To think for £100 a week to live at home I can have a shower every day?

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I live at home, I work f/t and I'm doing an online course. I pay £100 a week contribution and I am moaned at for spending about 15 minutes a day in the shower.
Admittedly one day I was in there half an hour and accepted that I was in there a long time, I was asked to be more considerate and I did, but, I have reduced it to 15 minutes a day and that's still too long.
Apparently it's not necessary to be in there that long and the rest of the family make sacrifices and go without only showering every other day and using sink and flannel in between, I hate this.

My parents don't have a lot of money but they do have 4 children and my mum chooses to stay at home meaning she chooses that we make sacrifices.
As the oldest, I'm the only one paying my way and don't feel it's unreasonable to shower for 15 minutes a day.
I get my parents choose not to so they can save money but I pay them a lot.
Do I stand my ground on this one and shower away or is 15 minutes ott for £100 a week.

This. Their house, their rules. If you don’t like it then move out and make as many rules as you wish. I think you need to realise how expensive it would be to move out and live independently. £100 p/w wouldn’t even scratch the surface. Check your entitlement OP, big time. You’re in a very privileged position still being able to live at home despite you having multiple other siblings that live at home also. Having another adult living there when they could probably use the space is also your mother’s sacrifice.

When my (much loved) son went to university my water bill dropped hugely. Those fifteen minute plus daily showers he was taking a day really did bump up my bill. He’s coming back permanently soon and there will be a strict no long shower rule. Yes he can have one daily of course but no more than a few minutes (he has short hair) or I’ll be knocking on the door. It does make a difference.

Plenty of time?
Bollocks! 😂

I guess it doesn’t matter if you think a long shower every day is reasonable or not, as it’s their house (you are making only a very minor contribution). Pay more perhaps! Perhaps learning more about household bills could help you have better appreciation for what they’re doing for you?

Mother's sacrifice? @Zoreos - it's her daughter.

Do I know you?

My DS currently pays £750 a month for a room in a shared house. I'd say YABU.

What on earth do you do for thirty minutes? Unless ‘long hot steamy sessions’ was a clue?

Yeh, it's a shared house, not the family home.
Or do you stop having a family home when you turn 18?

There is no need to have a 15 min shower every day. Life is not all about you, time to grow up.

Well, I did. 🙂
Over it now at 44, one parent alive, narcissistic abuser, completely on their own in another country.
Full stop.

@willWillSmithsmith I’m absolutely obsessed with soap sponges. I have a cupboard full of them. I’m not joking when I say I scrub every inch of my body 10 times over. I love the suds I get from them and I’m completely lathered head to toe 😂

Pay them an extra £10 a week op it can't cost more than that to add on a 10 min extra showering allowance a day 🙄

15 min isn't excessive at all but this is MN where a small organic chicken lasts a family of 4 2 weeks with enough to batch freeze 5 portions and anyone who has a one off wild night of drinking is accused of having an issue with alcohol so you're unlikely to get balanced views on here 😬

Gah 😖😂

This reminds of the threads on here where people are up and out of the house for work in 10 mins and these people cannot fathom how it takes anyone else any longer.

So weird and competitive.

How do you spend 30 mins in a shower?

A 1 bed flat in my area is about £800 a month- and on top is rates, insurance, heating, hot water, and more. You have NOOOOOOO idea of the cost of living.

Perhaps you should make your own way and try it for a while and see, honestly.

"My parents don't have a lot of money but they do have 4 children and my mum chooses to stay at home meaning she chooses that we make sacrifices."

You sound like an obnoxious brat.

It’s not excessive really. I always shower for 15-20 mins, often twice a day. Partly it’s because I have a very bad back and no bath and it eases the pain but if I’m honest it’s also because I enjoy it

Yes but she is also an adult living at home with multiple other younger people who are having potential space sacrificed by an adult sibling. As much as we would all love to have never flown the nest and live at home permanently paying £100 a week it’s not doable for many people for cost and practicality reasons. So yes, as I said sacrifice - child or not. You don’t get a free pass to have no responsibilities or manners just because you’re someone’s child. It’s about time OP learned to either be grateful or learn to stand on their own two feet like the rest of us.

Me too, which is why I would never do it and always question those who do.

£100 is literally nothing these days.

When I was 18, I was so annoyed at having to pay £50 a week when I only earnt £120 that I moved out, thinking with your attitude. Biggest regret of my entire life.

Put me on the back foot for my whole adult life as I could never ever save after that. I'm pushing 40 now and still only rent with no savings. I also never got the opportunity to holiday abroad etc. or go away with friends etc.

Suck it up and live by their rules whilst you’ve got it so good. Seriously appreciate what you have and stop dwelling on what you don't.

Do you have a smart meter? We have an electric shower and recently discovered that a hot shower costs more than the kettle and the washing machine ( that's for the heat, the water would be on top of that) You can literally watch the pennies add up. Perhaps you could work out how much is costs in your home, and tack it on to your rent

Well, she certainly doesn't have a free pass.
She's paying.

You could move out, get your own place and then shower as long as you like.

in a house of 6 people, if everyone did this it would be very expensive on the electricity bill