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To want every women in England to vote Tory at the GR

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Hurrydash · 28/03/2024 02:01

So I don't agree with Angela Rayner's description of the Tories as scum, but I get her drift and if she'd been more tempered in her language I probably would have bought in.

HOWEVER

For me - and actually should be got everyone - the only real issue at the next GE is freedom of speech/women's rights.

I see Labour as the destroyer of these and so must vote against them. The only meaningful way to do this is to vote Tory which I am reluctant but prepared to do.

Is this unreasonable?

Happy to be convinced - for real not just words - if there is evidence Labour (Starmer 1 in 1000 women have a dick) may see the light before the GE.

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KeinLiebeslied54321 · 28/03/2024 07:38

SoreAndTired1 · 28/03/2024 07:35

You don't get it. You really just on't get it! It's NOT about trans people per se.

It's about MEN, any and ALL men, which are 50% of the population, invading our spaces. Because once one man - part of a teeny tiny (which appears to be getting bigger and bigger and bigger every year) population or not, gains access, ALL men can gain access.

It's about MALE (50% of the population) vs FEMALE.

It's not about 'trans'.

You really, REALLY do not get it. Perhaps on purpose.

Someone not sharing your view does not equate to them 'REALLY' not getting it. You feel what you feel strongly, others will feel other things strongly, and neither are absolutely correct or the only one who 'really' gets it.

concernedchild · 28/03/2024 07:39

@SoreAndTired1 all those things you've listed, that you're so concerned about, happened under the tories!!!

@Underthinker their goal is to make money. They don't want a prosperous country. If they did, they'd have introduced a windfall tax on the energy companies in order to see that 10x jump in profits benefit the country. They didn't.

Matronic6 · 28/03/2024 07:39

Lwrenn · 28/03/2024 07:36

Oh sorry hen, by not voting I mean spoil my paper.

Not keen on any independents etc and I will just probably write a wee essay on why I'm not happy with the genocide of infants.

I just mean I won't vote for a candidate x

I'm sure that lowly vote counter will immediately take your message straight to the top and let them know exactly what you think. Thank God, we will finally see real change. 🙄

GrammarTeacher · 28/03/2024 07:39

PuttingOutFirewithGasoline · 28/03/2024 07:37

What future do our children have, our girls if we give away their rights?

The NHS won't suddenly work, because it's fundamentally flawed. Poverty won't forget away either under labour and we know Labour apologised for failing on poverty last time.
So our girls are still at risk of all the things they are under tory rule or any rule but with Labour they also loose their right to being girls? And to bejng safe? And freedom of speech.

The Tories have removed freedom of speech - check out their rules on protests.

HPFA · 28/03/2024 07:39

Absolutely not. Gender is an important issue but not the only one and I'm not going to base my vote on it.

With things like the Cass Review and sports bodies gradually coming round Labour is extremely unlikely to unpick these - why would they? I'm not sure that in practical terms they will be very much different from the Tories in office, who let's not forget were planning to introduce self-ID themselves a couple of years ago.

SoreAndTired1 · 28/03/2024 07:39

ichundich · 28/03/2024 07:34

Getting really bored with the amount of transphobic threads in AIBU. Please fuck back off to the Gender & Feminism board. And no, I won't vote for another 5 years of this shit.

@ichundich I (and other women on here) are getting really bored with ignorant people dismissing womens basic human rights as 'transphobic'. You can fuck right off with that minimising and abusive term to shut women up. And the reason we won't stick to the 'naughty corner' is that we NEED as many women and people as possible to see this and think about it. Sorry that bothers you, but too fucking bad. The more sunlight to disinfect a dangerous ideology, the better.

While I'm at it, calling a RAPE SURVIVOR like my self a 'transphobe' is as deeply abusive, re-traumatising, offensive, evil, hateful and abhorrent as possible.

Queijo · 28/03/2024 07:39

Honestly I’m as GC as they come, but you couldn’t pay me to vote Tory.

Children (the people we mainly are trying to protect from mad legislation that says you can magically change sex) are the ones suffering at the hands of the Tories.

Schools are fucked, child poverty is at an all time high, the NHS is on its knees, there’s no support for women desperate to leave abusive relationships.

Nothing good has come from the last 14 years of this shit show. Saying you can’t change sex should not be the deciding factor for voting for these cunts.

RinklyRomaine · 28/03/2024 07:39

Lifelong Labour voter who wouldn't touch them with someone else's these days. I have no belief Starmer et al have any plans to make substantial change to those who need it. NHS needs so much help but as they funnel funds into Rainbowwashing and clinics which sterilise children and cosmetically alter men instead of necc treatments, I'm not holding my breath.

