To think for £100 a week to live at home I can have a shower every day?

[tryinghere]

I live at home, I work f/t and I'm doing an online course. I pay £100 a week contribution and I am moaned at for spending about 15 minutes a day in the shower.
Admittedly one day I was in there half an hour and accepted that I was in there a long time, I was asked to be more considerate and I did, but, I have reduced it to 15 minutes a day and that's still too long.
Apparently it's not necessary to be in there that long and the rest of the family make sacrifices and go without only showering every other day and using sink and flannel in between, I hate this.

My parents don't have a lot of money but they do have 4 children and my mum chooses to stay at home meaning she chooses that we make sacrifices.
As the oldest, I'm the only one paying my way and don't feel it's unreasonable to shower for 15 minutes a day.
I get my parents choose not to so they can save money but I pay them a lot.
Do I stand my ground on this one and shower away or is 15 minutes ott for £100 a week.

My son always has a home with me but he would not be as entitled as OP is and he would never berate me as OP has done to her DM.

Well done for taking on board 15 mins is far too long to be in the shower.

@caringcarer

Ridiculous, we have a 2 bed semi, 3 ppl in house daily having 15min showers, AND we put the central heating on. Max monthly bill we've ever had was £140. So divide that by 3, just under £50. She's paying £400! And yous think she canny have a shower 🤣

But a landlord is charging for PROFIT

I'm assuming the OPs parents aren't so crass that they are expecting to profit from their dc. Just have their costs covered.

£100 a week will more than cover any additional cost to the parents of OP living at home.

My DS paid £70 per week. Once he moved out we saved massively. We no longer needed the state of the art superfast internet because DH and I only use average speed. We cancelled Sky Movies because we never watch it, only DS did. We cancelled the Sky box in his room too. These things combined saved £70 per week. Then we saved on electricity, water, gas and food. Overall we saved about £140 per week. So I very much doubt OP's parents are making money from having OP living at home. The cheapest alternative accommodation OP could get would be a single room costing at least £500-£600 pcm inclusive of bills, plus buying all their own food.

If you have a water tank and you all took 15 min showers every day, you'd soon run out of water/boiler would be on a lot reheating so I can see their point about others going without to facilitate your 15/30 min showers.

I'm interested to know what on earth you can be doing in the shower to make it to 30 mins...!

Why not compromise - a normal shower most days - in, scrub, wash hair and out and then your longer, whatever you do in there shower once in a while.

Aside from that, 24 is plenty old enough to be gaining more insight into the actual cost of living - especially in the current climate with food going up, gas prices, council tax rise will be next month and mortgage rates will never be as low as we've seen a few years ago again.

Did the OP say what area she lives? Or are you making assumptions? In many areas of the UK, you'd get a lot more than a single room for £600pcm 💁🏼‍♀️

Good grief another person thinking the parents should be making a profit off their dc. Of course you couldn't live on £400 a month if you were renting. But that's because the land would be getting a fucking big PROFIT.

The OP should be contributing to cover any additional costs she creates. Council tax, internet etc do not get smaller if she moves out. Why would a parent expect to save money on these fixed costs by charging their dc? You would actually profit from your dc????

The costs OP is adding to and should cover are water, power, food, soap etc. Things that the parents would save if she wasn't there. any more and that's just horrible for a parent to demand.

@woahboy well said.

You think a 15 min shower costs £14?

On top of electric there is also the cost of the water.

What on earth you doing in there which to last 30 mins? Even when shaving everything it takes less than 10 mins!! House shares here even cost more than that around here and you could be living with Random’s.

15 mins every is quite long, 30 minutes is bloody ridiculous.

Takes me 5 mins or less to shower.

OP berates her DM for her choices in life. It’s not about profit it’s about basic respect. OP has non for her own DM.

You don't pay anything like what you cost....unless your doing all your own shopping and cooking. I hope you help out.
A shower is 4 mins normally as advised by money saving experts 15 minutes is ridiculous what are you doing....turn the water off if your doing a hair mask.
My son paid what your paying 10 years ago as an apprentice you need to get real.

A lot of people on this thread are awful OP. Bloody ignore em

In many houses, a decent electric shower is the most expensive appliance by quite a long way. Even 15 mins is almost two hours each week. Then there is the evening meal as well as the general other household costs. I think that all comes to well over £100 but that’s because of the ludicrous cost right now, especially electricity and food.

If the cost of a 15 minute shower is an issue to her parents now, how do you think they'd cope with £433 a month less? There's no way she eats and showers so much that they don't financially benefit from having her live there.

How does he drink under the water?

Or move out as at 24 and in full time employment a house share is a perfectly acceptable way to start your adult life! Give your poor DM a break.

@Mountainclimber50

Praise jesus everyday I'm not yo child 🙏🏼

I’d move out!

I agree, actually. My rent is more than £600 a week and I still have all the bills, food and council tax to pay for, although obviously I get privacy for that which the OP won't.

I can spend fifteen minutes in the shower if I'm washing my hair, although I think it's likely closer to ten. I can stay in the bath for an hour though 😀

I did the calculations last year using the meter. . Two of us five minutes each shower costs £1 a day. So 15 minute shower 1.50 per day. That's 10.50 per week. That's £45 pcm.

My child has 50k for a house deposit and I pay 10k rent and bills for him while he is at Uni.

I am currently saving money to pay off his student loans when he finishes his degree.

It really is not about the money. It’s about OP totally berating and disrespecting her DM while earning 24k and moaning about her living arrangements. The answer is for an adult 24 year old who is not happy to move out.

BTW my son has his own bathroom and has 2 x 15 min showers a day when he is at home from Uni. We all take long showers in this house.

OP degrading her DM in this way is really showing of what sort of person she is.