends of the age spectrum. Men, evolutionarily speaking, just see everything as a power grab - "get as much as you can while you can".

And forget "whataboutery" - it is still women who do the bulk of work in the home, care for children, struggle to feed their families, go without when times are tough. Few women walk out on their children - men do it every hour of every day.

Women fought for the right to vote, be educated, have body autonomy, control their own reproduction, get equal pay for the same work as men, have their own sports and spaces - and we are putting women's achievements in these areas back to God-knows-when.

The "toilet issue" is so much more than just being able to pee in safety -and it has repercussions for society at every level.

This was a wonderful country not so long age - now it's fast becoming a violent, misogynistic sh1thole - and the way women are being treated is just a symptom of a much deeper malaise.

This was a wonderful country not so long age - now it's fast becoming a violent, misogynistic sh1thole

Please elaborate. Domestic violence, to name just one thing, has been falling steadily since 2005. What is this violence in the current day that was so much better 10,20,30 years ago? Or does domestic violence not meet your definition of violence? As it doesn’t back up your point?

Serencwtch · 28/03/2024 10:30

Im going to vote on the biggest issues facing society - education, NHS & healthcare, social care, cost of living, the economy.
Apart from some comments about trans issues I don't see how the Tories have any policies that support women

MerryChristmasToYou · 28/03/2024 10:31

Have you forgotten that the UK includes Northern Ireland, Scotland and Wales, @Hurrydash ?

Ahugga · 28/03/2024 10:32

anotherside · 28/03/2024 10:27

This was a wonderful country not so long age - now it's fast becoming a violent, misogynistic sh1thole

Please elaborate. Domestic violence, to name just one thing, has been falling steadily since 2005. What is this violence in the current day that was so much better 10,20,30 years ago? Or does domestic violence not meet your definition of violence? As it doesn’t back up your point?

Has it been falling though? Or has reporting and recording been falling as the state of policing, healthcare and social services has declined? I'd take those stats with a large pinch of salt.

gettingbackonit23 · 28/03/2024 10:32

CaterhamReconstituted · 28/03/2024 10:25

People are really letting their tribal and partisan hatred of the Tories blind them to what is at stake with single-sex spaces.

People are letting their obsession with a misunderstanding of the law relating to single sex spaces blind them to what is at stake with education, health, housing and various other issues.

SloaneStreetVandal · 28/03/2024 10:33

gettingbackonit23 · 28/03/2024 10:13

How does it affect you on a day to day basis though? Because I use public toilets daily and never have encountered anyone male there in all that time. Nor in changing rooms. You hear of the odd cases but they are reported on because they are unusual. Nearly all of the arguments seem to be “well, x could happen”, usually something outlandish. I just don’t understand how this can be deemed more important than cuts to education, housing, healthcare and all the other hugely pressing issues affecting women in this country.

As for prisons, under Tories, conditions in prison are worse than ever. Surely if you care about women in prison you’d care about proper funding and education in prison and programmes to reduce reoffending and drug abuse? Which you won’t get with the Tories.

i didn’t think dumb was 1970s and I wasn’t even born then but I think it’s a good description- both stupid and ignorant.

Its part of a trend, thats why its important. Its not the most important issue for me personally, but its certainly in my top 5. The compromising of female only safe spaces has never affected me personally, it has though affected other women and girls (and will do increasingly, given identity politics is full of ridiculous propositions upon which policy is being based).

Acapulco12 · 28/03/2024 10:33

ButItHasCheese · 28/03/2024 02:14

Considering how much damage they've done to women already, through underfunding basically everything (not to mention their appalling take of 'pubs are ok to have crowds at but no birthing partners' during the pandemic

There's a special place in hell for these people. I would never ever vote for them (even based on a dog-whistle trans manifesto, which is grim in itself)

This is exactly what I think. I think ‘dog whistle politics’ sums up the Tories’ approach to transgender issues really well.

