To think for £100 a week to live at home I can have a shower every day?

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I live at home, I work f/t and I'm doing an online course. I pay £100 a week contribution and I am moaned at for spending about 15 minutes a day in the shower.
Admittedly one day I was in there half an hour and accepted that I was in there a long time, I was asked to be more considerate and I did, but, I have reduced it to 15 minutes a day and that's still too long.
Apparently it's not necessary to be in there that long and the rest of the family make sacrifices and go without only showering every other day and using sink and flannel in between, I hate this.

My parents don't have a lot of money but they do have 4 children and my mum chooses to stay at home meaning she chooses that we make sacrifices.
As the oldest, I'm the only one paying my way and don't feel it's unreasonable to shower for 15 minutes a day.
I get my parents choose not to so they can save money but I pay them a lot.
Do I stand my ground on this one and shower away or is 15 minutes ott for £100 a week.

Does the £100 cover everything including food?

Are you on a water meter?

Obvious solution is to move out.

25 mins way too long so wasteful of a resource we take so for granted in this country .
Get a timer and knock at least 5 mins of your time .
You are still paying less than you will anywhere else so try to stop like uour doing your mum the favour .

For £440 per month you are getting a pretty good deal, have you thought about joining a gym and having showers there?

Wow , what a lot of weird and exaggerated reactions!.

OP if you want to spend 15 mins showering it's your business and not excessive, in my opinion your parents are being mean and controlling

I still have kids at home, and I don't mandate how long they can take in the shower.

BUT if I did, and they tried arguing the toss they'd get short fricking shrift from me!

I think £200 per month would be a fairer contribution to household bills.

I wouldn't want my child to take 15 minute showers as in our house that would make the bathroom really steamy and exacerbate mould issues.

Or get a gym membership and spend ages in the shower there.

I spend about ten minutes. I can wash, do a body scrub, shampoo twice and use a conditioner. I do think 15 minutes is a long time, and can't imagine what you were doing for a full half hour!
Even though you are making a contribution it's not your house. Unless everyone else is having 15 minute showers I think you could cut back.

It takes me 15 mins to wash and do hair. I don’t think it’s excessive.

Are you sure? Are you including heating, lighting, water rates, council tax, home insurance, home maintenance, wifi, TV subscriptions, laundry, cooking and refrigeration facilities, tea, coffee, toiletries, possibly food too? It's easy to assume these just exist on tap until you have to pay for them all yourself and realise how much they add up.

YABVU - 15 minutes is a long shower, especially when others are needing to use the bathroom!

A quick shower is 4 minutes, a proper conditioner and shaving etc takes about 8. Have one in the evening (or whatever time the bathroom isn’t in demand) if you can’t keep to being prompt.

YABVU thinking £100 buys you privileges over others in the house as well. It’s a token contribution as an adult living there. Work out how much a room in a rented house plus bills and food etc would cost, and give yourself a shake.

And don’t be so judgey about your mother. It’s petty.

OP mum is also making a choice not to work but then offsetting that by reducing how much hot water OP can use ?

Yes, unpleasant comment.

You can have an adequate shower in 5 minutes. Move out if you don't like being asked to be considerate
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I have long hair, I could easily spend 30 minutes in the shower. £400pm is a lot, I paid mine £250 10 years ago but I know costs have gone up but for £400pm they shouldn’t begrudge you a shower.

When I wash my body only I do take 5-10 minutes as I clean my ears, sometimes use a sponge, exfoliate in the shower, shave legs.

Could you compromise by switching off the shower at points? For example, I get my body wet, then switch off shower and then lather up my whole body, clean ears etc.

That saves A LOT of water!

How old is OP? This is relevant too.

Move out and see how far your £100 goes. What ages are the other DC in the house? What chores do you do?

My parents don't have a lot of money but they do have 4 children and my mum chooses to stay at home meaning she chooses that we make sacrifices.

What a shitty thing to say. Your mum stays home looking after he own children.

You obviously feel superior to her, why not move out and stand on your own two feet? Oh no, wait, you're happy for your parents to subsidise you while you study...

Also we don’t know what OP earns - £100 pe could be a significant percentage of her income ?
Is she buying all her own food etc as well or not , so many other things that could be relevant

15 minutes isn't excessive depending on what you want to do.

Maybe you could compromise, so 5 minutes daily to wash and wash hair, and then once or twice a week have a longer one, to shave your legs or whatever needs doing. YANBU to want to shower daily. If they don't want to then that is up to them .

Also take your shower at a different time to others so that you aren't holding them up. If you have an electric shower that heats the water then you won't be stopping others from having hot water either.

You wouldn't get anywhere to live for £100 a week, so pick your battles.

If money is that tight for your parents though, why doesn't your mum work?

However, usually on MN if somebody posts that they don't shower daily they get told they are filthy scum , so as always if you post something opposite to that, saying that you want to shower daily, MN will tell you that YABU.

I can imagine of the reverse of this was posted ‘I don’t work but my dd pays rent and I don’t like her having a long shower’ everyone would be telling the OP then they should get off their arse and get a job and not to be controlling over someone else’s body and personal hygiene !!!!!

If your parents don't have a lot of money then maybe it's time that you actually pay your share of the bills or move out. In your own house you can shower for as long as you want.

Unless you have pain and or disability (I do which is why I know it takes longer) 15 minutes is a pretty long shower!

I guess you need to know the cost. If it's electric then I guess it's a pound or something for that, then the cost of 80 odd litres of water. If you add that up it's a chunk of your board. You really should reduce it to 5 or 10 minutes. If others are deliberately withholding using it then out of respect you should do similar. It's their house after all. If you are getting fed, having bills included then if you wish to use the shower in this way then you should pay more board.

People who don't shower every day are a bit revolting IMO. I love a long shower, but agree that if someone else was paying the bills I'd probably not indulge for as long every day out of courtesy.

Showering every day is reasonable. You should be able to do that.
But 15mins with the water running is excessive. Five minutes is enough for me most days, even washing my hair, maybe 10 minutes to do a full leg shave a couple of times a week.

Unless paying their share of all bills including council tax and own food on top it really isn't much at all. If it's such a generous amount OP can move out and shower all they want in their own place.