To think for £100 a week to live at home I can have a shower every day?

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I live at home, I work f/t and I'm doing an online course. I pay £100 a week contribution and I am moaned at for spending about 15 minutes a day in the shower.
Admittedly one day I was in there half an hour and accepted that I was in there a long time, I was asked to be more considerate and I did, but, I have reduced it to 15 minutes a day and that's still too long.
Apparently it's not necessary to be in there that long and the rest of the family make sacrifices and go without only showering every other day and using sink and flannel in between, I hate this.

My parents don't have a lot of money but they do have 4 children and my mum chooses to stay at home meaning she chooses that we make sacrifices.
As the oldest, I'm the only one paying my way and don't feel it's unreasonable to shower for 15 minutes a day.
I get my parents choose not to so they can save money but I pay them a lot.
Do I stand my ground on this one and shower away or is 15 minutes ott for £100 a week.

Life is tough these days but yes I’d say £100 a week covers. 15 minute shower daily .

Id stand my ground

I timed my shower this morning. 9 minutes. That includes hair wash and condition, shower gel and shaving armpits. I think 15 mins is a bit excessive but not massively so. I wouldn't want to shower every other day but I think £100 a week is a pittance in this day and age. You should be offering more.

I'd rather buy my own food shopping than give up my 15 minute shower. That 15 minutes is the only 15 minutes I get to relax
In the day!
Maybe you could do that instead?

So that’s around £22 a month to shower.

I won’t sacrifice showering and i’m a daily hair washer too.

When you factor in electric for washing clothes and making food etc, the daily costs for a whole family will be a lot. It’s ridiculous how expensive it’s all gone. My smart meter says something like £2.86/hour when the electric shower is on, there are other things on too but I’ve based it on this amount. £22 doesn’t seem like much over the course of a month but everything else will be costing a fair bit too. If you don’t want to sacrifice your showers then I would offer to pay this much extra to cover it to save arguments. I don’t think you really understand the cost of running a home until you move out.

"I would take as long as you like and need in that shower, then explain to your Mum that should she choose to get off her backside and work, then she will know what it's like to want to stand under a hot shower because you have been working and studying all day. Explain to her if she wants to be a kept lady, it will not be by your expence, and if she carries on - Her behaviour will have a detrimental negative effect on your future relationship with her and any grandchildren if she continues to be a money trap on her children."

Don't do this ^

Not unless you want to find yourself evicted!

Horrified by the amount of women who seem to think a sahm is a freeloader, as if this wasn't a decision made by both parents and deemed to be in the best interests of their family.
A person might reach adulthood and decide that actually they would prefer more stuff, than having had their mum at home with them during childhood, but by that point they've already benefitted from having the time their sahp invested. And the wohp has already benefitted from the logistical ease of not having to balance childcare with work. But now that's no longer quite so necessary to the adult dc, it's okay to call her a freeloader? Nevermind that both parents were presumably in agreement about the number of dc they had and how those dc were cared for.

Rosesatapicnic
60 mins in a bath in same
water is very different to 30 mins in continuously running water. And water bills are set to increase. Those who pay the bills call the shots. OP show some maturity.

At the end of the day

it’s their house, their rules

so if you don’t like it OP you can move out. You are an adult afterall.

It is, isn’t it? I (sadly) timed my shower this morning. Five minutes from stepping in to stepping out. Everything was washed except my hair and I didn’t rush. I suppose it helps that the water pressure is good and it doesn’t take long to rinse the soap off.

Yup 5-10 mins is well enough time for a shower even the water companies offer stick on ‘egg-timers’ for showers
save water!

This. ^ The 'ewww how are you getting clean in 5 minutes' brigade are missing the point. For a start, it is very easy to get clean in 5-6 minutes, but even so most people - me included - do take longer when washing their hair. I take around 10 minutes. And I wash my hair every 3 days. ALSO, not everyone shaves everything! I never shave anything. I have have very little body hair, and what there is is blonde! (TMI sorry.)

And my morning shower when not washing my hair, is about 6 minutes. THEN, I go for a 3 mile walk every day, and need a quick shower when I get back, just to freshen up, and that will be 3-4 minutes. It's a 'quickly freshen up' shower.

Yes there is a lot of competitive shite on here (mumsnet threads always go that way!) but to suggest someone can't possibly be clean and must be filthy and unhygenic if they take ONLY 5 minutes having a shower, is ludicrous and laughable. A 15-20 minute shower (that some have claimed they have) is a long time to be the shower, and if you DO take that long, I pity you when you get your electric bill.

Finally, THIS comment that someone made yesterday evening is the batshittiest on the thread. 😆

I wash myself thoroughly. I couldn't imagine just letting the water glance over me for 2 minutes and thinking I was clean. Do you also think your kitchen is clean after two minutes? 🤢

How can anyone compare cleaning their kitchen to cleaning their body?! 😂What a ludicrous analogy! I also don't see anyone saying the average time for their showers is 2 minutes.

I also don't see anyone saying the average time for their showers is 2 minutes

Someone claimed to be done in seconds!

I think that poster was being sarcastic

My (grown) kids take forever in the shower. We only have one bathroom and it’s led to plenty of arguments. I think 15/20 mins is reasonable when you are paying £100 a week. They pay a lot less than that!

Id throw it at them and tell them to fix their fucking leaks

Ds pays £950 a month for a room privately and has to buy food on top of that on the south coast.
Bills are included but he still has to share the shower and can't just spend as long as he likes in there.
I expect your mum was a sahp when times weren't so hard and didn't expect to be keeping you at 23 when she has 4 of you.
You either benefit from living at home in a time when it's unexpectedly hard for young people to move out and respect their house and terms or you find the money to support yourself and make your own terms.
Unfortunately you can't do as you please when you're someone else's guest and I say guest because you're not a child or a legal dependent, they have raised you and now you are of an independent age and feel entitled to do as you please but your circumstances don't permit that.
Your mum may have chosen to stay at home but you are also choosing to stay in her home.

It’s not. People in the thread are just doing the showering equivalent of competitive under-eating.

The quickest I’ve managed to shower on a non hair wash day is 7 minutes, and it wasn’t a very pleasant experience.

Also I think that £400 a month in what is technically a shared house is plenty.

How do bills work in a shared house? How does council tax work?

She's not a guest in her own home. Do people really think like this about their adult kids?

I remember my dad saying "you are just the lodger here" when i was a teenager.
Hes now 88 and may need care. Do lodgers normally provide that 😊

@EmilyPlay I can only assume someone with that attitude has had children for other reasons than just wanting them

i think you were all in the army their trained and shown yes shown how to have a shower in 5 mins what do you do if you have a dirty job max shower for me 15 to 20 mins i pay for the electric and ill take as long as i take maybe give youre mum extra or shower when shes out

This. It's the entitlement of "I deserve" instead of thinking "what if everyone did the same as me?".

To be fair, they did choose to have 4 children. OP aside, the other 3 are presumably still minors. Why should they have to suffer for their parents’ lifestyle choices?

I have one long shower a week when I wash my hair and thats about 10 mins (medium length thick hair) The others are every other day and I body wash and shave and I'm out in less than 5. I haven't got time to be showering for 15 mins every day!

A shower should be 4 minutes. 15 mins is insane. My daughter sometimes does 10 mins and gets screamed at as it uses all the hot water for everyone else.