Night out drama - old boss

[Geordielass35]

I've been on a hen night in Belfast. It's been a great weekend and people have been so friendly. Been drinking and dancing, went to the Titanic museum as well.

My old boss is on the hen night. She was a bitch at times when I worked with her and was very judgemental of others, including me, when I worked for her.

Anyway tonight she has clearly cheated on her husband. I saw her leave the bar with a man now I can hear her in the next room and she's not alone...

I know people that know both of them. Do I say something or just keep it quiet, since it's none of my business. I'm desperate to tell people and it's wrong what she did, but is it my business to mention it?! I'm torn on it. Reasonable or not reasonable to tell the people close to her husband?

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If you want to protect the bride, wouldn't it be better to wait until after the wedding?

Not your monkeys, not your circus. She's not a friend so presumably her husband is a passing acquaintance at best. Nothing to do with you.

If she (or he) were a friend of yours then a different situation as you'd likely have to see them both again in future knowing what you know.

The most I'd do is let her know subtly that you heard, and then leave it at that.

Let’s be completely honest here, OP. You aren’t actually concerned for her husband. In fact, you've no intention to tell him at all- just spread gossip within the group you are with. You are just feeling smug because you’ve “one upped” on a boss who was previously unpleasant to you. If it was someone else that you vaguely knew, I’m sure this wouldn’t be such the exciting drama.

Cheating on your husband is not a good look. But neither is revelling in someone else’s drama.

Not your circus, not your monkeys.

Cheating on your husband is not a good look. But neither is revelling in someone else’s drama.

I do love the complete batshit equivalences that you see drawn on here sometimes.

Nope you have this twisted it’s about doing the right thing yes she was a bitch of a boss by all accounts so it does absolutely make a little difference that OP feels a certain way but at the end of the day it’s still the right thing to do ..would you want to be told if you were being cheated on ..I think so ..I’ve had it happen and so fucking glad I was told so from experience do it I say

Would you want to know regardless of who the person was that was telling you the truth

@Ponoka7 I was pretty drunk myself, though not as bad as other occasions. There was a lot of us out, I was spending most of my time with others who I'm more friendly with than her. I haven't a clue how drunk he or she was. I saw them chatting in the bar, I didn't know where it was going to go at that point. There was others with her who may have also seen her but didn't say anything this morning. I think some of them left around the same time.

You are right they could be in an open marriage. It's been a long time since I worked with her. And thankfully I don't anymore.

My fault for a confusing layout, but I was quoting the bold text, not making the point myself.

Will you see him at the wedding?

Id slip a note in his wedding favour

The bride wouldn’t know would she and the cheating bitch is the only one who won’t enjoy the day cannot stand a cheater

I doubt you'd be telling her husband for his benefit. Hand on heart can you honestly say that you care about him? More likely you're doing this to cause trouble for someone you don't like. Imagine if he was a violent man behind closed doors and he hurt her because of what you said. Keep out of it.

That's the next time I will see him. After that there's no reason to see him or even her again. Again I wouldn't want the drama for the bride.

Depends on whether she decides to deny it and accuse the OP of spreading false rumours.

Remember, there appears to be no other witnesses, so the OP's word against hers.

Don’t twist this the slut brought it on herself he has a bloody right to know would you want to know if you were being cheated on

I would tell him regardless what he does with it is up to him

If she’d been a right bitch to me then. Fuck it. Karma. I’d probably only say it to her though. That should be enough to panic her.

It's not twisting it. It's a possibility and a reality for some women. If she would care that much about him finding out the guilt will eat away at her. It's her problem to live with. Not the OP's.

@Nicetobenice67 can you not discuss this without resorting to misogynistic name calling like 'dirty bitch' and 'slut'?

I stick with what I say I have been in an abusive cheating violent relationship so there isn’t anything you can tell me

Not really it’s close to home for me and don’t just dig me out

She doesn't know the husband, she can't tell him. Which is key.

Husband will be at the wedding

@Changeandagoodrest Yep there's a couple of the others who I think know him well but I don't really know him.

I'm not bothered if you care what I say or not. My initial response was to the OP. She asked for opinions, I gave mine. Just because you don't agree with me doesn't mean you're right and I'm wrong. I'm sorry for whatever happened to you to make you this bitter. Have a lovely day.