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To want every women in England to vote Tory at the GR

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Hurrydash · 28/03/2024 02:01

So I don't agree with Angela Rayner's description of the Tories as scum, but I get her drift and if she'd been more tempered in her language I probably would have bought in.

HOWEVER

For me - and actually should be got everyone - the only real issue at the next GE is freedom of speech/women's rights.

I see Labour as the destroyer of these and so must vote against them. The only meaningful way to do this is to vote Tory which I am reluctant but prepared to do.

Is this unreasonable?

Happy to be convinced - for real not just words - if there is evidence Labour (Starmer 1 in 1000 women have a dick) may see the light before the GE.

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Lwrenn · 28/03/2024 09:03

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 28/03/2024 08:53

I can relate to what you are saying regarding the struggle to find anyone I would consider actually voting for, and can see where you are coming from with spoiling the ballot. The thing is that while we fought for the right to vote, we also fought for choice, and at the moment you feel like that's one of the few realistic choices. It's not a great situation but it's an honest one.

Women fought for a right to vote and to equally not, that's how I see it. And I'd rather use my vote as a protest in some way as opposed to voting for someone who goes against my views and beliefs as what I'd like for a functioning society.

I have huge respect and love and gratitude to the women who made my vote possible and at least some protest shows I give a fuck, which I do. But I can't in good consciousness vote for a party who have damaged, or who will damage the lives of women and children anywhere in the world.

I think of Palestinians and this quote ⬇️ and cannot vote for any party that allows genocide.

~ I am not free while any woman is unfree, even if her shackles are very different from my own - audre lorde ~

DinnaeFashYersel · 28/03/2024 09:04

Its an important issue but other issues are more important to me.

I finally have a chance to see off the local SNP MP - lowering the threat of independence and the end of the Nationalist One-Party State in Scotland - this is by far the most important thing to me.

Followed by the economy, crime, NHS and education.

I will be voting Labour.

SoreAndTired1 · 28/03/2024 09:06

herewegoroundthebastardbush · 28/03/2024 09:01

YAB so fucking U I cannot even.

I am increasingly gender critical and increasingly perturbed by the direction of travel of tran activism and the effects on women and girls. However this is not remotely the biggest threat faced by women and girls as a whole. The Tories are anti-women almost by definition, an have decimated the public services on which women and children heavily rely, both as workers and as service users, and will continue to do so as long as they are in power. As someone above said, if they know what a woman is, it's only so as they can fuck her over. Any woman who votes Tory, unless she in the top 10% in terms of wealth, is a turkey voting for Christmas.

It might not be the biggest issue per se, and it clearly isn't. But for some women, it is the biggest issue to them. And that should be respected even if you don't agree with them.

Tadpole2 · 28/03/2024 09:06

araiwa · 28/03/2024 02:06

If the Tories are the only ones who ' know what a women is' its only so they can fuck them over

Yabu

First post nails it as usual!

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 28/03/2024 09:06

DinnaeFashYersel · 28/03/2024 09:04

Its an important issue but other issues are more important to me.

I finally have a chance to see off the local SNP MP - lowering the threat of independence and the end of the Nationalist One-Party State in Scotland - this is by far the most important thing to me.

Followed by the economy, crime, NHS and education.

I will be voting Labour.

Edited

'Threat'
Some folk would call that 'opportunity'.
I would say that despite thinking independence is (probably) a good idea, I am under no illusion it would be an instant magic bullet or that the SNP would be the best leaders of an independent Scotland.

midgetastic · 28/03/2024 09:07

If you think tories would be good for women perhaps you need to think a bit more

The tories have been in power for the last 14 years - during which time things have got harder , especially for women

Medicine shortages , HRT particularly affected
Childcare costs , lack of social care , lack of mental health care , problems in education all affect women more than men

The tories know what a woman is - it's the ones you shit on first

Malarandras · 28/03/2024 09:07

At least you’re not a Scottish woman OP.

Pipsquiggle · 28/03/2024 09:08

To all the women who are voting Tory due to this one issue, genuinely, please can you tell what the Tories have done (not said) to make you believe them?

