To think for £100 a week to live at home I can have a shower every day?

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I live at home, I work f/t and I'm doing an online course. I pay £100 a week contribution and I am moaned at for spending about 15 minutes a day in the shower.
Admittedly one day I was in there half an hour and accepted that I was in there a long time, I was asked to be more considerate and I did, but, I have reduced it to 15 minutes a day and that's still too long.
Apparently it's not necessary to be in there that long and the rest of the family make sacrifices and go without only showering every other day and using sink and flannel in between, I hate this.

My parents don't have a lot of money but they do have 4 children and my mum chooses to stay at home meaning she chooses that we make sacrifices.
As the oldest, I'm the only one paying my way and don't feel it's unreasonable to shower for 15 minutes a day.
I get my parents choose not to so they can save money but I pay them a lot.
Do I stand my ground on this one and shower away or is 15 minutes ott for £100 a week.

I just meant that it doesn't help that one parent working means we have less money

No, it means they have less money, their finances are nothing to do with you. £100 a week is a good deal for an adult who is working, which you’ll find out soon enough when you move out.

I don’t think the mother not working is relevant.

Is their objection that others also need to shower and get out of the house? Or that 15 mins hot water is a lot? What takes 15 mins anyway?

Hair wash, rinse, condition, wash body, rinse off conditioner, done. 8 minutes max.

So £14 a day for heat, power, bedroom, hot water, cleaning materials, breakfasts and suppers. Coffee, tea, milk. Wear & tear. I doubt you're covering your costs.

The only issue I could see is if you’re holding up the shower queue.

£100 per week sounds sufficient for covering your costs and a 15mins shower sounds reasonable to me.

I can see the OP’s point that she’s working and contributing to the household pot whilst her mum isn’t.

https://www.idealhome.co.uk/house-manual/money-matters/how-much-does-it-cost-to-run-a-shower#:~:text=Power%20(8.5kW)%20x%20cost,0.038%2C%20the%20cost%20per%20minute.

This article suggests a ten minute shower costs around 62p for electric shower and 34p for a gas boiler powered shower, including water costs. So for a 15 min shower that’s somewhere between 50p-£1 per shower. So £3.50-£7 per week on showers.
If you took 5 min showers it would be £1.20-£2.30 per week. Ish.
Perhaps suggest giving them an extra £5 per week to cover shower usage?

You’re more than paying your way OP. Stick to 10 min tho.

If your mum doesn’t like it, she can boot you out and get a job.

I don’t think she will either.

You know what she means. She has apologised so give it a rest.

I had a discussion at work. As someone said she spent about half an hour in the shower. I was gobsmacked.
I'd never timed myself, but washing my hair etc it takes about 6 mins. I don't think I'm particularly rushing...
Yabu.

It's not necessarily the money.

We only had two kids but in the morning when everyone was trying to get out then if someone took 30 mins in the shower everyone would have been late.

We had a bathroom rota in the end, although I do remember ExH and DS used to race each other home from exercise class to be first in the shower.

Funny the year 6s were singing it in assembly and the Reception kids were loving it!

It's not really virtue signalling the South East are in danger of running out of water and people will be using a stand pipe and a bucket .

But who is doing the cooking,cleaning, laundry?

Some really horrible comments here about OPs mum when none of us know the reasons why she doesn't work.

Did you read that back before you posted?
The mum probably isn't 'sitting in her arse all day' - she's been looking after her kids and probably the decision to sah had benefits to the family that you (and the OP) are unaware of.
Just because a person is a sahp, it doesn't mean they have no concept of the importance of being clean
The sah status is irrelevant - some people are just naturally more concerned with cleanliness than others - it's a personality thing, not a job status thing!

YANBU Op I can easily spend 15 minutes in the shower. I use this time to collect my thoughts. It also takes me an age to wash, condition and de-tangle my hair. I think £400 a month is a good contribution to make.

It's fair enough pointing out that 400 a month would not get her anywhere outside of her parents' house.

It's great that you are paying rent to your parents op.

I think that 15 mins is quite a while in the shower. I take half that time.

You still have a considerable amount of money left after the rent to your parents. Why don't you join a local gym, the monthly subscription isn't much - you can then have a workout and have a lovely long shower afterwards :-)

I shower every day - 10 mins max for shampoo, conditioner, shower gel and face scrub. I think you could easily cut down your shower time, as your family are being kind by letting you love at home for such a reasonable rent.

15 minutes for a shower is excessive in a household of 6 people who presumably would all want to shower about the same time in the morning. By the time you factor in getting in and out of the room, cleaning your teeth at the sink etc that’s two hours of bathroom use if everyone did the same.

your £100 pw doesn’t buy you special privileges, it’s your contribution to household costs seeing as you’re an adult earning adult wages. You’ve already got privileges in that you are being subsidised. I can guarantee you’re not paying your full share of what you cost the household to be there. Especially if you’re using 15 minutes of hot water for a shower every day!

@pootlin I'm the same age as OP and wouldn't dream of talking about my parents like she has

I live on my own and on a water meter and I have 15 mins showers every day. My recent 6 monthly bill was £113 that's £20 a month!!! I think if you are paying £100 a week that's £400 a month than no you're not being unreasonable. You are.mpre than covering your fair share of the cost of using that water. Assuming the other amount goes for other bills.

Again on my own all my bills bar mortgage so council tax water, gas, elec, streaming, gym a couple of other things amount to £450 a month. So I think what ur paying sounds pretty reasonable to be fair

I just can't believe some of the entitled comments on MN! I often find myself thinking 'they can't be real, they can't be real...'

Or draining the hot water so no-one else gets a chance?

Of course it’s not petty and unreasonable when there are five other people in the house. So she should be allowed to run off all the hot water whenever she likes and bugger everyone else? If you were forced to take cold showers because one of your kids was constantly using all the hot water, and had the rest of the household complaining to you about cold showers, you’d think it was petty to ask the water-hog to stop being so selfish and take shorter showers? (Yes I speak from experience).

The cost is only one factor. There’s also the destruction of the bathroom from condensation, plus the time spent in there when other people need to use it, along with the above.

Does anyone else have no real idea how long they spend in the shower. I mean it might be 10 it might be 15. I‘m going to time myself and see where I fit in the VAST difference between acceptable 10 and excessive 15 minutes.