Voting for the Tories will hurt, but I am
leaning towards a party who has managed female leadership, non white leadership, and has Kemi B on board. Look to Scotland or Canada and say again Labour ideals of freedom of speech and women's safety & dignity won't affect you. It will.

newnamethanks · 28/03/2024 07:40

Wales? Is that the Wales where the only source of work for thousands was destroyed by Thatcher and where one of the few remaining industries in Port Talbot is about to throw more families onto the scrap heap. That Wales? I refer you to Aneurin Bevan if you want to know about poverty in Wales and elsewhere, not contemporary but still correct.

concernedchild · 28/03/2024 07:40

PuttingOutFirewithGasoline · 28/03/2024 07:37

What future do our children have, our girls if we give away their rights?

The NHS won't suddenly work, because it's fundamentally flawed. Poverty won't forget away either under labour and we know Labour apologised for failing on poverty last time.
So our girls are still at risk of all the things they are under tory rule or any rule but with Labour they also loose their right to being girls? And to bejng safe? And freedom of speech.

That's more at risk with a right wing Tory government who would happily take away the right to abortions, the right to protest, the right to free speech. That is of course if they don't die from poverty before age 10

MolkosTeenageAngst · 28/03/2024 07:40

If women’s rights in relation to the trans issue is all you care about, vote Tory. If you care about the lives of women more generally you would be mad to vote Tory. The underfunding of many public services all will disproportionately effect women:

Underfunded and failing education system, not meeting the needs of children with SEN, children displaying worse behaviour and mental health needs, children too anxious to go to school. Mothers are the ones who will have to deal with the impact of this, to stay at home with their school refusing children or research other school options or home-educate or deal with meetings around children’s behaviour etc. Teaching is also a role with far more women than men so again working women are feeling the effects of underfunding more than men.

Underfunded and failing social care, women are more likely to end up as carers, including doing unpaid caring, to fill the gaps in social care than men. Many women are already stretched thin caring for elderly parents because social care is inadequate.

Underfunded police services will affect women if they are living in abusive situations or face other types of crime, likely carried out by men. Women less likely to report or receive help if services are cut further.

Underfunded NHS meaning worse maternity care, longer wait times, worse treatment outcomes, worse diagnostics when women are already fobbed off about genuine health issues more than men.

If you think that the trans issue is the only political issue which can have a negative effect on women or erase women’s rights, in real terms, then that’s a very naive view. I’m not denying it’s a relevant and important political issue, but to be willing to prioritise it over other areas of funding which directly affect women far more than single-sex bathrooms etc seems madness. It doesn’t matter what kind of toilets are in your hospital or whether the female doctor you’ve requested has a penis if the NHS is so underfunded you die still on a waiting list and didn’t get an appointment to be treated in the first place.

PuttingOutFirewithGasoline · 28/03/2024 07:40

I am truly sorry for anyone who labours under the delusion that Labour can fix these issues.

If I vote Labour it's for change of, we need change. No party should endlessly run on and on.
I want to vote Labour and I will not over this issue.

99victoria · 28/03/2024 07:41

I'm in my 60s. Have voted at every GE since I was 18. I have never voted Tory and I'm not starting now 😒

EnjoyingTheSilence · 28/03/2024 07:41

Utterly ridiculous. We should all be scared of another 5 years of this shower of shit, corrupt and nasty government

Anyone who thinks the Tories support woman are seriously and worryingly deluded.

Orang1na · 28/03/2024 07:41

PuttingOutFirewithGasoline · 28/03/2024 07:40

I am truly sorry for anyone who labours under the delusion that Labour can fix these issues.

If I vote Labour it's for change of, we need change. No party should endlessly run on and on.
I want to vote Labour and I will not over this issue.

Whatever, your vote won’t be missed.

I notice voting is turned off this thread.

NoWordForFluffy · 28/03/2024 07:41

3tumsnot1 · 28/03/2024 05:26

Why do you care what her language is like, this country has gone to shite under the tories. All services have been completely starved, that’s our schools, our nhs, our dentists, our local authorities, everything that as a parent of three children I rely on.

i am literally stunned that you can make this the basis of your argument, that she used poor language. If you can’t be bothered to reserch and see what’ going on in this country and the absolute disastrous effect it’s having on families ( whilst let’s be frank - lining the pockets of their pals with our money through bent fucking deals ) Don’t fucking vote. You don’t deserve a say.

Everyone deserves a say. Whether you agree with their opinion or not!