I think the Tories have created and encouraged a moral panic over transgender people. It is entirely overblown and being used for political purposes, as the Tories are fully aware that transgender issues is a very sensitive and divisive issue and they are succeeding in making it more so.

This sounds a bit like the panic created over AIDS in the 1980s. Whilst that did sound like a frightening time to be living in, it led to a lot of absolutely unwarranted and upsetting consequences for gay men, such as being socially ostracised and generally very badly treated. I was born in the 90s, so wasn’t around in the 80s, but I’ve read and watched a lot about the AIDS epidemic and its impact.

I do realise that incidents do happen where men take advantage of women-only spaces, target vulnerable women or compete in women’s sports, to give a few examples, and they then escape the consequences that would have applied to them as men because they say they are transgender.

However, my main feeling on this is that it’s really important to put this into perspective. It’s important to remember that these sorts of incidents are really rare. Whilst they are frightening, they are not at all commonplace.

I think we owe transgender people our respect and kindness as they are human beings and need to be treated as such. Some of the press coverage I’ve seen - and the comments I’ve heard from people - makes it sound as if transgender people are not actually human, which is awful and upsetting.

The other thing that I often think when I’m thinking about this is that men already attack and kill women quite often, so if a man wants to attack, rape or kill a woman, why would he go to the enormous trouble of identifying as a woman when he could just as easily do it (and very possibly get away with it) as a man?

WaitingForMojo · 28/03/2024 10:33

Emotionalsupportviper · 28/03/2024 10:18

I think you've posted the wrong quote.

Apologies, I have. That was in reference to a previous poster you had replied to.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 28/03/2024 10:34

Hahahaha hahahaha NO 🤣
Tories good for women, as if lol.
Definitely NOT voting for them.
YABVU
You're a couple of days early for April'.Fool jokes

WaitingForMojo · 28/03/2024 10:34

Annettekurtin · 28/03/2024 10:14

No one said you did. Fact remains that women (including those who are victims of sexual assault) are entitled to same sex spaces and shouldn’t be insulted or called names for requesting them. Or denied care.

Including trans women. I think that’s where we’re going to disagree.

Pipsquiggle · 28/03/2024 10:35

Emotionalsupportviper · 28/03/2024 10:25

I don't. I'm not voting Tory, either. I am just pleased they'll say what a woman is - just wish they'd do something about it.

I'm hoping for a Women's Party candidate or a good independent, or at a push, Reform.

I don't think any of our main parties are worth a light - they are primarily corrupt self-serving narcissists.

There are some wonderful MPs of all political colours - but the majority are nest-featherers who outvote them and shout them down. Our parliament is filled with idle, greedy men of straw, who allow themselves t be swayed by a few fanatics if it seems that the wind is blowing that way.

@Emotionalsupportviper

In which case, I hope you don't live in a marginal seat. If you do, it's a wasted vote....................................Due to the crap voting system

Acapulco12 · 28/03/2024 10:35

Ahugga · 28/03/2024 10:32

Has it been falling though? Or has reporting and recording been falling as the state of policing, healthcare and social services has declined? I'd take those stats with a large pinch of salt.

I agree with this. I’m sure domestic violence increased during the Covid pandemic too. I know the pandemic was a ‘one-off’ event, but the lockdowns went on for a long time, which provided an opportunity for domestic abusers to carry out their abuse in private for a long period of time.

anotherside · 28/03/2024 10:35

bellinisurge · 28/03/2024 10:21

This mad shit we are dealing with happened because the Tories let it happen. I hate the Tories for that AND the omnishambles of our economy and public services.
I'll be spoiling my paper but if, as I assume, Labour get in, I will from Day One be making noise about self ID/gender ideology. We all must.
Mind you, I remember 1992. Labour could still fuck it up. Especially if the Tories make this an election issue and KS tries his bullshit time wasting nonsense about 99.9% and "more light than heat" - they never bring any light.