It's just that the Tories have a lot of form for 'saying' things but delivering nothing:
Brexit - they said it would be really easy and we would be richer - it wasn't and we aren't
Partygate
Dealing with immigration - not the boats, legal immigration
HS2 - effectively now torpedoing forever the north to get a high speed network
Levelling Up - inequality is worse now

Genuinely what have the Tories 'done' on the gender debate that make you think they are so much better than other parties

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 28/03/2024 09:08

SoreAndTired1 · 28/03/2024 09:06

It might not be the biggest issue per se, and it clearly isn't. But for some women, it is the biggest issue to them. And that should be respected even if you don't agree with them.

Of course we should respect that people feel strongly about certain issues (even if sometimes they are misinformed on those issues), I don't think anyone has said we shouldn't.

chipsewfast · 28/03/2024 09:09

Bore off

tamade · 28/03/2024 09:09

Don't vote for the party vote for the person, Conservative/Labour/Libdem; almost all current party MPs are troughers or idiots or both or worse. There are some honourable exceptions in each party if your MP is one them vote for her/him. Otherwise vote for an independent and try to break the big party model.

That's what I would like to see

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 28/03/2024 09:09

Malarandras · 28/03/2024 09:07

At least you’re not a Scottish woman OP.

What's wrong with being a Scottish woman?

Ahugga · 28/03/2024 09:09

The Tories may claim to know what a woman is, but what the fuck have they done for us in the last 15 years? Fuck all. Absolutely not. No thanks.

Medschoolmum · 28/03/2024 09:09

CaterhamReconstituted · 28/03/2024 08:55

I respect people who will vote Labour for the reasons given. It’s also a reasonable position to recognise there are some issues where a party’s position may be so unethical, so morally wrong, that that alone is enough to withdraw your support. Say you had a party that had loads of brilliant policies but included one racist policy that black people should sit at the back of buses. Whatever else they said, and however shit the other party was, it would be reasonable to not support that party on the basis of that one policy alone.

Some hills truly are worth fighting and dying on. Not all hills. But women’s sex-based rights is one of them.

And I would respect anyone who chooses not to vote for a party for genuine ethical reasons.

But taking your analogy, say you had one party that had one racist policy that black people should sit at the back of buses. I would completely understand someone saying that they couldn't vote for such a party. What I would not understand is why that same person would instead advocate on favour of voting for a party that had been shitting over the rights of black people in multiple ways for the last 14 years. Where is the ethics in that?

People who care about women's rights have two options. One is to vote for a party which has a dubious record on women's rights. The other is to not vote at all. Personally, I will never waste my vote, so I have to choose between the parties which have all let women down in multiple ways. I will not be choosing the Tories.

RafaistheKingofClay · 28/03/2024 09:10

I’m not sure Isla Bryson is the best example since she was segregated until a risk assessment was done and then transferred to a male one once it had been done.

Merrymouse · 28/03/2024 09:11

AutumnColour89 · 28/03/2024 08:39

When I first saw this thread title, I assumed it would be about this; https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-68671351

Yesterday the headline of this article was 'LABOUR WILL NOT COMMIT TO GOVERNMENT'S FREE CHILDCARE PLAN'. The content of the article has changed considerably too.

When my husband linked this article to me yesterday morning, it said that Labour ministers had stated the free childcare plan was not something they could realistically stretch to funding and that they were simply making fiscally sound decisions.

Now it seems the narrative has be re-written as 'Labour is in support of working parents that's why they're asking Ofsted to prove the scheme won't work so parents aren't let down'.

Sorry, but I smell a rat. I was completely undecided on who to vote for- neither party has exactly got a good track record. But threstening to swipe one of the only lifelines that's been given to working families in 20 years? Whatever spin you out on it.... FUCK. THAT. There is no waiting. Sensible, hard-working fanilies have planned around this. For me, once again, 'Labour' is showing the irony of their party name- because working people are always last on their list.

The pressure on families is immense, 9/10 with women taking the brunt. By all means plow wffort in to long term childcare reform- but that is no excuse to kick this can down the road. Change is needed now. Not 3, 5, 10 years down the line. Now.