Vaccances · 28/03/2024 07:42

CaterhamReconstituted · 28/03/2024 07:23

It’s not a tiny issue. It’s a totemic issue.

If you vote Labour would it reasonable for me to say that you support women being flashed at and sexually assaulted in female-only spaces? No. Because I recognise that people are making a choice based on a range of competing considerations. That choice is not always easy, and it is imperfect, but it is a good-faith choice based on the situation we are faced with. Nobody supports the starving of children.

The Tories voted not to extend free school meals to children during the pandemic, effectively starving them.

They have raised taxes and frozen thresholds, again forcing more families into poverty, both real and absolute.

So i disagree, some people do support children to go hungry, they have also removed NHS dental services from all of us, especially affecting children.

Women are being sexually assaulted in record numbers under the Tories, with almost zero redress.

SoreAndTired1 · 28/03/2024 07:42

concernedchild · 28/03/2024 07:34

I've never encountered a TW full stop.

But some people on here have been whipped into a frenzy based on echo chambers and seem to think we're going to be overrun with men in women's spaces.

Realistically they just don't care about all the other issues and are happy with the status quo.

A. We already ARE over-run with men in womens spaces. It's already happened. You just haven't paid attention.

B. Even if it was only one single solitary man in our spaces, that is one too many, and that single solitary one, JUSTIFIES the campaign.

PuttingOutFirewithGasoline · 28/03/2024 07:43

@MolkosTeenageAngst

Women have and always will face those issues.
When my family had to access the those services it was under labour and I'm telling you it was an underfunded shit show then.

No government can magic up money, do you think labour would have done better under covid, credit crisis, cost of living and so on?
Women will always have to face many issues but under labour it looks like they will have to face them: with less rights.

concernedchild · 28/03/2024 07:43

@SoreAndTired1 you're getting very shouty, are you okay?

I just cannot believe how anyone can morally justify voting for a party who is happy to see kids dying in poverty. You're not justifying it, you're just getting very angry because you know I'm right.

Moonmelodies · 28/03/2024 07:43

MsFaversham · 28/03/2024 07:37

YABU. I'm holding anyone who votes this current shit show back in personally responsible for the demise of the NHS, including the inability to get a dentist or GP appointment, for poverty and undernourished children, for lack of housing, for the pollution of our rivers and waterways, for the cost of living crisis, the fall out of Brexit including not being able to get my prescriptions, to lack of mental health services, particularly for children. I'll blame you for the lack of services because councils have been starved of cash, the potholes, the rubbish on the streets, crumbing schools, lack of youth support and so on and so forth.

But if they vote Labour many fear those things will get even worse, maybe as bad as they currently are in Wales, under their Labour administration. Mr. Starmer described the calamitous situation for public services in Wales as "a blueprint for a Labour Britain".

HPFA · 28/03/2024 07:43

The only people trotting this out are existing tory voters hiding behind a one line soundbite to avoid having to engage in a meaningful way with the complexities of actual debate.

100% this. I'm honestly tired of people who are obviously Tory voters using the issue in this way. It's not actually illegal to vote Tory - if you think that's the right choice then please go right ahead. Just stop gaslighting us by posing as some kind of "reluctant Tory".

DaisyDaisyDaisyDaisyDaisyDaisy · 28/03/2024 07:43

@Lwrenn well that'll teach them won't it 🙄

Bobbotgegrinch · 28/03/2024 07:43

Not a fucking chance. Women's lives aren't going to be improved in the slightest by 5 more years of the Tories running the country into the ground.

The trans issue is important, but not the only or most important issue. I'll be voting for whichever fucker can get the Tories out (labour in my constituency), and then campaigning to ensure they see sense on the stuff I disagree with them.

passthepenguin · 28/03/2024 07:43

SallyWD · 28/03/2024 07:31

Oh for goodness sake, I'm not voting Tory.

  1. I don't believe they support women's rights any more than other parties.
  2. I do not believe that women's rights are the only thing worth voting for - my three priorities are the NHS, Climate Change, poverty. I'm not particularly interested in the trans issue.

The NHS will be under even greater strain if Labour gets in as massive numbers of people from all over the world (far greater than the numbers we are already seeing) will come to live here. It will put a massive strain on the nhs and housing. NHS waiting lists will go up. There will be an attempt to provide more housing by building over huge swathes of countryside which will be gone forever. And Labour will probably massively put up taxes on working families who are already struggling to pay for it all and increase tax on their inheritance. And I remember the last time they were in they wanted to bring in road charging. But hey at least it will redistribute the wealth a bit and those who have never contributed can benefit 🙄

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