7-8 months before the 1992 election the two parties were more or less neck and neck in the polling. And in the month or two leading up to the election the were again more or less a dead heat. Labour never had a healthy lead. Most predictions were for a hung Parliament.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Opinion_polling_for_the_1992_United_Kingdom_general_election

The “surprise” such as it was was that the Tories gained a nice little 4-5% boost in Election Day - not that Labour didn’t get a comfortable win (now known as “shy Tory” and factored into current polling and Labours gargantuan lead). This idea that Labour was on course for a big majority is completely false.

Compare those tight end of 1991 polls showing at best Labour +2/3 points to today - consistent Labour lead of circa 20-22 points (with shy Tory factored in). This election is over.

Opinion polling for the 1992 United Kingdom general election - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Opinion_polling_for_the_1992_United_Kingdom_general_election

gettingbackonit23 · 28/03/2024 10:35

Ahugga · 28/03/2024 10:32

Has it been falling though? Or has reporting and recording been falling as the state of policing, healthcare and social services has declined? I'd take those stats with a large pinch of salt.

The best way to fight domestic abuse is to empower women equipping them with the resources to leave abusive relationships and don’t even need to go into a refuge. There are hundreds of refuges around the country and I don’t think you will find many TW in them. It’s a myth that all changing rooms, toilets and refuges are now crawling with men.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 28/03/2024 10:36

Pixit · 28/03/2024 02:11

You want another five years of ... THIS ??! <\gestures wildly at everything> No. Fuck off.

A million times this.

LizzieSiddal · 28/03/2024 10:36

CaterhamReconstituted · 28/03/2024 10:25

People are really letting their tribal and partisan hatred of the Tories blind them to what is at stake with single-sex spaces.

I’m GC and have been for around 6 years and am appalled at Labour’s stance on single sex space However I’m also able to see the country cannot cope with another 5 years of Tory government.

Flatulence · 28/03/2024 10:37

I think the NHS, housing, education, public infrastructure, improving the economy, improving wages etc. are all more important that navel gazing about what constitutes a woman.

And all of the above have been shit under the Tories.

If your biggest concerns about modern Britain is "freedom of speech" and "women's rights" - both of which are already pretty damn good in this country - then you must have a more privileged life than most.

SallyWD · 28/03/2024 10:38

Flatulence · 28/03/2024 10:37

I think the NHS, housing, education, public infrastructure, improving the economy, improving wages etc. are all more important that navel gazing about what constitutes a woman.

And all of the above have been shit under the Tories.

If your biggest concerns about modern Britain is "freedom of speech" and "women's rights" - both of which are already pretty damn good in this country - then you must have a more privileged life than most.

Well said!

Emotionalsupportviper · 28/03/2024 10:39

Pipsquiggle · 28/03/2024 10:35

@Emotionalsupportviper

In which case, I hope you don't live in a marginal seat. If you do, it's a wasted vote....................................Due to the crap voting system

Unfortunately, I don't.

They'd vote for a sewer rat if they stuck a red rosette on it here (and IMO they have).

anotherside · 28/03/2024 10:39

Ahugga · 28/03/2024 10:32

Has it been falling though? Or has reporting and recording been falling as the state of policing, healthcare and social services has declined? I'd take those stats with a large pinch of salt.

Sure but then you need to take all stats with a pinch of salt - as well as all claims full stop.

Xtraincome · 28/03/2024 10:41

I despise both main parties- neither are fit to govern with any MPs currently holding a seat on either side.

Things will get worse in the UK, a lot worse regardless of if its Tory or Labour. However, I appreciate we need it to just not be Tories. The voting public are so ridiculously impatient though - Labour will struggle to clean up the mess in 4 years as it runs decades deep, so come next GE another Tory idiot will come in.

Just vote for ANY OTHER PARTY whom you like and wish to support locally. Western politics are awful, the MPs are awful and most voters are idiots.

So on that OP, YABVU

Crispyturtle · 28/03/2024 10:41

My kids school is chronically underfunded, family support services are cut to the bone, maternity services struggling, cancer services underperforming, …. 14 years of Tory rule has done absolutely NOTHING for women

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