To think for £100 a week to live at home I can have a shower every day?

[tryinghere]

I live at home, I work f/t and I'm doing an online course. I pay £100 a week contribution and I am moaned at for spending about 15 minutes a day in the shower.
Admittedly one day I was in there half an hour and accepted that I was in there a long time, I was asked to be more considerate and I did, but, I have reduced it to 15 minutes a day and that's still too long.
Apparently it's not necessary to be in there that long and the rest of the family make sacrifices and go without only showering every other day and using sink and flannel in between, I hate this.

My parents don't have a lot of money but they do have 4 children and my mum chooses to stay at home meaning she chooses that we make sacrifices.
As the oldest, I'm the only one paying my way and don't feel it's unreasonable to shower for 15 minutes a day.
I get my parents choose not to so they can save money but I pay them a lot.
Do I stand my ground on this one and shower away or is 15 minutes ott for £100 a week.

then of course someone can't be in the shower with the door locked for half an hour.

She did this once 🙄

You sound unhinged!

Hello @tryinghere ,

YANBU

Just wanted to let you know that 15 minute showers are the norm in our house and we often have 2 a day!

We do not feel that is excessive at all!

x

I have got two rubbish knees and am old and still don't need 15 minutes to shower

That's because she's living at home, with her family and not some rental.
Although obviously, to some people that doesn't count.

Yes. Mine is 7 - 8 minutes. 15 minutes I total, including j dressing, drying, moisturising & tidying up.

People on this thread are insane with the outrage at 15 whole minutes.

It's bizarre! Plus who bloody well times their own kids in the shower?!

I completely agree. So strange

And YES to what @Yuckyyuckyuckity and @penjil said too!

I too do not understand 5' showers either!

And FYI we do not have a car so we feel pretty good about our 'green' credentials!

x

Do I stand my ground on this one and shower away or is 15 minutes ott for £100 a week.

Stand your ground?
You need to be on your own ground first.

The simpliest way to solve this is as follows

Ask how long they think is reasonable?
5 mins per day for example.

calculate the difference eg. 10mins
Then calculate the kw used eg. kw for a 10min shower...
Translate that to cost based on gas charges
Lets say its 20p for a 10min shower
20p x 7 = £1.40

Say you'll pay £101.40 per week and are glad you can consider it resolved.

If they still want to be awkward your options are:

• Gym membership and shower at gym
• Move out
• Shower less / shower faster

Are these 5 minute showers like the fabled MN chicken which serves 20?

Hope this doesnt backfire when your kids are choosing your nursing homes!

Is this serious or sarcastic? I genuinely can't tell

I don't shower, I use the leftover fat from one of those chickens to make my own soap, then use that along with a flannel and a thimble of water.

Do I win mumsnet?

It’s very dependant on water pressure. My shower at home is a bit rubbish and I’m in for ages. The one at work is super powerful and I can rinse out shampoo/ conditioner in under a minute.

Well, I think fifteen minutes is about right if you're washing your hair. Maybe five if not. But on Mumsnet everyone takes zero time in the shower and yet has supreme standards of hygiene.

I worked out that with a gas combi boiler my shower costs about fifty pence. So maybe offer to increase your rent by £5 a week to cover your showers?

Unfortunately though, it's their house and even though you pay you're bound by their requirements.

I wash my hair and shave . Exfoliate etc in about 5 minutes.

The bathroom would be full of steam and mould if it was any longer. Are others also waiting for the bathroom in that time?

The water meter and heating costs need to be consider too

@tryinghere I think your whole approach is a bit entitled. £24k is more than enough to live away from home (as a lodger or house share at least), so £100 a week all in is very favourable.
I suspect part of the problem is your ferr we long that you’re entitled to this, I’m pretty sure there will be other ways in which you aren’t pulling your weight as an equal partner in the home.

If I wash hair then not less than 20 mins, otherwise around 10 mins. But then sometimes I feel like standing under hot water for longer, say if didn't have a good night sleep or feel tired or whatever other reasons. I have just never been in a situation where shower time is dictated that way, nor would I imagine to dictate it myself.

You certainly do - but only if you don't use a handbag of any sort, just a Lidl carrier bag, and you only wash your sheets every four weeks.

Exactly. Surely, the "entitlement" to wash yourself with dignity and be left the F alone is not that much???
I wonder how some PPs do it, five minutes in a shower.
Personally, my husband and I take baths.
Horribly entitled.
🙄

Grow up @NotSayingImBatman.

15 minutes! What on earth do you do in there? I wash my hair in the shower every day and take 4 minutes. That is plenty of time to wash thoroughly.

Nope, sorry, you're not matching @mrsdineen2