I have to put my family first and I am not in a position to vote for any party who isn't seeing through the long-overdue childcare reforms. Fair play to those with young children who can afford to take the hundreds of £ a month hit to vote Labour.

Don’t you also smell a rat when a party makes plans that it doesn’t think it will be in a position to deliver?

Whether it’s Rwanda or childcare, at this point the Tories are really just laying markers so that they can say what they would have done if they had been in government.

LlynTegid · 28/03/2024 09:12

Women's rights are far more under threat under this government than would be under one with another party. Look at what has happened to the police and justice system, look at some of the men that the Tories have as MPs and a former leader, as examples.

The question should be who you vote for instead. This may not be the same depending on your constituency and which nation you are in.

IClaudine · 28/03/2024 09:12

RafaistheKingofClay · 28/03/2024 09:10

I’m not sure Isla Bryson is the best example since she was segregated until a risk assessment was done and then transferred to a male one once it had been done.

Oh don't be ruining the narrative with pesky facts, rafa

Flopsythebunny · 28/03/2024 09:12

It would be a cold day in hell before I vote for the scum tories. Do you honestly think they care about women?

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 28/03/2024 09:13

RafaistheKingofClay · 28/03/2024 09:10

I’m not sure Isla Bryson is the best example since she was segregated until a risk assessment was done and then transferred to a male one once it had been done.

She's the example all the transphobes wheel out, yet we all know that Isla Bryson is not a typical trans woman. Of course she is a danger, and she should have been segregated from the start (and potentially kept that way).

Hoplolly · 28/03/2024 09:15

tamade · 28/03/2024 09:09

Don't vote for the party vote for the person, Conservative/Labour/Libdem; almost all current party MPs are troughers or idiots or both or worse. There are some honourable exceptions in each party if your MP is one them vote for her/him. Otherwise vote for an independent and try to break the big party model.

That's what I would like to see

That is how I vote. I vote for the person who is going to do good in my area.

Ahugga · 28/03/2024 09:15

KeinLiebeslied54321 · 28/03/2024 09:13

She's the example all the transphobes wheel out, yet we all know that Isla Bryson is not a typical trans woman. Of course she is a danger, and she should have been segregated from the start (and potentially kept that way).

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*He

Viviennemary · 28/03/2024 09:15

You are being ridiculous. Not everyone is obsessed by this. You must do as you see fit. But don't expect the rest of us to follow you over the cliff.

TeabySea · 28/03/2024 09:15

Pixit · 28/03/2024 02:11

You want another five years of ... THIS ??! <\gestures wildly at everything> No. Fuck off.

Our luck Tory lot occasionally do good stuff. Local person is decent, pushes for action on matters, and gets things done.
I still wouldn't vote for the party. Nationally, they're terrible.

SloaneStreetVandal · 28/03/2024 09:15

I'm in Scotland, governed by a (relatively far) left leaning government.

Scotgov will very vociferously debate issues such as gender recognition and rights thereof whilst addressing none of the issues that affect normal working people (health, education, infrastructure - their record on these is piss poor).

Scotland is no longer an aspirational place to live, indeed it's seen as almost shameful to aspire and have ambition; we had an excellent rep on higher education for example, but not now.

We are days away from another dictatorial law coming into practice in the shape of the hate crime law (aka thought policing), which gives greater protections to men in dresses pretending to be women than it does actual women. It'll be a disaster, and probably quietly shelved like their last two overreaching, dystopian laws (the Offensive Behaviour at Football and Threatening Communications Act 2012 and the Children and Young People Act 2014). Sadly though, it won't be shelved without lots of people being unfairly criminalised (as happened with the OBFC law).

The SNP is full of flawed MP's and MSP's. They're no different to the Johnson government in their do as I say, not as I do governance. In many ways they're worse, given that they pertain to be holier than thou.

So people should at least know that voting Labour is not just a protest vote. You'll be subject to their policy for the next 5 years. The tories have a poor record, however I think Sunak is a better leader (and PM) than Starmer will be. I just wish there was an alternative that was actually appealing.

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